Post # 32
What was wrong with her sharing the idea? She is spreading the word which might do something. Weddingbee is a large enough community that MAYBE more than a couple brides will have seen this that wouldn’t have before and MAYBE they will follow suit, MAYBE judges and state representatives will get thousands and thousands of letters because this idea was passed along…
I think you are being overly judgmental for no apparent reason, this website is for sharing ideas and that is simply what OP did.
OP: I think that is an awesome idea, one I will definitely consider when the time comes, sadly, I think Texas will be a hard state to win over… So I’ll need to send all of the support I can.
Post # 33
I just still find it so odd that it is legal in some states but not others. I can plan my wedding in any state I want and it makes me sad that other couples are not able to do so.
Post # 34
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I hate to continue the debate and usually drop out of threads that get like this, but I’m just going to say one more thing.
This kind of thing does change hearts and minds. I find the situation frustrating as well, but I’ll repeat that people will do what they can to show support for social issues that don’t directly effect them. I’m not flying to Uganda and protesting the gay murder bill (or writing letter after letter to congress), but I think it’s horrible what is happening – worse than marriage inequality in the US. Still, I do what I can to raise awareness, even if it’s just sending e-mails to my friends and family. It’s frustrating not to have the same rights as others, but getting angry at people for a nice gesture doesn’t help them continue to want to side with the cause, you know? 🙂
I do understand your frustration, because it does directly effect me, and I wish more people would stand up for me in ways that do create change (and honestly, I’m tired of waiting and being treated like a second class citizen), but there’s no reason to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Think of the clerk who will read the letter and be effected by it, the friends she shares the letter with, etc. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and in 50 years, people will be embarrassed for supporting marriage inequality.
Post # 35
love this. I’m also adding a white ribbon to the front of my bouquet to show support. easy, simple, but there.