(Closed) Were/are you worried your SO wont be a natural at parenting?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My fiancé is a great dad, but is a way different dad then i saw him being. We just had our son one year ago and to say it’s been devastating to our relationship is putting it lightly. Kids definitely take their toll on your romantic lives. 

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, neither of us have ever change a diaper, swaddled, fed, or burped a baby.  Neither of us really want to hold babies and feel awkward around babies and newborns.   We don’t want to talk baby-talk to any babies.  We don’t like to play with children.  We actually don’t like babies or children at all.  And yet, we’re having a baby now and I have no doubt we’ll get a crash course in all that stuff very quickly.  I think the key to being a good parent is lots of love and being involved.  Inexperience will quickly be overcome once the baby arrives.  I’m sure we’ll go from never have changed a diaper to being pros at it in days.  As long as you have no doubt that your husband will be involved in the day-to-day care and love the baby, you have nothing to be worried about.

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

allyfally:  i knew before my son was born that my now H would be a GREAT dad but a BAD parent on sone parts. The ONLY negatives i have are i bath, change diapers every day. He wont. BUT he DOES play with him during bath time, help get him dry and dressed (hes at the crawl away faze). H will feed, play, put to bed, do laundry and dishes or cook. 

Some wives wouldnt put up with it. But honestly, its more moments i have with my son. plus i know things get done to my standards. And it wont change my son and his relationahip when hes older. My H tries. And thats what matters most to me.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Karma_k88:  yes!! YES it does! His job does enough as it is!! But adding a baby?! Omg! Romanic totally gone for the most part!

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m not at all worried about either my husband or I. Neither of us have much experience with babies or small children but LOTS of people are in the same boat and you just learn as you go.

I’m sure we will both be tested at times and wonder what the heck we have gotten ourselves into but THAT is just a part of parenting. I doubt even the most experienced of parents would honestly tell you that they went in to it knowing everything they could and being prepared for any situation.

 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

allyfally:  I worry that our random personalities will seriously damage a child. My Fiance are kids at heart but the way we act at home is different than everyday life. The thing with kids is they will always be there and are bound to see our behavior. Example- I believe that when we have children I should no longer hang on to his foot and have him drag me around the house. We also will probably not be able to have nerf gun fights or water fights in the house. And I probably shouldn’t use the bath crayons to write him a nice love note on the shower next to a 5 ft tall penis that covered the entire shower door. Im sure your husband will be fine I think a lot of people learn things even if they have that natural instinct. Parenting is tough no matter what someone will think you are an awesome parent but there is also always going to be someone who judges you

Post # 53
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

allyfally:  I’m not worried about it all – Darling Husband is AMAZING with kids, they love him. My Brother-In-Law was jealous when he saw pics/video of my nephew interacting with Darling Husband because he was so much more responsive to Darling Husband.

I think everyone gets the parenting thing – especially when it’s their own kid.  I know a lot of dads who had no experience with babies who were really nervous who said once the baby was born they just got it, something clicked and it was ‘I’m a dad’.  Not to say they haven’t had diaper mixups and made mistakes, we all do.  But I’ve yet to meet someone who says ‘i don’t feel like a parent’ or ‘i just don’t get this’ after their child arrived.

Post # 54
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Honey bee

While my Darling Husband doesn’t have much experience with babies, he has been teaching a few years and works with kids a lot. He is absolutely wonderful with them, better than me actually, lol. So I am not super concerned at this point. But only time will tell.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Darling Husband was the same way, he didn’t even really like holding his nephews when they were born. He is an amazing dad now. We have a 6 year old and a 4 month old, and it just came naturally to him. I think it’s different when it’s your own child. 

 

Post # 56
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2017

puppyfarts22:  Totally agree!

He’s going to be amazing – he has a huge family and tons of experience with kids. I’m the one who hides from holding newborns…

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