Post # 1
I am having a big ol hispanic wedding lol .. Guest list completed yestserday we are about 450 people…. however we are only serving 300 because the caterer said the ratio for the amount of people we invite will probably only still serve no more thank 275… Does that sound right? I really want to send out RSVP cards however my Fiance is totally against it he thinks being tradional hispanic wedding no one will return them…
Any suggestions on what I should do?
Post # 3
@miss_alicia: Im having a big wedding too exact same guest coung. Im getting married in December not sure what date to have my rsvp since im not sure if there all going to respond.
Post # 4
my fiance and i are both mexican. my family (for the most part) understands the need/concept of an rsvp. my dad’s side is awful about responding (just because they can be kinda flakey), but my mom’s side is good about.
my fiance’s family is more traditional (i.e. not as americanized as my side is), so he kept saying that his family wouldn’t understand that they’re supposed to send the card back. i think what made him think that was because the concept was pretty new to him. i mean, he’s a guy and has never really had to pay attention to wedding details before and has never been invited to a wedding as an adult where it’s been his responsibility (and not his mom’s) to respond. i kept telling him that rsvp cards are not something i invented, lol. they’ve been around for many years.
we did have to explain to some people what they needed to do, but for the most part everyone has been sending their’s back. we had some people (mexican and non-mexican) say, “oh, you wanted us to send that back? it’s not enough that i just told you?” like, why would i go to all the trouble of buying rsvp cards, self-addressed envelopes, and stamps if i didn’t want it bacK??? lol
we invited a total of 308 people, and so far 227 are attending (and i’m still receiving rsvp’s).
if you’re worried about people not responding, set your rsvp date 3-4 weeks before your wedding. some people will say that’s too early, but that’s what we did and i’m glad because when we reached our deadline, we had over 80 people who didn’t respond and when we tried to reach them, they took their sweet time getting back to us, so i’m glad we had that extra time. and like i said, i’m still getting rsvp’s in the mail and my wedding is in 9 days.
anyway, i hope that helps a little. dealing w/ rsvp’s/seating chart has been one of the most stressful/frustrating parts of planning for me, so i hope your guests are more cooperative than some of mine, lol
Post # 5
THANK YOU SO MUCH LADIES THIS HAS REALLY HELPED!!!
@LILCHICANA THANK YOU!! MY Fiance AND YOURS SOUND EXACTLY A LIKE. MY FAMILY WOULD SO RESPOND HIS ON THE OTHER HAND WAY MORE TRADTIONAL. SO HOPEFULLY HIM AND I CAN COME TO AN AGREEMENT.
@jennifer we are wedding date twins !!