- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
Eh. I was always a very calm “party goer”. I think I started trying alcohol at like 16 (not condoning it but it is the truth) but there was zero acting crazy. It was everyone sitting around a campfire/pool/kitchen chatting about nothing. We stayed put. Then I went to a few parties at colleges when I was in a senior in HS. But it was quite calm and no one drove around drunk. It was standing around drinking and talking. Maybe a keg stand but I did not do that either. Hate beer… still… So by the time 21 came around I still did not find the need to party hearty. Throughout this, no drugs or anything hardcore. Needless to say I was over “partying” by 23??? Now instead of going out and having drinks till midnight I am exhausted by the time I start. Plus through all this partying, 16-23 I got two degrees, moved out… worked and paid bills… blah blah etc etc
I was happily a “grandma” by then. I have been VERY stingy over the years with getting my 8 hours MINIMUM of sleep. :] Like if you say meet up at 8:30 I might come out but it is still questionable that I make be a flake.
Needless to say, does this even COUNT as partying?
I’m 30 and we (Fi and I and friends) still go out pretty hard every now and then. However we both have demanding jobs and take courses/have hobbies so it’s obviously restricted to the weekend. It’s definitely changed over the years and I don’t party nearly as much as in my early 20s, but it wasn’t a change that happened over night. Gradually responsibilities built up and priorities shifted, but it’s not like they’re going to turn 26 and stop enjoying drinking and staying up late. Hell I still really like it, I just can’t handle the hangover when I have too much to do haha.
Seems like you maybe need to branch out and find some new friends? Not to say you need to ditch your old ones, but it’s usually not something that happens over night and it’s important to find friends you relate to.
iʻm 25 and iʻll say about the last 6 months or so Iʻve really slowed down the drinking and have been content just cruising at my house doing nothing. HOWEVER, iʻve always been SUPER responsible so iʻve never messed up anything because of partying.
As soon as I turned 30, no idea what that was about I think it was a mental thing that 30 is a good age to try and adult
It seems to me, I was closer to 30 something before I calmed down and developed a capacity to be in long term relationships. I always knew I would never have kids and most men my age had them from previous marriages which acted as a built in preventative mechanism to keep me from getting very involved.
In any case, I never saw myself as married and part of a family. More like the flamboyant, sophisticated, well traveled aunt with lots of great stories to tell.
I’m such an old soul!
I was super socially active in college and was even in a popular sorority but I’ve never had alcohol. It just doesn’t interest me. In college I balanced my weekends with watching Disney movies with friends, frat parties and reading. I’m super social and love going out, I just don’t drink.
So technically, I “grew up” super fast. I feel like I related to 30ish people when I was like 16 haha! I’m 25 now and pretty boring. My friends get crazy sometimes so I go out with them. Overall I sleep early and don’t party much.
I toned down my lifestyle when I started grad med school early/mid 20s because I studied all the time and couldn’t socialise and drink the way I used to. I definitely had “party friends” who sort of fizzled out xo
Granted I might not go out as often any more, and I might choose to skip going for a night out if there’s something I want to do during the day at the weekend (the older I get the worse my hangovers get…), and when I do go out the types of places I visit might be different (think pub with live music, or classy cocktail bar as opposed to nightclub aimed at under 21s) but the whole staying in all the time has never and probably will never appeal. I work to live.
Also at the risk of sounding patronising I find the whole ‘I’m so mature, I don’t party!’ attitude vaguely amusing, and I don’t know, naive? I don’t know anyone who is what I would regard as truly mature who would think that not partying is a sign of maturity.
My parents are in their 60s,and their friends are all in their 50s,and boy can they party! They are all home owners, most with their mortgages paid off, many with multiple properties, they have savings, work good jobs, have been married many years, but they still like to go out and get drunk and stagger home in the early hours. The idea of a 25 year old thinking that makes them immature or less responsible really makes me smile.
Partying – probably 22, I started a full time professional career.
I still drink socially and have my occasions for fun. But they’re pretty infrequent compared to my college days.
I used to go Thursday-Saturday my freshman and sophomore years in college, which I look back now and just shake my head because I can’t even fathom it. When I transfered schools my junior year, I stopped drinking essentially and then started again my senior year. Then I graduated, so I probably stopped going SUPER hard at almost 22ish? (I’m the youngin’ in my grades)
I had a few hiccups after college where I just went EXTREMELY too hard (like threw up on someone’s car…) but now at 25, it’s usually just “oops, drank nine mimosas at bottomless brunch on Saturday…should probably take a nap…” I did have a few “college-like” weekends, but I try to keep them to an absolute minimum now that I work a lot.
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