Post # 1
Inspired by other posts when other bee should leave but stays despite of many red flags. But I want some positivity in the post too.
Please list a few qualities that you love and hate when it comes to potential lovers. Even if its superficial, list them anyway.
Best quality: caring, intelligent, driven in life.
Dealbreaker: cheating, abusive, mean to other people he doesnt know (I hate it when people treat waiter/waitress poorly)
Post # 2
- Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017
honest, loyal, kind, financial independant. No go thinking my child is baggage, the opposite of my likes, abuse of any kind including drink and drugs. Life is hard enough, dont want any of that shit in my life anymore, as my ex husband had all but three of the negatives. Not this time, what I offer is what I expect.
Post # 3
Best qualities: Truly cares about me (and only me), ambitious/driven, humble and down-to-earth.
Dealbreakers: Anger issues, drugs/illegal behaviour, cheater, overweight due to bad lifestyle choices.
Fun thread 🙂
Post # 4
Best quality: Generosity. Worst quality is the flipside of that: Selfishness.
Post # 5
best: respect – for me, for himself, and for others.
worst: pretty much the flip side of that – treating people like they’re beneath him for whatever reason, putting me or himself down.
Post # 6
Best: dependable, funny, smart, kind and polite
Worst: lazy, rude, selfish, dishonest (plus obvious ones like cheating, anger issues, substance abuse).
Post # 7
Well I have found that qualities can manifest themselves in ways both good and bad. For example, my husband is very hard-working, but on the other hand he seems to have an inability to sit still that can be kind of annoying at times.
It’s easier to come up with a list of things to beware of: 1) men who get at all physical with you in anger 2) unkindness or antipathy to animals. And always pay attention to how he treats the server at a restaurant. It’s a good indicator of who he really is.
Post # 8
gotta have similar core values. We all change over time but you can’t really change what’s something thinks is right and wrong
Post # 9
Best quality dealbreakers: Loyal. Respectful. Understanding. Able to to laugh at themself. Grateful for what they have.
Worst deal breakers: Controlling. Arrogant. Disrespectful. Aggressive. Dishonest.
Post # 10
One of my favorite things about my Fiance and our relationship is that we are constantly growing together. We’ve had some hard times and overcome a lot individually and as a couple, if I hadn’t seen that commitment to growth in him I would have been gone at the first hurdle.
Post # 11
Best: caring, funny, kind to everyone, selfless, honest, shared faith
Deal breakers: abuse (physical, substance, mental, etc), manipulative, selfish, lack of respect (towards anyone), dishonesty
Post # 12
Best trait: sense of humor
Dealbreaker: won’t communicate
Post # 13
best: patient, level headed, calm demeanor, kind and gentle
worst: unreliable, immature, playing the victim, lazy, unwilling to be a part of a team
Post # 14
Best: respects me as an equal, loves my family, treats animals with kindness, on my intellectual level, good sense of humour
Worst: misogyny, lack of empathy, selfishness, arrogance, stupidity, being too controlling
Post # 15
Best quality: unconditional love, open communicator, respectful, funny, friends with my friends
Worst dealbreaker: not being able to stand up to his family, insecure, doesn’t treat me like an equal