(Closed) What Are Bridesmaids Duties???

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@EAB:  mine have planned engagement and bridal showers, helped me reserve blocks of others and they ar helping me with our reception wands(ribbon on dowel for people to wave as we leave)  and putting together invitations and programs and such

Post # 4
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Quite honestly, the only thing they HAVE to do is buy a dress, show up on the wedding day and look pretty. There are no specific required duties for a bridesmaid.

Post # 5
6825 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@m33:  +1

Op technically all BM’s have to do is wear a dress and show up for your wedding. All the other stuff is bonus and never ever ever required contrary to some brides beliefs

Post # 6
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

The only things I have asked my bridesmaids to do is order and pay for their dress in a timely fashion, find a silver shoe they find comfortable and show up on time and pretty.

Post # 7
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you and your bridesmaids need to agree on their duties together. When I asked mine and my sister (MOH), I said I wanted a bachelorette party (nothing expensive, just a low-key night out). I also said I wanted them to come with me (for opinions) when I go dress shopping, and that I might want help making invitations/guest book/packaging up favours. BUT – these are two friends I have known forever and my sister, so they would do these things with me even if I didn’t ask.


Post # 9
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ItWasntMe:  Those things are all nice, but they certainly aren’t required.


Op, the BMs have to be in their dress, on time, clean, at least halfway sober, and smile for pictures.

Typically, the people close enough to you to be in your wedding will offer to help with DIY projects, bridal gown shopping, bridal shower & bach party, etc.

The biggest thing I would suggest is to communicate openly and honestly with your BMs about your expectations as well as their expectations.  No matter how stressful wedding planning gets, remember that these are you nearest and dearest FRIENDS not props for pictures, warm bodies to make sides even in the ceremony, or slaves to do your bidding.  As long as you keep the lines of communication open and treat these ladies like your friends first and foremost, you will be ok 🙂

Post # 10
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Mine have been fabulous at asking me every few weeks if I need help with anything. Specifically they plannedthe bridal shower. Are expected to attend bachelorette party ( I kinda planned my own since they were doing the shower) and they all attended engagement dinner which we threw ourselves. A couple went dress shopping w me. Helped calm me down when I was having a difficult time making decisions  Found cute things on pinterest. Asked q’s about little details I may not have thought about. And most importantly to me have just shown their love and support for us and making sure I know how honored they are to be a part of this special day with us. I couldnt have chosen a better bridal party (I know wedding is still 2.5 months away ask me if I feel the same after the wedding lol). 

Post # 11
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@m33:  +1000

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