(Closed) What age did you/will you marry?

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: What age you will become or first became a MRS.?

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    42 and up. I'd keep going but limited space

  • Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We were both 26, though I was really close to turning 27.

    Post # 47
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I’ll be 24 and he’ll be 26 when we get married soon. Initially, we would have been 23 and 25, but we pushed back the wedding a couple of months due to two deaths in the family close to the first wedding date, so now we’ll both have just had birthdays.

    Post # 48
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    I feel like sometimes the Bee is just a big competition. You guys all seem to rush sooo much to get married, like if you dont get married fast it doesn’t count as much. It’s crazy and I think it’s only over here in the US/Canada. In Europe the average age for marriage is 30/31 for women and 32/33 for men and their divorce rate is sooo much lower at 25-30% vs 60% over here. Those europeans clearly have it right! They also have way smaller less formal weddings and I think it’s unheard of to do any of it on credit. We should try to be a bit more European I think if we want to turn back the breakdown of families

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    smithna87:  Definitely seems like a cultural thing, but people have all sorts of reasons to get married at whatever time in their lives. Just because someone is marrying young doesn’t mean they’re rushing.  My Fiance and I are 24 but we’ve been together for 3 years and living together for quite some time.  We are basically already married.  Plenty of people get married even earlier and have been together for many years so don’t jump to judgement so quickly.  I’m sure you have your reasons to get married later and others have their reasons to get married earlier.

    Post # 50
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    @smithna87. I think that only applies to western Europe…. cause in Eastern Europe where I’m from most women are married by 25 and men before 30. So me getting married at 32 and Fiance 40 was making me feel a bit weird cause I always though I would be married at least before 30 since I’m not in Eastern Europe but in Canada since I was 7 y.o. so my way of thinkingbis more “Canadian” than Russian/Ukranian.

    I like the western Europe way a bit more than the Eastern for sure. I definatelly think that marrying before 25 for women and before 30 for men is not a good idea. Ideally women 25-30 and men 30-35. But it really depends on the person, their maturity level, and culture and where they live. And the times…. 

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

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    loveisbrewing:  I think 3 years really isn’t very long, I do think people develop a lot in their late 20s, especially guys. I think it’s okay for a girl to marry 25 onwards, but guys I definitely think need to get to 28/29 before they make that jump. I know it *feels* like you’re basically married anyway, but, you arent! Getting divorced is expeeeeensive! 

    I think there’s a lot of slating of people who wait, and I think it’s from people who feel they have to justify themselves.

    Post # 52
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

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    ana2017:  I totally agree. I think there can be the problem though that you think you’re mature at whatever age and later realise you totally weren’t! Especially early 20s when you are first living ‘like an adult’. 

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    smithna87:   Thank you for sharing your opinion but this is the right choice for us.  I really don’t want to start a fight here but I think you should avoid making judgments about people without knowing anything about their lives.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We got married on our 6 year anniversary, May 9th 2015. I turned 31 about a month after and my husband will turn 40 about 7 moths after we got married. First marriage for both of us and no kids. As it is now we don’t want kids, but who knows if we change our mind? 😧

    Post # 55
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    My Fiance and I will both be 29 πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 56
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I’ll be 26 Fiance 28, although both only a couple of months off birthdays.

    I really don’t think the average age should have any bearing on people’s decision, people mature at different rates and each situation is different. Fiance and I will have been together for six years when we get married engaged for two; our friends (she is same age as me he is almost four years older) are getting married just before us and will have been together for 10 years, engaged for 3.5. Our other friends (already married) have the same age gap as me and Fiance – school friends – one pair were together for 7 years and engaged for 2, one together for three years engaged for one and now have two kids. 

    I know im waffling but it really does depend on the individual πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 57
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    Bumble bee

    I’ll be 32 and he’ll be 40. first marriage for both, no kids and we’ve been together 10 years!! 

    Post # 58
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: County courthouse

    I was 21 and my husband was 33 when we got married.

    Post # 59
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    3 months after my 20th birthday πŸŽ‚

    Post # 60
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I am one of your two (so far) votes for 42 and up. I was 47. πŸ™‚

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