(Closed) What age would you go to before "giving up" on getting pregnant

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m 29 and we decided to TTC to last summer. I got pregnant on our second cycle trying and I’ll turn 30 right around my baby’s due date.

I plan to try for at least one more before I’m 35 but that’s my cut off. I think I’d want to stop trying at 35 even if I hadn’t had a successful pregnancy yet. At that point, we’d probably look into adoption.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

35-37

I know there are a lot of ladies on here who are in that range or older and TTC and I think that’s great, but for us I think we’d like to have had our babies (God willing) by that point. Of course, you can’t predict the future.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Irs funny you should post this, me and my husband were just talking about it. As there is a big ‘?‘ as to if we can concieve a baby or not, i dont want to waste years hoping for a baby, i figure if its going to happen we will get pregnant within the next two-three years…. if if doesnt? Well i am giving up on the baby dream and throwing myself into my artwork. Age wise i am 25 Darling Husband is 29, so… i guess we would stop trying at ages -approx.- 28/32

(As badly as it would hurt not to have a baby we’ve watched Darling Husband sister struggled through 3 miscarriages, 2 babys who passed away and 10 years of trying and now they are thinking about doing IVF which will cost $15,000. ….. I am just not wanting to do that. If it happens, great, if not… i guess we werent meant to be parents.)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well I think if you really want a child you don’t stop trying just because you’ve hit some arbitrary time limit you’ve set for yourself. I think for most people they whole stopping when they’ve hit a certain age has to do with fertility issues that can’t be overcome. You are only 29, I wouldn’t leap to thinking about 35 or 40 yet. So many things can happen especially given you haven’t even started trying. 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If it does end up taking longer than you think, and you really do want children… I think you’ll find that your cut off will change a bit and that it’s not something you can truely determine ahead of time.  I’m 33… I hoped to be having my first this year and a second soon after, also by 35.  Well, I’m not pregnant and I still want 2.  My mental cut off is moving later and later cause I still want children.  I also found that though ages my sound old… that a lot of people who are say 55+ are still very youthful in their activities and lifestyle.  I think it’s what you make of it… so if you’re 60 and have that teen, it may help stay youthful and not be “old”.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had my last (of 2) babies at 34.  I just turned 36.  Darling Husband and I are considering one more- but it needs to be REAL soon.

Like I need to conceive in the next year.  That is my own limit I am setting for myself.  I got pregnant with both babies on the very first try- so that is not a factor inthe decision at all. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I’d like to start trying by around 28-30 and have a cut-off of 36ish? I want 3, but we also plan on adopting so not sure when we’ll be done with TTC or if we’ll adopt then TTC. I’d prefer to TTC and see if we even can – if not, then we’ll know and just adopt all of our children instead. My SO was adopted, so it’s something he’s really passionate about and I’ve always wanted to as well, but the older I get the more I want to experience pregnancy and giving birth at least once.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Right now, I would say definitely not past 40.  The risks are too much and to be frank, I just want to have them almost out of the house by then.  I’m coming on to 24 and hoping to start trying in the next year or 2 so hoping it doesn’t come to that. 

My aunt just had her first a year ago when she was 40 and made sure to drill into me not to wait.  Mind you she got married older but she still waited 8 years.  She says she doesn’t have the energy she used to and it probably would have been easier a few years ago.  Doesn’t help that her LO has sleeping problems (11 months and still not sleeping through the night – max of 4 hours than getting up every hour and half. Yuck)
 
 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@pinkshoes:  This, exactly.

I think your cutoff age becomes somewhat of a moving target when you start TTC and determine whether it happens quickly or not for you.  DH and I have been trying for 7 months (8 cycles), and I never thought it would take this long.  We’re both healthy with no issues (all tests came back normal) and I ovulate like clockwork on the same day every cycle.  And we’re still here, waiting.  It could happen tomorrow, it could happen in a year or two.  So, I can’t really say what my cutoff age because it’ll keep changing as this process takes longer.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i don’t think age will be a factor… more like how much heartbreak can you take before you die a little inside and just give up? or how much debt are you willing to go into before giving up?

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Soon2BeeMrsG:  My SO is 14 years older than me, so if I didn’t get pregnant by the time I am 35, I would call it quits. That’s pushing it even. We’re thinking of TTC when I’m 30-31, 32 if need be. Right now I only want one kid. I’m turning 28 in a few months.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Right now, it’s 35.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d probably give up on being pregnant by age 40. But I’d never be giving up on being a mother–personally, I’d switch gears and make my goal adoption or fostering.

 

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