Post # 1
LOVED my wedding day. Overall, there isn’t anything I would change, and I certainly wouldn’t change my groom! To me, it was perfect. That said, I think I would have enjoyed myself more on the day if I’d paid better attention to the advice people were offering! Looking back, here’s the advice I wish I’d listened to:
– Be specific with your photographer about shots you want. Wish we’d been more specific with our photographer about catching the details of our day–the food, the programs, the invitations, the escort display, the bathroom baskets, the out-of-town bags, and the cocktail hour goodies. He caught some awesome stuff, but I wish I had shots of those special details I worked so hard to create!
– Be firm about what you want in the alterations department. The girl who did my dress alterations wanted to tighten down the straps on my dress so that they were a little uncomfortable even in the fittings, which resulted in a day of very painful shoulders and a lot of photos where I’ve actually taken the straps off and am sitting there with them hanging around the tops of my shoulders. Ah well.
– When planning the timeline, give yourself more time than you think you’ll need. We were running behind schedule the whole day because things just took longer than we thought they would. Ended up rushing the cake cutting and dessert course of our meal and also started the dance late because of this. It was alright in the end, but it meant I didn’t get to savor some of the moments.
– Get comfortable shoes to wear that you actually like. Waited till the last minute on this and ended up wearing this horrible pair of black fuzzy slippers during the first dance. Wouldn’t have been a problem except the photographer caught a “dip” moment where the slipper is unceremoniously sticking out at the bottom! Turns out people actually will see the footwear you’re wearing in the evening… I’d have chosen more carefully with that knowledge.
Ah well. Such is life! What advice did you wish you’d paid better attention to?
Post # 3
@UK Bride: Wait, I TOTALLY want to see that fuzzy slipper picture! I think that is fun!
Post # 4
Ha ha! The photo also has this random balloon in it that the best man had brought in during the speeches (DH has a slight phobia of balloons–hates it when they pop unexpectedly–so they brought a few in just for him…). ANYway, here is Wal-Mart’s finest bedroom slipper making a grand debut:
Post # 5
Thank you SO much for that advice! I’m definitely bookmarking this post to come back to 🙂 I actually think that the slipper looks pretty – you can’t really tell it’s a fuzzy slipper and it just looks like a ballet flat to me!
Post # 6
That the small things I was stressing over really didn’t matter as much as I thought they did.
I do wish I had pointed the photographer in the direction of my family and asked for certain shots as so many had been missed and some family are missing altogether.
Post # 7
I didn’t really get a ton of advice, so it’s not like I chose not to listen to anything in particular. But I really wish I had approached my dress purchase and alteration process differently. IT was the most important thing to me about having a big wedding (sorry, but it’s true) and it just didn’t end up the way I wanted it because I wasn’t aggressive enough with the dress shop. They had it come in super late, only a couple weeks before my wedding and it was too small (their fault). They were super mean to me and wouldn’t listen to anything I was saying about how I wanted it altered. It still looked great, but I see a lot of photos where it was too loose around my stomach and my heart sinks 🙁
Post # 8
Decide what’s important beforehand and then don’t sweat the stuff that’s not on that list. Day-of, I did this really well and enjoyed everything, but I struggled with it both before and after the wedding. The “I wish-es” and “but if I could just squeeze this last detail in-s” and the the “If I could do it over again, I would have-es” will kill you. You can’t do everything, and some things won’t go exactly as planned.
Post # 9
totally agree with this. I used to get so upset when people would say stuff like, “Don’t sweat it, everything will be perfect–you’ll see!” But turns out they were right. Things that I was freaked out about just didn’t matter like I thought they would when it came down to the day.
Post # 10
Be willing to say ‘no’ more often.
No to drama, no to personal privacy invation just to keep the peace, pretty much no to everything people tried to ask or do with me during the engagement.