(Closed) What are the least tactful things your friends have said about the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

wow, some of these are terrible. unfortunately, I already have a few ridiculous ones to share and I’m sure the list will just keep growing….


Cousin- umm would it have killed you to wait a week? (Response to our getting engaged)


Coworker- you’re a little young for this don’t you think?


Coworker- god I hope you aren’t doing a buffet, those are so cheap and tacky… I would be disgusted if I had to do that at my wedding (umm what?!?! good thing you are not invited… I am having a buffet and it is by no means cheap) 




And probably the only comment I will enjoy was his five year old godson who is in the cooties stage… “Why would you wanna do THAT?!?!” lol 


ETA: probably the most offensive in my opinion was from someone I would barely term an acquaintance. “so you’re inviting me right? no wait I won’t need an invitation since I a ibviousky a bridesmaid…. so what are we wearing?” for the record, she is not even in the guestlist. 

Post # 78
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Some of these are truly horrible and uncalled for.

My Fiance brother, sister and sil said that everything we are doing we are only doing to outdo their weddings and show them up. Well hold on. We have spent 2 years planning our wedding down to every last detail which represents our style, taste and personality, its not overly over the top but its everything we want not whats going to outdo someone.

And i don’t know if this one counts but its the icing on the cake. FI brother sent him a text message telling him that he no longer was going to be a groomsmen because we didnt invite him to the beach even though they were at a different beach already and didnt invite us before we had decided to go to the beach ourselves. Real reason being that we made a quick stop into our ceremony sight and they werent there with us.



Post # 79
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


Actually, every wedding I have ever been to/talked about with friends/family has had a wishing well wedding. I can confidently say that they are not looked down upon and are more common than registering- at least in my area.

Worst thing someone said about my wedding was my mother’s ex husband. He contacted me on the night I got engaged (which happens very, very rarely) and when I said ‘actually I just got engaged’ he said ‘when’s the baby due?’ Umm, no. I’ve been with Fiance for over 5 years (4.5 when we got engaged) and we are having a 19 month engagement. His best friend was also really ‘I’ll never get married’ (but is now planning to propose to his gf within 10 months) and when Fiance texted to say we were engaged he said ‘lol’. Then followed it up with ‘We all knew that was coming’ and we thought nothing of it until his gf (my best friend) said he meant it in a mean way, then got all grumpy.

Post # 80
1906 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@s2bmrscook:  ha we got that too, we got married on a Sunday and we though fuck u all if its suuuuuuch an inconvenience then ur obviously not as close to us as we thought and we’d rather not waste a seat on u anyway!!!!!

all our close friends got the Monday off and partied till the dying end!!!! So do not worry!!!!! It’s gonna be awesomeeeeee!!!

Post # 81
10 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have a ‘lovely’ friend who when found out I was engaged didn’t say congratulations or anything just said “when is the baby due?” and when I told her that I wasn’t pregnant said “I am invite right? I am going to get drunk and see if I can find a boyfriend” I am only friends with her because she is friends with my Maid/Matron of Honor. Another time she said “why would you get married in the same place as another girl from school?” sorry but we graduated school 5 years ago and I have wanted to get married there my whole life plus none of us are friends with this other girl and didn’t go to her wedding so who cares then she said “I would never get married in a chapel”. ugh worst person she then asked if she could help plan my wedding – NO WAY there is no way that she is going to be on the guest list…

Post # 82
1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I just remembered another.  I was at a coworker’s cubicle when another girl that she’s friends with dropped by.  She sees my engagement ring and says “Is that real?” and I said yes.  Then she says nothing else, no congratulations nothing.  This girl is a distant acquaintence mainly because we have this mutual friend and because she’s just a miserable wench. Fast forward a year, the mutual friend get engaged and the girl tells her I have to get my feelings in order and then I’ll come by to congratulate you. W.T.F.

Post # 83
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

When I told my boss at work he said “Well, there are worse things I guess”.  This was a while after I said “I have big news” and he responded with “Oh no, you’re not having a baby are you?!”  I’m still shaking my head at him.

Post # 84
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Future Sister-In-Law said the bridesmaid dresses are “immature” because they are strapless.

Post # 85
1781 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I got the ‘of course, you’re not wearing white’ from a close friend of mine.  And not in a ‘true white makes you look washed out, so you should do blush or ivory’ way.  I managed not to respond.

Post # 86
45 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

My dad is technically handicapped. You won’t catch him in a wheelchair, ever, but he uses a cane (broken back twice, vietnam war, cop for 20 years, etc.) and when my friends learned that my wedding wasn’t in my home town (where they live) they instantly tried to use my dad’s disability and the possibility that he might not be able to travel… just because they are lazy and don’t want to leave their city (they never do as I’m the traveler and it freaks them out).

Thing is, he travels all the time and since my friends didn’t want to leave their city to come to my wedding in the U.S. my family and husband to be are having a destination wedding. Worked out for the best, in the end.

Post # 87
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

“I was thinking about your wedding… better have some dope music playing during the reception”

Post # 88
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybe it’s not that bad, but it really really irked me when my MoH called me a bridezilla when I asked her to wear flats for the wedding. She then proceeded to call me a bridezilla in an email to all of the bachelorette party guests. I just think it was really uncalled for … I’m letting all the bridal party pick their own footwear and acessories (belt, shawl, cardigan [I’m providing all jewelry]) so long as it’s neutral-colored and the shoes are flat.

I have two reason for the flats: 1- I don’t want different shoe heights because I think it looks weird and more importantly, 2- The wedding is in a garden and the aisle is cobblestones. I sat through a ceremony last summer where the girls all wore matching 4-inch heels and had to walk down a cobblestone aisle and it was terrifying … several almost face-planted.

I’ve tried to be really level-headed about the wedding. It’s not my fault she keeps asking for things I specifically said no to already (she sent me a photo of 3-inch wedges after I had said flats and asked if they were okay. She then asked me if she could wear a big cherry red belt with her teal dress and was angry when I asked her not to. Personally, I think she’s being a bit of a maid-zilla, but I would never say that to her because I know she’s trying really hard with putting together my bachelorette party and organzing the bridesmaids).

Post # 89
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Most of mine are due to the complete ignorance of the people in my life who know nothing about weddings. Like, “why are you sending STDs? You’ve been telling everyone when you’re getting married already.”

One reason I am not f***ing with STDs. I know they will end up in the trash.

“You don’t need engagement pictures.”

And some complaints about the no children thing.

So, I mentioned something on facebook that said I was so happy to have finally finished my website, and my future husband’s, sister in law, said “I don’t remember you ever saying you had a website. What is it?”

I told her the website and she went to my FAQ that explains why we are deciding to have “no children” at the wedding. So, she RSVPS. Keep in mind, NOTHING HAS BEEN SENT OUT. But she decided to RSVP saying that she wants to bring her baby with her. Jesus, give me some time to send an invite. And no, you are not an exception.

I really feel like they don’t care about recieving a d*** thing in the mail or not.

Other than that, I get a lot of people who don’t believe my emerald ring is really an engagement ring. And they keep challenging that opinion. Goodness.

Post # 90
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

a woman at work took one look at my Engagement Ring and said, “Oh, some mend dont know how to pick up jewlrey” and prceeded to give me a JC Penny catalog with bridal sets in it… I LOVE my ring. might not be the biggest but its perfect bc he picked it out just for me. 🙂 

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