(Closed) What age did you stop partying and grow up?

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 91
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Busy bee

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bridetobespring2018 :  I stopped shortly after I got engaged (age 23). I partied really hard between 18-20 but then school got really hard. Now that I’m 25 it’s hard to relate to others my age. I went to grad school and got a “big girl” job afterwards. Majority of the people my age aren’t as settled in their careers as I am. The crazy thing is majority of them have children and still party every weekend and stay out all hours of the night. I don’t have children yet but I’m always in bed by 10pm on the weekends haha

Post # 92
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Bee Keeper

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wolfeyes :  exactly! I’ve always had the sense to prioritise. During my A levels (I’m in the UK and the drinking age is 18) I was out every weekend without fail getting pretty damn wasted. But I only went out either Friday or Saturday, and I planned for the ‘lost time’ I knew there’d be by working my revision schedule around it. I got top grades, so, didn’t do me any harm…. Same went at uni, same goes now I work full time: I will actually go out mid-week, but only if I have a light day at work and can afford to be a bit tired (which is not often, but it does happen). 

I also think that part of maturity is recognising that people are different, not looking down on others because their lives and priorities are different, and so on. So to me those who think they are ‘superior’ because they never party are pretty immature. 

Post # 93
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Helper bee

I partied hard junior year of college and the summer before senior year. I am almost done with my senior year and have only gone out twice. Gaining 10 pounds from alcohol will put a stop to drinking pretty fast…!! I now just enjoy a glass of wine and relaxing with my FH!

Post # 94
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Around 22. Taking 18 hours of college credits will straighten one up.  That and realizing waking up feeling like crap and having no energy sucked.   I never drink anymore, even a glass of wine in the evenings now affects my energy level the next day.  Just not worth the price.

Post # 95
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Blushing bee

Meh, too soon in my opinion. Party all you can!

 

I calm down whenever I’m in a relationship. But partying has never stopped me from handling my responsibilities. Life is short and If i want to go out and dance, i don’t see any problem with that. 

Post # 96
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Busy bee

I haven’t stopped partying and I’m 27, have had an MA for 5 years, and work 50 hours a week. It’s really not that hard to balance the two. 

Post # 97
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Busy bee

I’m 30 and still party (disclaimer; I don’t get hangovers. Maybe thats part of it?). I didn’t party at all in my early 20s though; I was married to my ex who was super controlling and wouldn’t ‘let’ me go out. I had very few friends and frankly was afraid to go against my ex-husband.

My now-fiance and I love to go out and dance. We don’t (usually) get completely sh*tfaced but we do enjoy our drinks!

Post # 98
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Busy bee

Just because your friends enjoy partying doesn’t mean they haven’t grown up or they aren’t responsible. 

I get that partying isn’t your scene but everyone has differing interests. It’s what makes everyone different and interesting. They are entitled to enjoy themselves. 

You be you and let them be them. 

Post # 99
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Blushing bee

You can always have fun but the way you do it has to change. Usually that changes when you reach married life and kids and it should change no matter what in my opinion at young adult age, such as 21. You delay a good life by not being responsible early. Have fiun in an adult way, do not stay out too late, get drunk and do stupid things. Your body will thank you for it. 

Post # 100
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

At 23, the year I graduated from my second degree and got a grown up job (teacher). My first two years I worked non-stop developing lessons and marking; took all my evenings and weekends. Same as you, living with SO and dog…definitely felt like more of an adult than my friends at the time. People are catching up now. 

I still work a lot but it is more manageable now that I’ve had a few years experience and am not creating all of my lessons from scratch. I have never really felt the desire to go out for a late night again though haha. I like my life, and am not bored!! 

Post # 101
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Neither of us were into partying. We are both 21 bought our first home and got married a few months ago. Most of our friends  are in the same situation as us

Post # 102
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Probably around 8.

Post # 103
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Bumble bee

I know this is an old thread that has resurfaced. But I don’t like the notion of liking to party, staying up late and sleeping in is considered immature and you should grow out of it and become mature. If you like to go out and dance on a saturday night and still take care of your responsibilities during the week, how is that immature? It’s not for everyone and some people change and enjoy it less than the did when they were 18. But then again goign to a farmersmarket at 9am on saturday sounds like hell to somoene else where as it is mature thing to do for someone else.

Sorry, I have a problem when something completely fine is considered “immature” just because someone else does thing differently.

Post # 104
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Busy bee

I’ve never been a big partier. They were always draining for me and I always have way more fun getting drunk in smaller groups anyways. But I understand the feeling of having some friends the same age who love to party all the time. They don’t have the same lifestyle and responsibilities I have, though. It’s not them “not growing up,” it’s simply the life they choose to live, which is not wrong. It would be wrong if they did have responsibilities and ignored them to escape through hard partying. I’ve had friends like that too, which I’ve had to let go. 

Post # 105
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

43 year old checking in. We’re mostly homebodies but all that means is that the party comes to us. We have game/movie/sake tastings/beer tasting nights all the time. On the rare occasion, we do manage to venture out. Yesterday we went to an afternoon beer tasting, followed by a bonfire and then home for a sake nightcap. It’s not all booze soaked fun. Today we’re hiking out to see the snowy owls. As several posters have pointed out, it’s a silly concept, often held by younger people, that you must give up all fun and shenanigans once you hit a certain age to be considered a true grown up. Once you do grow up a little you actually realize that it’s the opposiite. The fun and shenanigans can be fit in between paying bills, holding down a job and other all around adult responsibilities. 

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