(Closed) What age did you stop partying and grow up?

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 60
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Busy Beekeeper

I didn’t party that much in college but made up for lost time in my early/mid 20s. By “partying” – I mean I would get drunk at lunch (I worked in book publishing so this was somehow kind of an acceptable practice) and then go to happy hour the moment the clock struck 5 and stay there until 11 or 12. On the weekends, I would get plastered and stay out til last call, often after day drinking. All my friends and my then-bf loved drinking and partying so that was just kinda how we rolled. 

I began to slow down probably when I was about 26 or 27, which is when I started experiencing hangovers for the first time. Suddenly I could no longer get wasted on a weeknight and be remotely functional at work the next day. Getting drunk meant spending most of the next day in a state of total agony, so I took it down many notches. 

I am 31 now and still love the booze, but pretty much never get drunk anymore and def never go “out” like I used to. I will usually have a glass or two of wine after work and maybe a cocktail or two on the weekend. My favorite time to drink is by myself, when I’m cooking dinner – it’s like my “me” time lol and I just love putting on some good tunes, having some wine and partying by myself while DH wraps up his work for the day. DH is not a big drinker at all so that has prob also contributed to my slowing down, but def the biggest factor is aging and hangovers!

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m with the 4-5 previous posters that say that maturity does not equal not drinking. That said, Priorities gradually evolve. I don’t think it’s a light switch that clicks on and off from being a child to be an adult. Little changes happen like walking into a bar and thinking “Nope. Too old for this.” I also think “grow up” means different things for everyone. I’m 27 and consider myself a bona fide grown up. I have a career, a savings account with money in it I don’t touch, a plethora of recipes and serving dishes I can happily bring to a family gathering, my husband and I go on vacations regularly, and if I got pregnant tomorrow, no one would doubt that we could handle it. That all said, I still go for drinks with my girlfriends and maybe have a few too many once in a while. I like going to bars with dancing and listening to loud bad pop candy music. It’s happened more than a few times that after a bonfire at a friend’s place, we’ve fallen asleep at 3am because neither my husband not I can drive after drinking all night. I don’t think we’ve ever intended to get drunk, but hey we’re all having a fun time and someone brought tequila back from their Mexican vacation that we all had to sample. I would gladly sleep in all day if I could!  It’s a changing tide so unique to the individual no one should compare themselves. For me, I think finding a partner definitely helps take the foot of the gas of the partying lifestyle, but it wasn’t an immediate change. For the first year of our relationship, we still went out almost every weekend. I think once we started living together, we would go for a few drinks and come home or not go at all. There’s a whole other layer of being extroverted and liking crowds and new people verses being introverted and not liking big parties and loud bars. There’s also the layer of being single verses having couple friends, having kids, what kind of an area you live in, there’s too many factors. This whole issue of maturity and growing up is too complex for so simple a question or so rudimentary a metric as “how old were you…”. 

Post # 62
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I sprung from my mothers womb a fully grown 80 year old woman. Never partied or drank or anything like that, but I will mess you up in a mosh pit.

Post # 63
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i was never a big partier to get drunk.  but i did drink socially and go to clubs until i was in my late 20’s.  i had a full time job out of college so i was never sleeping through the day.

even on nights when i would drink, the next morning i would usually get up early and go biking riding or for a run.

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2021 - Long Island, NY

I stopped going to clubs and staying out until 4am when I was about 23-24. Now that I’m a mom “partying” definitlely isn’t on my priority list but I absolutely enjoy catching up with friends and drinking socially. I also have friends who are busting their asses off, surgical residencies, demanding careers and they party about 3-4x a week and there’s no way you could call any of them irresponsible or not consider them adults so like pp’s have already said just because it’s not what you’re interested in doesn’t make you a superior adult in some way.

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I will never stop partying to a certain extent. I work a full time job, volunteer with various organizations, work out, save and invest money, cook, and clean–but I still make time to party now and then, and I always will!

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

It’s funny how your prospective changes as you grow older. I love going out with friends for dinner and drinks (almost never “party” in the sense of going to clubs) and feel it’s a necessary part of my life. I am also very domestic and couldn’t be more of an adult if I tried. At age 42 (I feel that I’m plenty young and look vibrant and youthful. At least in my own eyes. Lol.), being adult to me means having balance — always taking care of responsibilities, keeping in touch with friends, going out regularly, doing cultural activities reguarly, and traveling as much as I can afford. I am definitely into LIVING my life — but in a sustainable way.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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bridetobespring2018 :  I was never a partier… but I have spent countless nights playing video games at home. To answer your question about going to bed late I feel like 28 was the cut off for me. After i 28 if I am not asleep by 1am i feel like i have been hit by a bus the next day even if i get to sleep in. 

Post # 68
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Busy bee

I’m 27 and I work in finance. DH is 31 and a doctor. We still go out and drink plenty.

It’s a little more expensive than it used to be (thanks, NYC cocktail prices) so we stay in more often, but we bought a Nintendo Switch simply to play drunk driving with the new Mario Kart game like a couple of college kids. 

Post # 69
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Busy bee

I partied in college a lot and for a little while after I graduated, but I think I really toned it down around 25 when I got my first corporate ‘adult’ job and moved in with my bf (now DH).  Once I got on a normal sleep schedule and had to get up early every day, I found it hard to stay up late drinking even on weekends.  I still like to drink, but I can’t pound vodka redbulls till 3am and be fine the next day anymore; usually 2 margaritas or a couple glasses of wine is enough for a headache in the morning 😛

Post # 70
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Busy bee

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raliel :  I’d be lying if I said DH and I didn’t do that frequently too!

Post # 71
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Sugar bee

23ish

Post # 72
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Bee Keeper

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bridetobespring2018 :  I grew up when I got pregnant with my first.  But then again I wasn’t much of a partier before my first and now nearly four years later, I’m still as much as a grandma as I was prior to having children.

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

Husband and I are not drinkers or party-goers. We’re both introverts and I don’t like being in large social groups, even if I knew each person well individually. A nice day (or night) out with me would be just me and one other person. So boring, I know.

My best friend is dating a guy who is still hitting up clubs at 32 though. I personally think it’s time for him to find a full-time job and stop hanging out with college kids, but this could be an entirely separate weddingbee post. 

Post # 74
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Helper bee

I’d say 24-25. I recently went out for “girls night” bar hopping with some friends from college, I found it difficult and even exhausting. Just wasn’t my thing anymore plus I missed my husband! Haha

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