Post # 1
My Fiance loves loud, noisy, busy places. There can be 1 million kids running around screaming, with the music blasted so loud that you have to literally scream to hear one another, and he is perfectly fine.
He likes the radio/music loud, all the time. He leaves it on high blast while switching stations, trying to find a good one. I mean, who doesn’t love scattered radio voices, blasting, while trying to navigate a car?
He also has so make some sort of noise, at all times. Whether it is singing along to a song, that he doesn’t know one word to, or whistling the same tune over an over, all night long.
These things drive me mad. I am more of a quiet person. I prefer less crowded places. I prefer not to have to shout over screaming children, while trying to eat my dinner. And while trying to find a better station on the radio, I would rather not here a little bit of every station, on full volume.
Also, a little bit of silence here and there is awesome. What’s wrong with not whistling, singing, humming, talking… constantly??
Needless to say, it is a constant compromise.. that I must admit, I often lose.
What are some things about your SO that are completely polar opposite from you?
Post # 3
FI’s rarely bothered by people being mean to him, but I get offended very easily and tend to hold on to things much longer.
He’s okay with going up to someone in a crowd and introducing himself, which I suck at.
Other than that, though, we’re pretty similar.
Post # 4
@NatDawn: Im kinda like you, Fiance has to have the TV as loud as it will go! Hes says “whats the point in surround sound if we dont get the full effect!” It drives me crazy!!
And he always thinks that he miss places his things but he is just too lazy to look for it so he tells me, Babe I cant find my shoes and ive looked everywhere can you look for me….that drives me up the wall!!! But I love that about him! 🙂
Post # 5
Hmmm we have more in common than not.
We don’t usually have the same taste in music. I listen to mostly top 40 stuff, and he listens to bands Ive never heard of.
He tends to be more outgoing when we meet someone, and I definetly shy away at first.
Post # 6
Oh and another one…I am extremely clean and organized. I can’t relax if the house is a mess, laundry isn’t done, etc. He has no problem relaxing when theres other stuff to do
Post # 7
My Fiance and I are polar opposites in a lot of ways… which tends to balance us out.
I am a social butterfly. I love being around people, people watching, talking to strangers, etc. Fiance could not care less about other people for the most part.
He is typically a pretty quiet guy. I am really loud and talkative.
I love horror movies and dramatic movies. He’s more of a comedy or action/thriller type.
I love almost ALL music out there… indy, rock, country, pop, classic rock. All except hip-hop/rap… which is the ONLY music Fiance listens to.
Post # 8
I stress. He generally is on the chill side.
And, on a related note, I’m perpetually early and he is generally always running late.
Fortunately we’re both on the messier side of things. Otherwise that would be a real issue.
Post # 9
he’s a neat freak, im not:P
he also cant phathom my love of meat, steak in particular, hes vegetarian and doesnt see the point in it whatsoever, i told him if he tasted it he’d know what im talking about, yes i do that:P
Post # 10
Omg where do I start? We’re one of those “opposites attract” couples that’s for sure, but somehow it works. We put effort into it I guess that’s why.
He’s passive/aggressive, I’m confrontational
He’s antisocial, I’m a social butterfly
He’s very against/ignorant about health and medicine and supplements, etc… and I’m a total health nut and love reading about medical conditions and I’m very into taking supplements and knowing about what supplements are good for certain problems. He’s one of those, “it’s all in your head” types LOL
He’s very focused and finishes everything he starts and does what he says he’ll do, and I’m a total procrastinator and tend to come up with all of these cool ideas and only put about half of them into action.
He’s very in control of his emotions and is very rational and calm and I wear my heart of my sleeve.
The list goes on… lol but we learn from each other every day and we’ve both bent a little in the other’s direction so I guess that’s why it’s worked.
Most importantly, we are on the exact same page (and always have been) about really important things in life like religion, how to raise children, sex, etc…
Post # 11
He smacks his lips when he eats. It drives me up the wall and I avoid doing it at all costs. Guess there could be worse things to be different about. 🙂
Post # 12
Our biggest difference is that I’m a control freak and he’s a go with the flow kind of dude. I like charts, schedules, iteniraries, print outs, maps etc. while he just flys by the seat of his pants. Most of the time we balance each other, but ocassionally this difference makes us clash big time!
In a similar vein I am very financially responsible and always thinking about the future whereas he is ver impulsive and doesn’t think twice about a big purchase until it is too late. Drives me nuts!
We also come from very different familes. My family is refined and mostly all professionals like doctors, lawyers, biologists, etc. His family is a little more hill-billy and so they sometimes don’t understand my compulsive need for ettiquette, rules, and standards. I try to loosen up as much as I can and Fiance tries to button up as much as he can so we come out somewhere in the middle. It’s a good match because we make up for each others weaknesses.
Post # 13
We’re both control freaks too. It’s funny I always get on him about it and then when we’re in the kitchen, I can barely delegate him cutting a vegetable without watching him or having the urge to just do it myself lol
Some things I’m not a control freak though. For example when I travel. I’m total last minute, get to the airport less than an hour before my flight, etc… I don’t even know what airline I am until I’m about 2 minutes from the airport and need to find out so I know where to get dropped lol it always works for me, as crazy as it sounds.
Post # 14
hmmm, its funny because we have so many differences! I tell him that we are a “super special” couple daily!
He has traditional taste and mine is a mix of modern and vintage (this means clashed in decor/furniture)
He is super passive aggressive and very non-confrontational, I used to be and am now very open and confrontational about my feelings
He hates ALL the vegetables that I LOVE and he prefers simple meals and and I like to make different more intricate things
Hes more laid back and I tend to stress more these days
He is definately not a cleaner. It can get super irritating because our deal was that Ill cook the yummy delicious meals for him and hes supposed to do the dishes, but i always end up doing them. I can hardly get him to even take out the trash unless I ask him and its overflowing! Frustrating!
He loves comedys and I cant stand them! And by comedies I mean the horrible spoof movies (Not Another Teen Movie, Stan Helsing etc) I love dramas and horror films. The Grudge scares the sh*t out of him.
Post # 15
oh jeez….we are opposites in almost every way…
he’s always in control of his emotions and im a hot mess when it comes to being even with my emotions.
he’s a saver and while im responsible im much more loose with my money.
he is not romantic and im a big mush ball.
i like to talk about everything all the time lol im a talker. He’s got major man brain and he’s a get to the point kind of guy. during many of my “stories” he will stop me and be like hun i know you are excited about your latest gossip but can you give me the man version?
he’s mr. nature and im, well, not so nature friendly 🙂 I try real hard to be more outdoorsy but its just not in my blood. I have fun with it so I guess thats where we meet on that one.
Im a planner and he couldnt plan to save his life. Our set up is ( and he said this not me so …) “you plan and ill show up and foot the bill, oh ya and make sure you tell me how to dress”. everything from our weekends to holidays to his outfits to events requiring more than tshirt and jeans are planned out to the smallest details by yours truly.
Im a gift giver. I love to give gifts. He is giving but sucks at getting gifts. he second guesses himself too much I guess.
Im a social butterfly and he’s mr. calm and cool that stands back and observes.
he’s blue collar im white collar.
he’s country im city.
Im mexicanitalian and very into my ethnicities and he doesnt even know what he actually is. true story. I asked him when we were first dating and he’s like ummmm well i think maybe german? lol
Im into my faith and he believes in god but isnt one for religion.
This list could honestly go on for days. But somehow we work and we rarely fight (unless i am in meltdown mode like i have been lately ). And by fight i mean disagree. nothing crazy. our music tastes and things of that nature are similar and we balance each other out nicely. maybe thats what makes us work. who knows 🙂
Post # 16
@stardustintheeyes: that’s funny, my husband is the same exact way about not knowing his hertiage. i know almost everything about mine and he just shrugs and doesn’t know/care.