- 4 years ago
Hi bees. I haven’t written in awhile..I used to be very active because I was engaged about 4 years ago and then called off the wedding 3 months before. I lost every penny I had on that wedding, and the subsequent expenses of moving out of the home my ex and I shared. Now, I’ve been seeing someone for two years and I happen to know he’s purchased a ring.
The big issue is that I am not looking to make this a terribly long engagement (I’m 32 and want kids), so our budget is around $10,000 total. I know that may be doable for many locations, but we live and work in the Philadelphia area and both come from pretty huge families…so the chances of being able to have anything with the personnel we would be “required” to have, via our parents and familial obligations, would be nothing more than a champagne toast and possibly finger sandwiches.
I still have my dress and accessories…and since I bought it for ME and not the man, I am okay with wearing it since I’ve literally only had it on my body twice for fittings. And I see the merit of us just running off together and getting the deed done. I mean, we would be able to have our wedding someplace amazing, like Italy. We could have all the gorgeous photos and stuff…and then come home and rent a fire hall and have a casual reception for family and friends that could run us less than $1500! But when I ran it by my fiancee to be, he said the same thing I’ve been worrying about in the back of my head with this ingnious plan of mine:
“My parents would kill me”
He’s the youngest of 4, so they’ve already done this 3 times. I think they wouldn’t really kill him. I think there would be slight disappointment, but not rifts caused. I was raised by my grandmother, and though I know she would be a little sad too I think she’s so ready for me to be married that she’d go with anything. Plus, I feel like I’ve already cried wolf once for the big wedding…so I don’t even know if people would show.
So my question to you is this – Is it worth it? The potential for upsetting family? And if it’s just the two of you, whether at a courthouse or even halfway across the world, did you miss the fact that you didn’t have any other familiar faces next to you? Tell me about your story so I can help figure out mine. Thanks <3