Post # 1
Hello Bees! I was wondering what your experiences were in regards to rude comments on your Erings? I ask because I’ve come to notice that whenever a woman gets a ring on her finger, for every x amount of congratulatory responses there is always the one that decides to try to ruin your moment by making an unnecessary and tactless response. What are your stories? I have this one instance…
Around the time my fiancé and I were newly engaged, I also had the privilege of being my friend’s maid of honor. During my friend’s bridal shower, one of the bridesmaids who had learned I just got engaged (who had recently become engaged herself) ran up to me and obnoxiously hollered “I heard your man popped the question, let’s see the ring!” I held up my hand, she took one good look at my ring and said “wow it looks like he doesn’t know where his priorities are.” And then proceeded to bash my Fiance for having the audacity of ‘buying a huge ring’ when he could of gotten a smaller diamond and used the remaining funds for a home or vacations. She then continued to rant about how she much preferred her ring over mine and how she would be so furious if her fiancé bought her a ring my size and how she wouldn’t want a ring like mine anyways because it makes me look like a gold digger. She felt the need to bring up my ring throughout the entire event even though the event was about the bride, and even tried to force her phone in my face to pull up an article about how “bigger engagement rings end in divorce.” She even nicknamed me “sugar baby” which I suppose is her idea of a joke, and on the day of the wedding when she met my fiancé, the first thing that came out of her mouth was “so you’re the sugar daddy!” I don’t know what her problem was… :/ she was a nightmare.
So what are your stories?
Post # 2
Rudest comments about large eRings – definitely on this site. Large eRings are costumey, gaudy, priorities are wrong, waste of money, etc, etc. Many, many inaccurate assumptions that other things had to be “sacrificed” to get a large, horrible quality diamond. For some people it’s not a choice between a house or a ring and a large stone can also be colorless and have impequality parity and cut. I would NEVER say a rude comment about someone else’s ring, if it is a small diamond, moissy, gemstone, no stone, whatever. I love all rings for the promise and commitment that they represent. I don’t judge other women based on material items and never would but it seems as though it’s ok to judge people based on eRings?! And then there are so, so many posts about Bees wanting upgrades, stand in rings, being bordrline obsessed about cleaning or losing their rings. I don’t get it. Love all rings and even more importantly that this is such an exciting time for all Bees, the start of your married life together! Best wishes!
Post # 3
I had a girl wear a fake ring to a bachelorette party. I had my real one On. She said if we were to poll people they’d probably think mine was the fake ring out of the two. she must’ve skipped that class in charm school.
Post # 4
I gotten “why do you upgrade your rings so much” and my response is, because I want to. Most of the ocomments I’ve got were about my princess cut halo set looking like cloudy Legos. But there is one specific bee/snarkychicken that has something to say about every ring. And how we must be in debt. On snarkychickens they call me Mrs loan but I really don’t care what they think I love ALL of my rings 😉 I’ve received nothing but nice comments on real life, though I’m sure some people have said nasty things behind my back. Like my older sister for instance whom has been with the same guy for 9 years and he still hasn’t proposed. She won’t even look at my rings when my mother and younger sister are giving me compliments.
Post # 5
People are just jealous. Nobody knows anybody else’s situation, how did that bridesmaid know the ring wasn’t a family heirloom? People forget the golden rurule, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all! I think some people lose sight of the actual marriage while they are so wrapped up with the ring and planning a wedding.
Post # 6
i have gotten “well he didnt think that through, now you cant get a wedding band” that was a customer at work that said and i was pissed.
Post # 7
Mines moissanite. I’ve gotten “wow, it *almost* looks real!”
Post # 8
LOL! “Bigger engagement rings end in divorce”. The only way I can see that happening is if the man couldn’t afford it and spends the next 50 years paying off, but yeah, that’s ridiculous. Rock your ring.
I actually find “That’s cute” pretty offensive. Cute is for puppies. Beautiful, lovely or a simple, very nice! is for e-rings.
Post # 9
Oh, FFS, don’t even read that ridiculous site where the women seriously have nothing better to do than to bash other women. Get an effin’ hobby. (Edited to add: the chickens need a hobby, not you! Lol)
upgrade all you like! It’s your life, your money and your husband’s approval that matters!
Post # 10
this exactly!! The nastiest ring shamming happens on the Bee. My favorite part about it is that it’s always whatever size a smidge up from the shaminers ring is that is their line from gaudy. Oh I have a 1.5 center stone but I would never get a 1.7 that’s way too big and gaudy for my taste. *rolls eyes* please we all know all these girls would take a bigger ring in a heartbeat if they could have it. (Disclaimer to say that I know not everyone wants a big ring, I’m referring to a few specific people who constantly make comments about loving huge bling and then shamming others).
Thankfully I’ve never gotten a rude comment in person, like yours OP, I prob would have told that girl off to her face ESP since she kept pushing it (she is clearly jealous!), but I have gotten lots of nosey questions from co-workers like what does your Fiance do and how much did it cost? Etc. sorry you had to deal with that, so annoying!
Post # 11
I got engaged Monday and my former friend asked to see the ring. I sent her a photo and she said “I like it, it’s not tacky.” i guess that comment wasn’t rude but it felt a bit off. Oh well!
Post # 12
I know you are right! I tell myself not to look and I don’t very often. But every time I add a new band to my set or whatever as soon as I post it no more than a few minutes later this bee/chicken has forwarded the post. It’s always the same person too, I’d love to know who she is and what her rings look like! My guess is that they arnt anything spectacular 😉
Post # 13
your ring is amazing! I probably would have felt a bit strange about your friends comment too. Instead of “I like it, it’s not tackey” . ” congrats, beautiful ring I’m so happy for you” would have been better lol
Post # 14
I have literally never had someone make a rude comment- is it really that common?
The only rude things I’ve ever seen are on the bee, but never about my ring personally (I’ve never posted a picture), just snide comments made about certain sizes/styles that happen to apply to mine. I don’t really care though- I like it, that’s all that matters!