(Closed) What are the least tactful things your friends have said about the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@MissGemini:  lol, I’ve thought the same thing!  It’s ridiculously childish.  You’re so sweet to ask about pics!  No recaps but I sent you a PM with a link 🙂

Some of these responses are unbelievable!  Surprised

Post # 63
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@LadyElva:  Upon hearing about our low key wedding, someone told me ” I know you guys are probably low on cash but not everyone needs to have a wedding if they aren’t going to do it right”. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Fiance and I live together, and this woman I used to work with asked me, “Are you wearing white on your wedding day?” 

me: “Yes.”

Her: “WHY? It’s obvious you aren’t a virgin anymore.”

 

 

…wtf?

Post # 65
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@missmorganista:  My mother said something to that tune and I told her that my red lingerie and hooker boots would be at the laundromat that day so I’d be probably stuck with a stupid white dress instead.

 

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 

So far, the least tactful thing that has been said was my Future Mother-In-Law telling me not to invite my parents’ friends to our wedding.

My parents are very social and have retained their college friends, who we regularly vacationed and dined with throughout my life. I also lived in the same house from birth through high school and we have incredible neighbors that are a huge part of my life. While I understand my FMIL’s concern that I am not inviting as many of our college acquaintances, none of these people supported me during our family’s recent loss; every single one of my parents’ friends came to the funeral. My parents’ friends are basically extended family members and I couldn’t imagine my wedding day without them!

Also, it was DEFINITELY intended to be a joke, but after we finally became engaged after nearly 6 years of dating, my sister gifted us with a newborn-sized t-shirt. She told us that we must be pregnant since we got engaged so quickly. I was extremely offended.

 

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When Fiance told his BEST FRIEND that he was going to propose, best friend came back with “What happened to the guy I used to know?!” …. WTF. (This ‘best friend’ was supposed to be FI’s best man… yeah, that changed in a hurry.) I would dare say they aren’t really ‘best friends’ anymore either – this guy has NEVER liked me, right from day one, and has NEVER tried to keep that fact a secret. It’s sad when you’re more concerned about losing your wingman than seeing someone you’ve been friends with for 10+ years happy.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oooh I’ve got another.

Random idiots: You’re getting married?
Hubby: Yes.

Random idiots:  Que mala nota! (Basically, HOW AWFUL!)

 

MORE THAN ONE man has said this to him… none of them laughingly/sarcasticly.

 

 

Post # 69
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

FH and I are really proud of our budget wedding, but I’ve got two friends who are not having to spend any money at all (other than buying a dress) because they know all the “right” people. They constantly make comments about how they wouldn’t spend that much money on this or that. That’s awesome that your whole entire family seems to know someone that will do everything for you for free, but I’m not that lucky. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I had one girl tell me that after my “horrible” experience at David’s Bridal she would be going somewhere else. My experience wasn’t that horrible up until we got to the cashier and that’s really great that everyone is excited enough about your wedding that they’re willing to travel out of state for you to go look at wedding dresses but I practically had to beg my mom to make a 45 minute drive to go look at dresses with me. 

 

 

 

It’s just like they are rubbing it in my face that they are having a better wedding for almost no money or that everyone they know is so super supportive/happy and I don’t really have that. They know this and still talk about it, despite knowing my feelings on the matter.

 

 

 

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a customer at work that asks me about twice a week if I’ve called it off yet…every week.   one day I accidentalily left my ring at home, and he thought it was the greatest thing ever. He’s just one of those people that hates to see anyone happy.

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@brandybelle:  at my shower, my Future Mother-In-Law announced in front of almost all my guests that her daughter thinks we are crazy for getting married so young, then laughed a lot. i’m 23 and he will be a couple days shy of 24 when we get married and we have been together for 4 years, I don’t really see why we need to keep waiting.

Post # 72
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Helper bee

I am so shocked to hear all of these things. I actually cancelled my post elopement celebration because of the shit that people said to me, but none of it seems as hurtful as some of the things mentioned here. I’m so sorry for all of you.

Future Mother-In-Law: No, I really am happy about your post elopement party, it’s just really bad timing because there are so many important events going on this summer (more important than your son’s wedding?) and you shouldn’t expect Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law to attend because I can’t keep paying to fly them up here. 

Brother: do you really have to have it on a saturday at 6pm?  Just so you know you’re putting me in a really difficult situation by making me have to ask to take off work early. My boss doesn’t give a fuck if my sister is getting married . I’ll try to be there but can’t guarantee that I can show up. 

Sister: I’m just going for the food. Does this mean that I have to get you a gift?

Friend: Immediately asked about the menu then said I don’t eat any of that, I’m vegetarian (but I remember all those years where you ate meat after you became a vegetarian, what happened to that? Guess it comes and goes).

Friend: I don’t see the point of you getting engagement photos done if you’re just going to elope . Most people do this for Save the dates so you’re going through a hassle for nothing. 

@brandybelle:  Thanks for posting this, it made me feel so much less alone to know that other people encountered similar experiences. Good luck with your wedding!

Post # 73
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Boss, regarding military life:

“Are you sure you want to marry a soldier??” *snurled lip*

Family friend, regarding long term commitment:

“What?! You’re ENGAGED? Oh my God. That just means you’ll hate him in 20 years.” My mom is present, and tries to intercede with, “Oh honey, you’re just having a marital rough patch, you’ll be okay.” etc… buuutt the woman instists: “No really, the sooner you start off, the faster you hate him. Bad idea. I’m telling you.”

Relative A, regarding engagement and wedding timeline:

“Ooohh 15 months? Well good. Plenty of time for that to fall apart.”

Relative B, regarding my dress selection:

“Does it have sleeves?” I tell her its strapless (southern August wedding. duh?) and she looks away and does that lip-squishing, eyebrow-raising disapproval thing.

Relative B’s inital reaction to engagement news:

“Is she finishing college?”

 

 

Oh yeah. I know all about tactless.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When I showed a picture of me in my dress to one of the groomsmen’s SOs she said “Oh wow how pretty, but why are your boobs so low?” ….wtf? I have never liked this chick.

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

recently engaged, and my best friend made the comment “what are you pregnant??” when we told her our wedding was in January (8 months away, wtf, and we’re having TWENTY PEOPLE THERE, it’s a ceremony and dinner, we could plan that in a month!) it really hurt my feelings. I don’t think i’m having a “shotgun” wedding because our engagement is less than a year (and for the record no, I am not pregnant, thank you). 

Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Minutes after our ceremony, my brother updated his Facebook status to: “A good rule of thumb is that your wedding dress should cost about as much as three years of education for 100 African children.”

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