(Closed) What are my “jobs” as a bridesmaid out-of-state?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No way, this isn’t jumping the gun. I know my BMs have the bach party and shower planned already. Definitely friend the sister. All my BMs friended each other on FB. You should ask her what she needs/wants help with, if anything.

Post # 4
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you might be jumping the gun–but maybe I am just running late?! My wedding is this June, I started talking to bridesmaids about dresses in mid-December. Neither the shower nor the bachelorette party are planned yet. I know when they are roughly thinking of having the shower, but I know they’re just starting to think about it and plan for it now. Bachelorette party has not even crossed our minds lol. 

I would say, you don’t need to ask about bridesmaid dresses yet. I’m sure she’ll get in touch with you when she’s at that stage. But, there is definitely no harm in adding her sister to your facebook. Just tell her that you want to make sure you can make it into town for the shower, so ask her if she can let you know what date she’s planning as soon as she knows!

As for what you should be doing…just show up at the wedding! 🙂 If you want to be kept more in-the-loop though, just tell her. I’m sure she’d be delighted to share how planning is going with you.

Post # 5
193 posts
Blushing bee

@MrsEdamame: I think you should ask. If you read the posts on here the brides much prefer bridesmaids that stay interested and offer their assistance. And definetly add the other bridesmaids so at least you are in the loop. You can never offend ppl by offering your help

Post # 6
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I feel you on this. I am also an out of state BM in a weding at the beginning of June and have no details. I know the bride wants to get off the rack dresses but I am sort of freaking out not knowing what we are wearing or if I will need alterations or shoe shopping or anything. I don’t even know who to contact as I am friends with the groom and technically part of his wedding party but wearing the same thing as the BMs. As far as planning, they are planning long distance and I am no where near the couple or the wedding location so I just volunteered to help when needed and so far have been asked about logistics of a couple of things that we went through for our wedding.

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