(Closed) What are the first 3 things you should do(or did) for your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: The first thing I did for my wedding was...
    Buy my dress! : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Pick a venue! : (63 votes)
    55 %
    Save money! : (16 votes)
    14 %
    Make a guest list! : (24 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    1. Guest List because you need #s for the right size venue

    2. Venue because without this you have no date to book everything else

    Caterer if it does not come with.

    3. Photographer


    Post # 4
    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We made the mistake of looking at venues before we had a budget. I’d say

    1. Budget

    2. Guest List

    3. Venue

    Post # 5
    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Congratulations on your engagement! 🙂

    Set a date and get the venue!  Many venues book out far in advance.  Also, if you plan on a church wedding, get that set in stone, too.  It took us some back and forth with the church and venue until we had a date that worked for both.

    Don’t buy the dress too soon! I know that’s the most fun part and it’s tempting,  but you will see so many dresses while you plan. Anything you look at will have a picture of a bride in a gorgeous dress. If you buy your dress first thing, you might end up having second thoughts like me.

    You can also find wedding check lists online.  They will tell you what you should do how far in advance. I found them pretty helpful.

    Post # 6
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    1.  Make a guest list.  It doesn’t have to be the final list – but this will help you figure out how big of a wedding you will have.

    2.  Venue, venue, venue.  This will set the date, start giving you an idea of costs, and then you can build around it.  You’ll pick a venue based on how many guests (which is why #1 is important).

    3.  All of the vendors that will get booked quickly (photographer, caterer, DJ/musicians, hair/makeup artist, florist) – there’s a sliding scale here – but that’s a basic framework… in a nutshell, you don’t want to find someone you love, only to find out they can’t do your wedding because they are already booked.

    …dress shopping comes after essential vendors, IMO.

    Post # 7
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    1. We started with a list of a few Saturdays that would work for us and our parents.

    2. We booked a venue.

    3. Made a guest list (but this was quite a while later). 

    Post # 8
    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    LGenz makes a good point!  Figure out your budget.  And start finding out what things cost.  We had a budget before anything else, but it did not work out that way. If it was up to me, I would have strictly planned the wedding around the budget.  But FH had this idea of the big church extravaganza and reception with everybody he ever met invited, so we had to adjust upwards twice.

    Post # 9
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    1. Budget

    2. Guest list, based on budget

    3. Venue, based on guest list and budget 🙂

    Post # 11
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    1. Decided what type of wedding we wanted: formal, casual, destination, etc?
    2. Decided how much money we were willing to part with =)
    3. Decided on guestlist
    4. Date, Venue, Dress, theme came in that order


    Post # 12
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    This is what I did although I should probably have put the dress later on in the list..

    1. Dress

    2. Guest List/Budget (that somewhat went hand in hand for us)

    3. Venue

    Post # 13
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    1 Budget really should be NUMBER ONE. You really cant decide anything without a budget.

    2 Venue & Guest list [these two go together because some venues have restriction on number of guests]

    3 Dress.

    Dress cant be number one because how can you choose the dress without knowing what your budget is.

    Post # 14
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    1.)  Budget!!!!!

    2.)  Guest List —  Try not to let your budget affect it too much.  You don’t have to invite anyone you’ve ever met, but it’s better to not hurt feelings and feed people whatever you can afford to feed ’em.  Friendships don’t break up over chicken vs. lobster.  At least, not the friendships that are worth having.

    3.)  Venue — be sure to pick one that gives your budget some wiggle room, because everything else is going to cost more than you are planning on.  Add up all the costs/fees involved — some places have fees for everything

    Post # 15
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I don’t think I did things in the right order, but it worked for us!

    1. Decided on a vision.

    2. Budget.

    3. Dress.

    I didn’t mean to buy the dress so early, but I thought it would be hard to find so I wanted to start shopping early. And once I found it, I had to have it! I don’t suggest buying the dress before the venue b/c it limited our choices.

    Post # 16
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    1. budget

    2. guest list

    3. season we wanted to get married in


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