(Closed) What a terrible idea this was.

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Are you not allowed to do anything? We’re waiting for marriage but we still have a lot of fun…

Post # 64
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@GreenEyedMoon: Personally, I don’t get it, so I don’t think I’ll be any help.  I’m in an LDR, so we go for 1-3 weeks or so without seeing one another at a time, and sometimes it’s fun for the oh-man-I-missed-you-so-much…but I don’t think six weeks is necessary for that.  I don’t think you’ll gain any excitement in a month that you wouldn’t gain in a week, especially if you’re accustomed to having fun all the time. Why don’t you have a little fun (but no sex) now then abstain from everything a week before? I feel like that’d be easier than quitting cold turkey and would help you re-learn some things about each other.

(For extra info: my SO isn’t my first… or my second! but he made a decision before we dated to wait for marriage so I’m on board and supportive!)

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Good luck at this, I couldn’t do it. Don’t you worry that sex the night of your wedding, while the build up will be great it won’t last at all. I know if DH and I didn’t have sex for over a month 2 minutes would be considered a long time if we made it that far.

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@GreenEyedMoon: Sounds like you definitely know your relationship– seems like this will work best for you! I wish you the best of luck and am glad I’m not in your shoes!

Post # 68
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@GreenEyedMoon- As long as it’s important to you too that is all that matters. And there is something about that night that no matter how many time you have before there is nothing to describe the feeling when it’s actually your husband.

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@GreenEyedMoon: I thin’s great you both commited to this, I find it a bit unfair when either the bride or groom make the decision against the other person’s wishes, but being a joined decision seems to be the kind of thing to bring the couple together.

I just can’t imagine how hard it must be when you’re living together.

Post # 72
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

That’s pretty long, haha, gook luck to you guys though and if it can last, i am sure your wedding night will rock!!!

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This post is hilarious, but you can do it (or rather not do it). Good luck! 

Post # 75
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Good luck! This may be Too Much Information, but the mister and I started using condoms once we got engaged (We had only been using BCP before) and decided to stop for lent (We are getting married the week after Easter) and the week after. I thought it would be really hard (pun intended) but I hate condoms so much it may not be that bad after all! Best of luck to you! You can (not) do it!

 

 

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