MemberUgh. This is HARD. (And I do mean that in the most literal way possible. FI said he couldn’t stand it anymore, and he just went downstairs to take care of it himself.)
Is it January 14th yet?
MemberThis whole topic is hilarious. Thank you for brightening my evening. In other news, I tried something similar when trying to wait to do it for the first time and well…. it made it happen quicker. And I was the one who asked for it. lol.
MemberEven so, we’ve been at it (or, rather, not at it) for two weeks and two days at this point, and we’ve only had sex twice! That’s incredible, since we average three to five times per week. We’ve lost a couple battles, but overall, I’d say we’re winning the war!
MemberI can’t imagine how hard it’ll be spending the entire wedding thinking you’ll get lucky in a few hours after weeks without getting some.
Again, good luck!
MemberUgh. I was almost late to work today because instead of waking up early and taking the train like I should have, I slept in for forty-five minutes and drove. I did that because when my alarm went off this morning, I was having a dream, and Fiance and I had *just* started having sex in it. When the alarm went off, I wanted to cry because I knew that was the most I’d be getting for weeks yet. So I turned the alarm off, closed my eyes, and finished having amazing dream sex.
…Which probably wasn’t the best idea anyway, since that’s how we ended up being bad on Friday. But it didn’t go badly today, I ended up on time at work, and I got dream laid (which is probably cheating, but I DON’T CARE). I call this morning a win.
MemberUgh. I’ve felt just awful all night because I’m officially freaking out about everything that still needs to happen for the wedding. I’m overwhelmed and feel like I’m doing everything alone. We’ve discovered that half our table numbers have gone missing. I hate our apartment and want to just burn the whole thing to the ground. I want cuddles more than ever, just to feel FI’s skin against mine, and I can’t do it. It sucks. It’s not even about sex this time; it’s about intimacy. I think this is the hardest it’s been so far. 🙁
MemberIf it makes you feel better, I haven’t seen my Fiance in 7 weeks! He lives in another country. However, if he lived here I wouldn’t be waiting!!! Also, just be careful because sometimes when couples do this the woman is more prone to bladder infections when you start having sex again. So, all I have to say is: Go pee after sex once you’re married hahahaha! Good luck! Only 3 more weeks til you get to have sex again!
MemberHey! TODAY is the day! When you’re back, let us knnow if you guys made it to the 14th 🙂 And if it was worth it!
MemberNO MORE ABSTINENCE FOR YOU !! heheh Have a greeeeeat day!!! and night 😉
MemberHa… So…. About this whole seven-week-long abstinence thing……….
I’m much more of a morning person than DH is, and so on Christmas Eve, I woke up before him. No surprise there. Since it was Christmas Eve, and I didn’t have anywhere to be, I grabbed my laptop and sat in bed while poking the internet for a little while.
Eventually, DH mumbled something and moved a bit, and I thought he might be waking up. He rolled over and started to cuddle with me, and he gave me a kiss. After a moment, he grabbed my hand and put it on certain things of his that just so happened to be very hard.
To make a long story short, I tried to stop him for a little while, but I was weak, and he kept insisting. After about forty-five minutes of delay, we both got naked, and we were about to go at it, but then he stopped, fell over, and moaned “NOOOOO!!!!”
…And then I hugged him, and he said screw it, and then he did. 😀
Afterward, he exclaimed, “No more of this! No more! None!” He was very loud, and the statement sounded very final. I pouted my lip at him because I thought he meant no more sexy times. He kissed me again and clarified it. “No more of this abstinence business. I’ve missed you too much. I can’t handle this anymore.”
And, with that being said, we proceeded to hump like rabbits for the next two weeks. It was AWESOME.
We did stop again for the very last week, though we didn’t worry about being naked in front of each other. Three nights before the wedding, he woke up at some point feeling very horny, and he tried his best, but I actually managed to say no that time.
I do kind of regret not being stronger and holding out the whole seven weeks. I feel like it was one of the more important pieces of preparation for our wedding, and I just didn’t get it done. I wonder if our wedding night would have felt different if we had managed to stay abstinent the whole seven weeks. As it was, we had sex twice, and it was great, but it just didn’t feel as special as I had hoped it would.
…At the same time, though, sex is awesome, and I was going crazy without DH’s penis. Thank goodness that I can now play with it whenever I want!
…Totally going to jump him as soon as I get home from work now. 😀
MemberHahahahahahaha! Great update! 😀 Am very happy for you both. Your positivity is fabulous! Congrats on finding a man who obviously cannot get enough of you, who matches you in the bedroom, in humor and in life 😉
MemberI think I might suggest this to Fiance about 2 months before the wedding.. I’m sure it won’t happen though 😛
MemberYou’re brave. I could never do this. What am I saying? We could never do this. We’re both freaks. 
Memberi think we will try to abstain for 1 week or 2 weeks max. oh god this is going to be tough.
MemberWe abstained for 2 1/2 months before the wedding. We tried it on our own and that lasted about 3 days. Then we went to premarital counseling and the pastor requested we abstain since we were already living together. We weren’t expecting that, but we did it. We had a plan to sleep in separate rooms if necessary but it never came to that.
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