(Closed) Were/Are You Afraid of Delivery?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Were/are you afraid of delivery? Was it worse than anticipated?
    Yes, I was afraid, but it wasn't as bad as I'd anticipated : (18 votes)
    30 %
    Yes, I was afraid, and it was as bad as I'd expected : (9 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, I was afraid, and it was worse than I'd expected : (12 votes)
    20 %
    No, I was not afraid, and it was actually not as bad as I'd anticipated : (6 votes)
    10 %
    No, I was not afraid, and it was just as I'd expected : (5 votes)
    8 %
    No, I was not afraid, but it was worse than I'd expected : (2 votes)
    3 %
    None of the above (explain below) : (9 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I was afraid, but then I read good books that calmed me down and I was ready for a natural birth. It went out the window when they had to induce me, and the whole experience was worse than what I had expected.

    We are being told that our bodies are meant to do that and that it will be ok, but we are not so well prepared to deal with situations when it does not turn out so well. As a result, I felt like a failure and it took a while before I could enjoy the fact that I had a perfectly healthy, adorable baby and that I was healing pretty well from the c-section.

    So my piece of advice is, educate yourself and don’t be unnecessarily afraid, but try to also get familiar with scenarios where all does not go smoothly so that you don’t panic and feel bad if it happens to you.

    Post # 18
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    @inky_1:  Don’t cry πŸ™‚ Everybody’s delivery are different, just relax! You will be fine when that time comes! 

    Post # 19
    Member
    4323 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I wonder if there isn’t some revisionist history involved in the polls.

    I want to know the recency of the births to the women who say it isn’t as bad as they thought, vs. the ones who thought it was WORSE.

    Post # 23
    Member
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @StuporDuck:  

    I had my son 3 years ago, and I can still remember the pain like it was yesterday. ha.

     

    @inky_1:  

    Be afraid, be very afraid!!!

    jk, of course. πŸ™‚ For me, it was almost unbearable. I always thought I had high tolerance to pain as well.But, I had never experienced anything of the sort. I had back labour though, my son was sitting the opposite way until the end. SO that could be also why. Who knows, all deliveries are different! My sister said hers weren’t that bad, so you could have somehting like that too. Oh, some women apparently even can have orgasms while they give birth.

    Post # 24
    Member
    1497 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m an anxious person so I was a bit antsy leading up to it. I had a scheduled induction. When that first real, true contraction hit after they broke my water…I was petrified. I actually, literally begged my son’s father to just take me home and we could come back the next day and try it again because I wasn’t ready. He laughed because he thought I was joking. I was serious. Dead serious.

    All that being said…I got my epidural pretty early and had the most wonderful birthing experience after that. There was some intense pain but nothing too unbearable. My OB was a big proponent of laboring down so I only had to push twice.

    Post # 26
    Member
    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Apparently I’m the odd-ball but the thought of giving birth doesn’t scare me at all.

    Post # 27
    Member
    4323 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @Cash000:  Eww, an orgasm with birth? I’d hate the idea of my child doing that to me. Gross gross gross gross.

    Post # 28
    Member
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I have two kids (2 years and 5 months).  I was definitely scared with my first; I even told my husband at like 37 weeks that birth is not humanely possible and there was no way I could do it.  He kindly told me to suck it up because it was too late to change my mind.  πŸ™‚

    Birth was not nearly as bad as I thought it would be.  In the moment, it totally sucked, but it was a momentary pain and the end result completely overshadowed the sucky parts.  My second time I felt a lot more confident and had another really great experience.  Remember that birth is literally the shortest part of the whole journey of parenthood.  And it’s the only part that you have a definitive end time on, since most doctors will only let you labor for a certain amount of time.  In the long-term, birth is a really short moment compared to the months and years of creating a baby and raising it.

    Post # 29
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    @inky_1:  Don’t worry, WB is going to be here for you when that happens πŸ˜‰ Hugs!

    Post # 31
    Member
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @StuporDuck:  It’s called a “Birth-gasm” and I can’t find any credible sources that say it’s real.  Darling Husband thinks it hilarious to tease me about how easy childbirth is.  “If you can birth-gasm it can’t be THAT bad, right?”  No, crazy man, it’s called labor, not vacation! 

    My thought is that it probably will be very painful, but millions and millions of women have done this before. I might not be the strongest woman in the world, but I’m also not the weakest.  I just keep telling myself that my body was designed to do this and that one day (hopefully!) of pain will be MORE than worth it when our LO is in our arms! Still scared though, don’t let my post fool you:)

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