(Closed) What did you do extra for your maid of honor? Did you pay for her dress too?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t only pay for hers, I would pay for everyones. I think besides being the most “honored” bridesmaid there is really no perks unless you chose to do something. If I had a full wedding party (I only had a MOH) I would have them all be equal besides knowing my Maid/Matron of Honor would hold my bouquet and give a speech and whatever else. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m planning to give my Maid/Matron of Honor a year subscription to Ipsy. I’ll make sure the first package has arrived before the wedding. It’s a cute little beauty service that sends you stuff once a month. This way she can be reminded of how special she was every month. I admit I wait for mine like a fiend and I love it. Also, it’s reasonbly customizable so you can tailor it to her needs. If she’s not into makeup, but loves face products, etc. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I have been a Maid/Matron of Honor twice. Once, I was given a gift card for a facial & massage on top of the gifts all the maids received. The gift card was from both the bride and her mother. The second time, we were all given the same gifts. I appreciated both brides. The gift card was such a surprise for me and I was grateful for that but I did not expect it. It was a nice treat and it felt good that the bride and her mother recognized how much work I had done.

I think MOHs really do a lot more than a bridesmaid in most cases and that is a responsibility I was proud to have, but knowing how much work a Maid/Matron of Honor has, I do plan to surprise my MOHs with something special.

We plan to gift our bridal party as if it was their birthday so most of the gifts will be different anyway.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I don’t know what im going to do. When I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in my MOH’s wedding she took me to see Beyonce. I don’t think I could ever match that. We are HUGE Beyonce fans. lol. I want to do something really nice though. just not sure what. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I am paying for my MOH’s dress, but the reasoning is different. She stepped up in the time of need when my first Maid/Matron of Honor pulled the plug on me and backed out. She’s my aunt, and a single mom, so anyway to help her like she did to me I’m doing.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

pglt09:  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister. As far as gifts, not doing anything particularly different (though one of their gifts will be non-wedding related and tailored to their likes). But, I do plan on treating her to a nice spa day as well.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, I am giving all of the girls pretty much the same thing, and am sticking to the same budget for all, with the exception that the Main gift cost a bit more for Maid/Matron of Honor.  I purchased one a coach wristlet, one a coach make up bag, another a coach wallet, and my Maid/Matron of Honor a small coach clutch.  The clutch did cost a bit more than the other items, but not only is she my sister, but she has helped me with so much planning (actually convenient because we are planning her wedding 9 months after mine).  I may do something a  little more for my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man1 because they are throwing my bridal shower (along with my mother), however I am keeping this seperate from the Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts so I dont make my other two girls feel bad that hey were able to help (we all understand).  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor got a brooch for her dress plus a jewelery box from the Bombay & Company, while the BMs just got the jewelery box. In the end the MOHs gift probably cost very close to her dress but I went the gift route as opposed to purchasing the dress route. Plus I would have felt bad if I only bought my MOHs and not the other BMs. Can the dresses be worn again? The only time I’ve seen the wedding parties attire purchased by the bride and groom was when it would be very difficult to wear it again because it matched a theme. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I am Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend, she is paying for everything dress / shoes / hair, make up and hotel stay for the night of the wedding. This is only because I live overseas so am already paying a fortune to get back to the UK for the wedding. 

She is paying for her other bridesmaid dress, but i dont think she is paying for hair and make up.

Not sure about gifts, although the bride has made a few hints!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I feel like a jerk reading this. I wasn’t planning on doing anything extra special for my Maid/Matron of Honor. Guess its something to consider.

pglt09:  In some areas, it is custom for the bride to pay for the bridesmaids dresses. If that’s not the norm where you are from, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

pglt09:  I think people mean that you shouldn’t only pay for the MOH’s dress so if you are paying for her dress then you should pay for the other Bridesmaid or Best Man so it is fair for everyone. Also some bees live in areas where it’s custom for the brides to pay for the dresses but I wouldn’t worry about that if that’s not typical where you’re from. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Hmm, I’ve been a Maid/Matron of Honor twice and both times I got the same gift as everyone else even though I did a majority of the planning and helping. I don’t know if I was really expecting anything extra from either bride. In my mind, I just wanted to help as much as possible when they needed it. I’m not going to lie though, now I’m thinking why I didn’t get anything extra special! LOL! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Maid/Matron of Honor is my fabulous Sister – our Parents are paying for my wedding gown and her Maid/Matron of Honor dress.

When we went dress shopping for myself (just with my Mom and Sister) I bought both a set of jewlery as a thank you and to let them know that this experience wasn’t just about me, that it was another bonding experience for us together.

For all of my girls (MOH and BMs) I am getting stain getting ready robes, pink pearl earrings and paying for their makeup artist.

I do still want to do something special for her, but I haven’t figured out what yet. . . I am going down to see her next weekend (I’m in Sacramento and She is in Newport Beach) for a Sisters weekend, so I think I might be able to get a better idea of soemthing special for her then.

I think if you are comfortable paying for their dresses, that would be a lovely gift – but totally not necessary as it should be known that the wedding party pays for their own.

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