(Closed) What are the least tactful things your friends have said about the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

When Mr. C was introducing me to a group of his friends, one female friend’s boyfriend showed up and he was a complete and utter @ss!  He said congratulations, then proceeded to tell us he was going to get us some book about how archaic and misogynistic marriage – this was less than 48 hours after Mr. C proposed.  Then went on to criticize our plans for our honeymoon and future life plans when we were talking to the rest of the group.  Not just a little, but like ripping them apart and implying we were idiots.  He was vicious!

 

Mr C was furious, and we ended up leaving the gathering early & I was blinking back tears – bawled when we got to the car.  The jerk is not invited to anything and I told Mr. C that if he gifted us, I would be returning it and telling him exactly where he could stick it.  The worst of it is, his girlfriend is the sweetest person you could ever meet and she could do soooooo much better!

 

 

 

Post # 18
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1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I told my Maid/Matron of Honor were doing baby’s breath bridesmaid bouquets, she looked at me with this disgusted look on her face and said “ewww. what is this prom??!” I wanted to slap her lmao. I showed her a bunch of my inspiration photos and she quickly changed her tune. 

Post # 19
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Last night, I had dinner with two of my girlfriends. I had sent my save the dates out about a month ago and this was the first time I was seeing them. I was talking about how I invited some of my friend’s parents but not all of them, just the ones who I was closer to and went over to there houses more often. Well one of my friends went on to explain her dad’s reaction to recieving a save the date…….and it was NOT nice. Basically how he was like “Why the F would she invite us?, Does this mean we can’t go to (favorite restuarant) on New Year’s Eve” ect ect. Basically implying he thought I was crazy for even inviting them or something?

I’m not necessarily hurt or anything, If people don’t want to come, then don’t! But I also don’t want to hear about it either…..ya know? haha

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@laurel946:  I’m not necessarily hurt or anything, If people don’t want to come, then don’t! But I also don’t want to hear about it either…..ya know? haha

 +1 THIIIIIIS! Don’t like my ring/invites/date/whatever? DON’T TELL ME, especially if I DIDN’T ASK FOR YOUR OPINION!

 

Post # 21
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1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You just spend SO much time planning and making 8 million FREAKING decisions and you truly want everyone to love your wedding and to have an amazing time and then when someone makes a little comment, whether it be bitchy or innocent- it’s taken to a whole new level! Not saying that people aren’t total a&& holes, ’cause they are- but I’m definitely ultra- sensitive- I ask for someone’s opinion, but I don’t really want it- the second they disagree I’m finding my claws coming out!

This wedding business is for the birds.

Post # 22
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2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@brandybelle:  wow – brutal. and THAT is why i’m not telling anyone it’s moissanite. not because i’m trying to hide/pass it off/because i’m embarrassed, but because people are asshats who can’t keep their rude opinions to themselves. 

your ring is beautiful!

Post # 23
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5187 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

“How come you chose THAT date?” (the date that was most convenient for me and husband).

“This date (the one that was more convenient for aunt) wasn’t available?”

um, hello, if you can’t make it You can’t make it. We’re not gonna plan the day around everyone else’s schedule. 

Post # 24
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My favourite was receiving an engagement card from one of my mother’s girlfriends that said

“Congratulations on your engagement, see it’s never too late…. Love from A and B”

(I am 36 yrs and my Fiance is 45 yrs, we had been only dating 7 months when we got engaged and neither of us have been previously married)

Post # 25
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

“You’re not wearing white, are you?” – I’m 54 and it’s my first marriage, excuse me I can wear paisley if I want to – needless to say they’re not invited for other reasons as well but that was just typical of them LOL.

Post # 26
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4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@brandybelle:  WOW i would uninvited them and she can be the prettiest girl at home!

Post # 27
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2089 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

People can be awful! Ive not had any really nasty comments yet. but I didn’t like my sister’s reaction when I told her I booked my photographer. I was telling her how fantastic he was and she said “no! You should have spoken to me first’ and looked up to the heavens like I’m a stupid child. Erm no.. This is my wedding, not yours!

Post # 28
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Whenever I stress out over a detail (like say… the girls can’t find, agree on, etc, bridesmaids dresses) I have one friend that tells me, “That detail (whichever one) doesn’t matter you’ll look back and you’ll never remember it. It just really doesn’t matter.” 

This friend got married more than 10 years ago when she was 21 (I’m 31 now) and we obsessed over every tiny detail of her wedding to make it perfect. I realize that the most important thing is that I’m marrying my husband, not throwing a party… Iprobably realize that much better than she did when she was throwing her own wedding. Her suggesting that somehow I’m focusing on the wrong thing is offensive. AND the details DO matter because, just as an example, my bridesmaids have to be wearing SOMETHING. I’m just so tired of the high and mighty attitude.

Post # 29
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8574 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

“If you don’t have a religious wedding nobody will come” – Mother

“Shouldn’t you be getting a house instead of having a wedding?” – My Uncle

 

Post # 30
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6354 posts
Bee Keeper

Umm some of FI’s more distant friends have asked him “so, are you married yet,” maybe trying to imply, “am I getting an invite or what,” but I don’t think that’s so bad. So far, so good.

Post # 31
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2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

some of you poor ladies 🙁 Some people just dont THINK before speaking and others just like to bring other people down. Ugh. We have been pretty lucky so far… either that or people are just saying things behind our backs! lol.

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