Post # 1
I am planning a fall 2012 wedding, and I would like to know where/when to start planning!! I haven’t done too much in the planning process, only looked at things online, and visited a few reception sites (not appointments just a look-see). So what were the first big decisions you did for your wedding? Is the dress first? Or is it last? Haha, I don’t know…all my friends did it differently, what do you suggest?
Post # 3
1. Guest List because you need #s for the right size venue
2. Venue because without this you have no date to book everything else
Caterer if it does not come with.
Post # 4
We made the mistake of looking at venues before we had a budget. I’d say
2. Guest List
Post # 5
Congratulations on your engagement! 🙂
Set a date and get the venue! Many venues book out far in advance. Also, if you plan on a church wedding, get that set in stone, too. It took us some back and forth with the church and venue until we had a date that worked for both.
Don’t buy the dress too soon! I know that’s the most fun part and it’s tempting, but you will see so many dresses while you plan. Anything you look at will have a picture of a bride in a gorgeous dress. If you buy your dress first thing, you might end up having second thoughts like me.
You can also find wedding check lists online. They will tell you what you should do how far in advance. I found them pretty helpful.
Post # 6
1. Make a guest list. It doesn’t have to be the final list – but this will help you figure out how big of a wedding you will have.
2. Venue, venue, venue. This will set the date, start giving you an idea of costs, and then you can build around it. You’ll pick a venue based on how many guests (which is why #1 is important).
3. All of the vendors that will get booked quickly (photographer, caterer, DJ/musicians, hair/makeup artist, florist) – there’s a sliding scale here – but that’s a basic framework… in a nutshell, you don’t want to find someone you love, only to find out they can’t do your wedding because they are already booked.
…dress shopping comes after essential vendors, IMO.
Post # 7
1. We started with a list of a few Saturdays that would work for us and our parents.
2. We booked a venue.
3. Made a guest list (but this was quite a while later).
Post # 8
LGenz makes a good point! Figure out your budget. And start finding out what things cost. We had a budget before anything else, but it did not work out that way. If it was up to me, I would have strictly planned the wedding around the budget. But FH had this idea of the big church extravaganza and reception with everybody he ever met invited, so we had to adjust upwards twice.
Post # 9
2. Guest list, based on budget
3. Venue, based on guest list and budget 🙂
Post # 10
I guess “as cheap as possible” isnt really a budget!! LOL 🙂
Post # 12
This is what I did although I should probably have put the dress later on in the list..
2. Guest List/Budget (that somewhat went hand in hand for us)
Post # 13
1 Budget really should be NUMBER ONE. You really cant decide anything without a budget.
2 Venue & Guest list [these two go together because some venues have restriction on number of guests]
Dress cant be number one because how can you choose the dress without knowing what your budget is.
Post # 14
2.) Guest List — Try not to let your budget affect it too much. You don’t have to invite anyone you’ve ever met, but it’s better to not hurt feelings and feed people whatever you can afford to feed ’em. Friendships don’t break up over chicken vs. lobster. At least, not the friendships that are worth having.
3.) Venue — be sure to pick one that gives your budget some wiggle room, because everything else is going to cost more than you are planning on. Add up all the costs/fees involved — some places have fees for everything
Post # 15
I don’t think I did things in the right order, but it worked for us!
1. Decided on a vision.
I didn’t mean to buy the dress so early, but I thought it would be hard to find so I wanted to start shopping early. And once I found it, I had to have it! I don’t suggest buying the dress before the venue b/c it limited our choices.
Post # 16
2. guest list
3. season we wanted to get married in