Post # 47
The best thing about getting married in my 30ies was the freedom of choice. We didn’t consult with parents, relatives, planners etc. We just did what was right for us and avoided stress and drama of it all. It was our day, our way 🙂
Post # 48
I love all the things you have mentioned! I will be 34 in a couple of weeks and will marry at 34. One of the best things is for us we are keeping it more intimate only 20 people going to our dw…. I think had I got married in my early 20s it would have been totally different…. I think it would have been a huge event not that it’s bad but so not me! I am only having my sister as my moh and I wouldn’t have it any other way…. But had I got married much younger I’m sure I would have had a huge bridal party
Post # 49
The first time I got married I was 22. It lasted for 16 years, so being young in itself wasn’t the problem (however, him cheating WAS the problem).
Now that I’m 38, here’s what I can say: like most people, I feel much more settled in life. I own my house. I have a great, secure job. This isn’t my first rodeo, so I know what I do and don’t want in a marriage, and I know what I will and will not tolerate. We are eloping, so we are forgoing all of the pomp and circumstance of a “traditional” wedding. This time around, it’s about us and nobody else.
I think in my 20s, it’s was different because I felt like I had to do things a certain way as to please others. We were also broke college students. Now, we are more defined in who we are and what we want out of life. And it’s great! 🙂
Post # 50
I’m not going to get married until I’m 34 – which is late where I’m from, but NOT late here in NYC (maybe its average or a little later than average). Most of my friends are my age and only one couple is married. I’m sure one or two will beat me to the altar (I’m 31 now).
Meanwhile, back home in the south… I’m going to the wedding of a girl I used to babysit for next summer!
I don’t mind, I still plan on having a big white wedding! I’ve been bridesmaid enough to know that I only want one or maybe none…
Getting married older just means I’ve had a lot of time to think about what I don’t want… as I go to wedding after wedding!
Post # 51
The best thing about getting married in my 30s is that I make better choices. I shudder to think who I would have chosen 10 years ago! Well, actually, even then I was not as bad as some, but I would have definitely not chosen my partner as wisely as I have now.
Post # 52
I’m getting married at 30, but I don’t regret it at all – also I don’t see it as doing it “later in life”. The best parts are:
1. I know what kind of relationship that I want to have with my soon to be husband. We were best friends, had other relationships, always maintained a great friendship, and it evolved to a beautiful relationship. I have had other relationship ups and downs; I know what I will put up with, and what I will not tolerate. I can honestly say, that I’m with the man that will treat me wonderful, will love me, be honest with me, and respect me.
2. Our finances are in order. We get to pay for this on our own – which means we can buy without obligation to anyone else.
3. In my 20’s I needed to go to school, have other relationships, date other men. I didn’t know what I want, I didn’t know what I wanted to be, and I needed this time to really figure myself out.