Post # 1
I’ve written a few posts in regards to where I am heading and the confusion I feel at the moment, I am currently 24 with a Degree, married and just about to move in a new house ( however still job searching!). I’ve had a few different opinions when it comes to advice so I’d like to hear from people who have been there and done it..what advice would you give your 24 year old self looking back now? Is anything you wish you had done?
I just spent 4 years at university, stressed, in debt and working hard, Now I feel I finally have time to go out and enjoy myself and let my hair down a bit to be honest. I recently got told by a 40 year old that after 21 I shouldnt be going out anymore and how he ‘had a morgage and was married by 21’ – (even though I think things are a little different in this era – people dont tend to get married this young).But this advice made me go in to panic mode like my youth was over or something. I’m not saying I want to go out getting drunk every night – I just want to be able to enjoy some nights out with my friends and with my husband which I dont think is a crime as I thought 24 was young? I dont know, his advice made me go in to a mini panic like I needed to have everything sorted and solved by now.. I only graduated university in septemeber!
Just want to know other peoples advice and opinions on this age..its a confusing one for me at the moment!
This topic was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by Mrstobe26.
This topic was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by Mrstobe26.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2015 - Bellagio, Las Vegas
Enjoy it before you get older or start having kids. Soon you will be going to bed at 9 p.m. on weekend nights. ;D
I had a kid at 19 and was divorced at 23, done with college at 24. I am now 25 and getting remarried this year. Live it up before you have more responsibilities! I relish the ‘me’ time that I have now at 25. I do not feel too old to go out every now and then at all.
So my advice is to live life the way you want and don’t listen to those folks who lived their life the way they saw fit. They aren’t you and you aren’t them. 😉
Post # 3
I’m only 25 so I don’t know that I’ll have the type of advice that you’re looking for but I don’t think you should listen to that person about going out!
You can be a responsible person (with a house and marriage) and still go out! We go out a few times a month with our friends as do most people I know in our age group without kids.
24 IS young! I mean, good for them for having everything figured out at 21 but it’s absolutely okay to not have everything figured out. I sure don’t!
Post # 4
Travel. Travel NOW..pack your bag and go!
That’s really my only advice. I had kids young. My life didn’t stop but you slow down a lot and your priorities change .
The one thing I wish I had done was travel.
Now my kids are older and I was getting excited to start traveling. .but I’m going to start ttc again. (New relationship and my age is really pushing it). I was all hyped to start traveling but I just had a Mc and it made us realize how important a baby would be to us, more important than a few trips.
So get out there and see the world!
Post # 5
Mrstobe26: People didn’t get married that young in the 40 year old’s era either. Probably some of his high school and college classmates are just getting married now – i could see if he was 80.
Post # 6
i echo traveling big time. i traveled the US around that time but wish I had been able to see the world! I know I still can, now with my best friend, but if you get the chance to go anywhere, take it! Otherwise, I wouldn’t give my younger self any advice. Maybe start saving money but thats about it. I really was able to just have fun, do what I wanted without checking in with anyone and make mistakes. Even the worst things I did made me who I am today, the woman my wonderful Fiance fell in love with so I wouldn’t change anything at all. Just get a job, any job, and do what you want!!! I say get any job, even one not in your field if you have to because you will be able to apply what you have learned and the experience you gain from working in general is invaluable. Good luck!
Post # 7
I would tell my 24 year old self to stop trying to grow up and just enjoy being 24. At that age, I was really anxious to get married and have kids and a house and all the “adult” things that it would really stress me out that I didn’t have them. Each year I aged, I got a little more anxious. Now I’m 32, got married last year and we’re trying to have a baby, and on this end I can see the benefit of waiting.
This doesn’t really apply to you since you are already married and bought a house, but you are only young once, and you can’t re-do it. I regret not going out more and enjoying my youth. I still consider myself pretty young but it’s a slap in the face to stop getting carded, let me tell you!
