(Closed) What age did you stop partying and grow up?

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 75
Member
4259 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

View original reply
bridetobespring2018 :  I became more of a homebody when we bought our house last January (I was going on 25). We didn’t have too many wild and crazy late nights before, but we prefer to have dinner and drinks and still get home at a reasonable time, like 10-11pm. Midnight is pushing it after a long day of work (Friday night). Now that I’m on a regular, full-time schedule, I’m ready to go to bed by 10pm most nights because I’m getting up around 6-6:30am. My older sister likes to go out a bit later and when she asks us if we want to go out, we always complain about how late it is and usually don’t leave the house LOL  

Post # 77
Member
137 posts
Blushing bee

Eh. I was always a very calm “party goer”. I think I started trying alcohol at like 16 (not condoning it but it is the truth) but there was zero acting crazy. It was everyone sitting around a campfire/pool/kitchen chatting about nothing. We stayed put. Then I went to a few parties at colleges when I was in a senior in HS. But it was quite calm and no one drove around drunk. It was standing around drinking and talking. Maybe a keg stand but I did not do that either. Hate beer… still… So by the time 21 came around I still did not find the need to party hearty. Throughout this, no drugs or anything hardcore. Needless to say I was over “partying” by 23??? Now instead of going out and having drinks till midnight I am exhausted by the time I start. Plus through all this partying, 16-23 I got two degrees, moved out… worked and paid bills… blah blah etc etc

I was happily a “grandma” by then. I have been VERY stingy over the years with getting my 8 hours MINIMUM of sleep. :] Like if you say meet up at 8:30 I might come out but it is still questionable that I make be a flake. 

 

Needless to say, does this even COUNT as partying? 

Post # 78
Member
44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

View original reply
bridetobespring2018 :  I think I stopped like going to clubs and partying at like 27. I did get a real job at 23 after I finished college and I was always responsible. I would go out on weekends a lot though not usually every night or anything like that. Like fridays were movie nights and Saturdays were bar/club nights. Most people these days settle down in their late 20’s I think Mid twenties a lot of people still go out. I am now 31 and like none of my friends are like club hoppers anymore but maybe some were like 4 years ago etc. You are probably right at that age where half of your friends grow up and half of them are like a little more immature. I think when you find a partner that can also force you to grow up a little. If your friends are single or in new relationships you cannot blame them for going out and trying to meet people. I would try to suggest hanging out with your friends on Sunday afternoons and have a date night with your hubby on Saturday nights. Friday night I am usually exhausted from work so I stay in lol. I think once you get to 31 you will wish you went out a little bit more. Once you are like 29/ 30 it gets weird to go to clubs unless its for a bachelorette or  birthday. Then you will wish you were 25/26 again. You also have to realize that your friends that are younger at heart will feel out of place if they hit 28 and they are not engaged or married or have kids etc. I met my fiance at 26 we proabbly went out a little bit like a year or year and a half. After that we started to settle down. I got engaged at 29 and I am getting married this weekend. I feel like I was a little bit of late bloomer but never a party animal. Some people just have different timelines. It was sad/hard for me being engaged and expecting my friends to be by my side and most of them are now mothers and could not be bothered. Everything has pros and cons.

Post # 79
Member
2610 posts
Sugar bee

I’m 30 and we (Fi and I and friends) still go out pretty hard every now and then. However we both have demanding jobs and take courses/have hobbies so it’s obviously restricted to the weekend. It’s definitely changed over the years and I don’t party nearly as much as in my early 20s, but it wasn’t a change that happened over night. Gradually responsibilities built up and priorities shifted, but it’s not like they’re going to turn 26 and stop enjoying drinking and staying up late. Hell I still really like it, I just can’t handle the hangover when I have too much to do haha. 

Seems like you maybe need to branch out and find some new friends? Not to say you need to ditch your old ones, but it’s usually not something that happens over night and it’s important to find friends you relate to. 

Post # 80
Member
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2022 - Maui

iʻm 25 and iʻll say about the last 6 months or so Iʻve really slowed down the drinking and have been content just cruising at my house doing nothing. HOWEVER, iʻve always been SUPER responsible so iʻve never messed up anything because of partying. 

