- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Bit of background: My mostly local guest list is currently at 115, and with our small venue it turns out our limit is 85 (I thought we had a bit more space) and I was freaking. out. I would feel better for a few hours, then start to think about it too much and it would all happen again.
One of the ideas we kicked around to get the numbers down was going childless, but I had a cousin that tried to do this (granted he had a much bigger venue) and half the family was up in arms about it so I was terrified that would happen to me and didn’t mind the kids anyway. To make sure that each guest regardless of age had a good time, and in part to juggle people around so as not to cramp everyone in we are hiring event nannies to come and entertain the wee ones. I wanted to make sure that parents would use the service, so I decided to call my Aunt and Uncle (who were upset regarding the cousin debacle last year) and ask for their input. I wanted them to be aware we’d have the service, and also answer questions, etc. The following conversation ensued:
Me: Hey Aunt. We’ve decided to hire event nannies so that the kids have a great time and you don’t have to worry about watching them…is that something that you’re interested in utilizing?
Aunt: Yeah, that sounds good! You don’t have to do that though, I mean if it’s going to cost you a lot of money.
Me: Oh no, it’s cool. We just want to make sure that everyone is comfortable and enjoys themselves.
Aunt: Well, sounds like a great idea to me! So how’s wedding planning going?
Me: Pretty good! I’ve been having a good time. The only source of stress really has been the space. We’ve got 85 slots and about 115 on the guest list, so it’s a bit of an issue but no big deal. It’ll work itself out!
Aunt: Oh, yeah I can see how that’s stressful. Well, if it helps we can just leave the kids at home and that’s four more slots for you.
Me: (at this point I nearly dropped the phone) …..really? I mean, I know how expensive babysitters are –
Aunt: No, (my cousin) is old enough to babysit and she’s very responsible. So if you want, it can just be me and Uncle. I’ll tell you what, go ahead and think about it, and get back to me when the date gets closer. Just let me know!
Me: …..I….wha….wow, thanks!
Oh man, HUGE relief washed over me!!!!! The main people that I was worried wouldn’t want to come offered to leave their children at home so I could have more space. That is just….way too cool. I mean, that’s a huge relief and great news. It also means that other parents with older children might be okay doing the same thing and might be totally understanding of the space issue. So we’re going to call the people with kids and work with it on a case by case basis. I think I’ll miss having my cousins there, but two of them are young enough that they never remember me when I see them, and the other two are old enough that they would most definitely be bored since they’re too old for the nannies..
I’m just….so relieved.