As far as your career, think long and hard about what you want to do. After college, I chased the money and for 10 years I was in an indusry that I absolutely hated, and going to work every day was awful. I finally quit and I’m so much happier. I do envy people with careers that they truly love. Once you have a lot of experience in a particular industry, it can be really hard to switch over because of the competition from people who already have relevent experience, and being overqualified for entry-level in a new field. And it’s really hard to give up the salary that you’re making after a few years in, even if you’re miserable.
At 24, I didn’t realize how much job satisfaction really matters when you’re going to be working for multiple decades in your life. I wanted as much money as possible, and I was a little naive and figured I could handle anything. It’s amazing how much hating your job can really affect your life.
Don’t worry about what other people think. One thing I’ve learned is that people will judge you no matter what you do in life so screw ’em.
Post # 8
I just want to say that I bought my property when I was 21 and have often wondered if I would have been better off waiting another 5 years to be locked into a mortgage. Sometimes you actually would benefit more by enjoying life when you’re younger without the responsibilities of bills.
Plus someone who got married young and didn’t go to college has completely different responsibilities than someone who went to college and married later in life. It’s about priorities. Perhaps if you weren’t in college then maybe you would have bought a house. Maybe you would have used to money to travel instead. Nobody will ever know. It’s easy to say you could have done this and you could have done that when her situation was completely different to yours. I mean you had other things to worry about and now you’re free to make a decision.
My friends all went to uni (I deferred my degree but never actually ended up going). They were partying every weekend while I was working my ass off to pay off my mortgage. Now they have all graduated and are struggling to find jobs and the ones that have jobs and bought homes are just starting to pay them off. I on the other hand are now almost half-way through paying off my house and have gotten myself in a comfortable position to relax a little and have the fun I never used to be able to…but now because my mates are buckling down and starting life, I have nobody to experience stuff with. Do you get what I mean? Everyone will be at different points in their lives so nobody can tell you where you should be in yours.
Post # 9
Mine woukdce been “don’t marry him. He’s not the one”
Post # 10
go to argentina. no seriously. go now.
that’s what i would say.
Post # 11
I WISH I could go back to talk to my 24 year old self. I would tell me:
- when you get a bad gut feeling about your job, get out while you still have good options and it’s on your terms.
- just because you’re making lots of money with little debt doesn’t mean you should stop living like a college student. Don’t add to your debt, and build a hefty savings while you have tons of disposable income.
- quit renting, buy a house.
- he WILL break your heart, but it will be 3 of the best years of your life. And you will meet a MAN who knows how to treat you.
obviously some of these wouldn’t apply to you, but I wish I would have known those 4 things when I was younger.
Post # 12
indycolts3990: thank you!
I know, this guys opinion is by 25 you should stop going out drinking completly.. Which is mad. Here in the UK we can be 18 and drink but a lot of the clubs you have to be 21 for entry and his saying you should be at home with your slippers on at 21 and certainly 25. I feel like ive hardly had chance to have FUN with my husband or my friends yet because I had my head stuck in books at uni!
I dont know, his advice scared me I guess and made me panic!
Post # 14
I’m only 26, so not so far removed from 24 but here’s what I think…
A little background…My 24th year started out very difficult, I had just gone through the break up of a 6 year relationship that I moved thousands of miles for. I was alone with nobody and living totally on my own for the first time. I went through a huge depression and a thoroughly self-destructive phase (drinking, partying, smoking…), but eventually I landed on my feet and then right before I turned 25, I met the man I would marry.
My advice would be that sometimes you make mistakes, but they make you who you are. I made a lot of decisions in my 24th year, some of them were mistakes, some not, but all of them got me to where I am today. So I guess my advice is to keep moving. Don’t get stuck, do something, it might end up being the wrong thing, but at least you did something.
Post # 15
MrsBeck: This is what i thought as well!
My husband has a brother who is 26 – 27 this year and He is just party person, Always going out getting drunk, I think the only fear with him is he hasnt moved out of home yet and he hasnt got savings, so i undestand the concern there but at the same time I feel well he is only 26 he might as well let his hair down whilst he is young even though he should be thinking about moving out soon really. But the person who lectured me was also lecturing him saying he shouldnt be going out AT ALL anymore because he is 26…apparnetly its ‘OK’ to do it in your early twenties in his eyes but he had his slippers on at 21 LOL.