Post # 81
Member
7 posts
Newbee

As soon as I turned 30, no idea what that was about I think it was a mental thing that 30 is a good age to try and adult 

Post # 82
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

View original reply
nycsa :  THIS!

Post # 83
Member
10988 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

It seems to me, I was closer to 30 something before I calmed down and developed a capacity to be in long term relationships. I always knew I would never have kids and most men my age had them from previous marriages which acted as a built in preventative mechanism to keep me from getting very involved.

In any case, I never saw myself as married and part of a family.  More like the flamboyant, sophisticated, well traveled aunt with lots of great stories to tell.

Post # 84
Member
2988 posts
Sugar bee

I’m such an old soul!

I was super socially active in college and was even in a popular sorority but I’ve never had alcohol. It just doesn’t interest me. In college I balanced my weekends with watching Disney movies with friends, frat parties and reading. I’m super social and love going out, I just don’t drink.

So technically, I “grew up” super fast. I feel like I related to 30ish people when I was like 16 haha! I’m 25 now and pretty boring. My friends get crazy sometimes so I go out with them. Overall I sleep early and don’t party much. 

Post # 85
Member
1639 posts
Bumble bee

I toned down my lifestyle when I started grad med school early/mid 20s  because I studied all the time and couldn’t socialise and drink the way I used to. I definitely had “party friends” who sort of fizzled out xo 

Post # 86
Member
6496 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
bridetobespring2018 :  I’m 30, nearly 31. Agree with PP that partying and being mature/responsible are not mutually exclusive. I work full-time, am married, and have a clean and tidy apartment, homes cooked meals every night etc, but I still like to go out at weekends and let my hair down, and (shock horror!) I sometimes spend half the day in bed! Has nothing to do with maturity or lack of, I just like to let my hair down occasionally. 

Granted I might not go out as often any more, and I might choose to skip going for a night out if there’s something I want to do during the day at the weekend (the older I get the worse my hangovers get…), and when I do go out the types of places I visit might be different (think pub with live music, or classy cocktail bar as opposed to nightclub aimed at under 21s) but the whole staying in all the time has never and probably will never appeal. I work to live.  

Post # 87
Member
6496 posts
Bee Keeper

Also at the risk of sounding patronising I find the whole ‘I’m so mature, I don’t party!’ attitude vaguely amusing, and I don’t know, naive? I don’t know anyone who is what I would regard as truly mature who would think that not partying is a sign of maturity. 

My parents are in their 60s,and their friends are all in their 50s,and boy can they party! They are all home owners, most with their mortgages paid off, many with multiple properties, they have savings, work good jobs, have been married many years, but they still like to go out and get drunk and stagger home in the early hours. The idea of a 25 year old thinking that makes them immature or less responsible really makes me smile. 

Post # 88
Member
2610 posts
Sugar bee

View original reply
barbie86 :  My thoughts exactly! MOST of the more successful and ‘together’ people that I know still like to let loose and party, and still sometimes have lazy stay-in-bed days. What makes them successful and together isn’t just a lack of desire to party, it’s prioritizing other things when necessary. They’ll skip a party when they have a big meeting the next day, but not just because they’re ‘too mature’ for parties. 

Post # 89
Member
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Partying – probably 22, I started a full time professional career. 

I still drink socially and have my occasions for fun. But they’re pretty infrequent compared to my college days. 

Post # 90
Member
44 posts
Newbee

I used to go Thursday-Saturday my freshman and sophomore years in college, which I look back now and just shake my head because I can’t even fathom it. When I transfered schools my junior year, I stopped drinking essentially and then started again my senior year. Then I graduated, so I probably stopped going SUPER hard at almost 22ish? (I’m the youngin’ in my grades)

I had a few hiccups after college where I just went EXTREMELY too hard (like threw up on someone’s car…) but now at 25, it’s usually just “oops, drank nine mimosas at bottomless brunch on Saturday…should probably take a nap…” I did have a few “college-like” weekends, but I try to keep them to an absolute minimum now that I work a lot. 

The topic ‘What age did you stop partying and grow up?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors