(Closed) What are the best quality and worst dealbreaker when looking for a partner?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

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mtmt1311:  honest, loyal, kind, financial independant. No go thinking my child is baggage, the opposite of my likes, abuse of any kind including drink and drugs.  Life is hard enough, dont want any of that shit in my life anymore, as my ex husband had all but three of the negatives.  Not this time, what I offer is what I expect.

Post # 3
825 posts
Busy bee

Best qualities: Truly cares about me (and only me), ambitious/driven, humble and down-to-earth. 


Dealbreakers: Anger issues, drugs/illegal behaviour, cheater, overweight due to bad lifestyle choices.


Fun thread 🙂 

Post # 4
1836 posts
Buzzing bee

Best quality: Generosity. Worst quality is the flipside of that: Selfishness. 

Post # 5
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

best: respect – for me, for himself, and for others. 

worst: pretty much the flip side of that – treating people like they’re beneath him for whatever reason, putting me or himself down.

Post # 6
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Best: dependable, funny, smart, kind and polite

Worst: lazy, rude, selfish, dishonest (plus obvious ones like cheating, anger issues, substance abuse).

Post # 7
3302 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well I have found that qualities can manifest themselves in ways both good and bad. For example, my husband is very hard-working, but on the other hand he seems to have an inability to sit still that can be kind of annoying at times. 

It’s easier to come up with a list of things to beware of: 1) men who get at all physical with you in anger 2) unkindness or antipathy to animals. And always pay attention to how he treats the server at a restaurant. It’s a good indicator of who he really is. 

Post # 8
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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mtmt1311:  gotta have similar core values.  We all change over time but you can’t really change what’s something thinks is right and wrong

Post # 9
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Best quality dealbreakers: Loyal. Respectful. Understanding. Able to to laugh at themself. Grateful for what they have.

Worst deal breakers: Controlling. Arrogant. Disrespectful. Aggressive. Dishonest.

Post # 10
7189 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

One of my favorite things about my Fiance and our relationship is that we are constantly growing together. We’ve had some hard times and overcome a lot individually and as a couple, if I hadn’t seen that commitment to growth in him I would have been gone at the first hurdle.

Post # 11
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Best: caring, funny, kind to everyone, selfless, honest, shared faith

Deal breakers: abuse (physical, substance, mental, etc), manipulative, selfish, lack of respect (towards anyone), dishonesty 

Post # 12
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Best trait: sense of humor

Dealbreaker: won’t communicate 

Post # 13
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

best: patient, level headed, calm demeanor, kind and gentle


worst: unreliable, immature, playing the victim, lazy, unwilling to be a part of a team




Post # 14
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Best: respects me as an equal, loves my family, treats animals with kindness, on my intellectual level, good sense of humour

Worst: misogyny, lack of empathy, selfishness, arrogance, stupidity, being too controlling

Post # 15
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

Best quality: unconditional love, open communicator, respectful, funny, friends with my friends

Worst dealbreaker: not being able to stand up to his family, insecure, doesn’t treat me like an equal

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