Post # 1
We werent going to have kids in the wedding to keep things simple. But then my Fiance insisted that his nephew and nieces child is in the wedding(think someone in is family told my Fiance, “oh but they would be soo cute in the wedding”). So we are having kids.
My only huge issue about the whole thing is that they are both REALLY young. One is about 2 years old. And the other one is about 1year and 7 months old. I told my Fiance that its pointless to have such young kids in the wedding. With them that young what are the odds of them actually walking down the aisle?? Or running down it? lol
We were thinking of just buying a old fashioned wagon and putting the kids in there. But when my Fiance heard that it would be about 100 for it he didnt want to get it.
So now we’re back to the kids going down the aisle by themselves. Obviously, I will make sure we have the mother and the grandmother of the kids grab them if they dont make it down the whole way, I just really dont see the point of having kids that probably wont make it even half way up. And having kids who probably cannot hold onto a pillow for the whole time and the basket with petals.
So bees, what has been your experience with kids that young in weddings? We met with the photographer and the kids came into the conversation. He said his experience with kids that young is either they dont go up the aisle at all or they RUN up the aisle. He said to not expect a good picture of them because of that.
Post # 3
I had a 1.5 year old as our flower fairy and her mother (my MOH) walked down the aisle with her.
Post # 4
I find that if they walk with a parent they are fine, if not if they are shy they run to the first person they recognize if they go at all, if they are not shy they normally do fine . I find if they have someone they do better 🙂
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s realistically going to happen. Kids that young just don’t understand. The two-year-old MAYBE, but almost certainly not the younger one.
Post # 6
We’re having my two goddaughters, both <2, as flower girls. My niece will be 14 mos. at the time of our wedding, and my other goddaughter (child of good friends) will be 18 mos.
We’re planning on just having them hold the hands of the bridesmaids & groomsmen and walk up in little groups of 3. My niece will be with her mommy (my sister, matron of honor) and the other goddaughter will walk with my other sister (who is really great with kids). Our ring bearer is a little older (will have just turned 3 by that point) and might be okay walking by himself, but his mother is also in the wedding party and so we’re going to give them the option of doing it whichever way they prefer. We kind of like the idea of three little “family groups” going down the aisle together ahead of us.
I wouldn’t try to have such young kids walk by themselves. We did also consider a wagon, but our parish has pretty strict rules about no aisle runners, no scattering flower petals, etc., and so we kind of assumed they would look askance on that, too.
Post # 7
Our church didn’t even allow flower girls and ring bearers under 5 years old. Probably for the same reason you are concerned about.
I went to two weddings where they had younger kids (< 4 yrs) walking down the aisle and both times it didn’t happen without the kid screaming bloody murder. In one wedding, the father ended up carrying the hysterical kid down the aisle, in the other, the bridal entrance took 6 times longer than planned because the kid kept running back to her mother (MOH). The DJ had to play the bridal entrance song at least 4 times over.
Post # 8
My DSD is having her almost two-year-old niece as her Flower Girl this fall. As DH’s wife, I am one of the FG’s grandparents, and I was completely surprised and incredibly honored when my DSD and her Fiance asked me to hold the baby’s hand and walk her down the aisle. Is there any possiblity of having another, older child or an adult who is special to you and your Fiance in the wedding who could walk between the children and hold their hands as they walk down the aisle and then oversee the children during the ceremony?
Post # 9
My niece was one and a half and surprisingly she walked all the way down with no problem. It was actually the older toddlers who refused to walk and were scared. They held up the procession for like ten minutes (unbeknowest to my sister). I, the Maid/Matron of Honor, had to walk down with the 2 and 4 year old holding their hands. My niece will be 4 when I get married. I have another flower girl who will be the same age. I think she will be fine again bc her mom is the Maid/Matron of Honor for me so we will just tell her to “walk to her mommy”. But I have asked the other flower girl’s mom to wear a nice dress just in case she needs to run interference, lol. I have been in several weddings and seen children walk, cry, and run. It really depends on their personalities and a nap!
Post # 10
My nephew was 13 months old and was the Ring Bearer in my sister’s wedding. He carried that pillow like a champ with style down the aisle. It was the cutest thing in the world. My niece was 4 and was too darn shy. She will be 6 when she is my Flower Girl along with a 13 month old. I’m betting the 13 month old would steal the show while the 6 year old hides or runs. I think it depends greatly on the kid’s personality.
If it really bothers you $100 bucks for the wagon is a fine price to pay to keep things in order. Kids crack me up so no matter what happens at my wedding I’ll probably laugh it off. My niece can be a brat so I might frown just a tiny bit 😉 Good luck!
Post # 11
Sometimes they will and sometimes they won’t. Our Flower Girl had just turned 2 a few weeks before, and she did great at the rehearsal. The day of the wedding, she had a bit of crying (once she saw all the people there) and refused to carry her petal purse (or the flower wand I made her just in case). She did make it down all the way, but immediately ran over to the adjacent pond next to the gazebo! The BM’s took off after her, but it did add a little excitement. lol
It was a pretty long aisle too, but she did OK. I agree with having someone help them both down.
Post # 12
I think at two…it should be ok. I only say that because I have a 2 yr old son. He/she might walk/might run, that you cannot predict but I know my son would at least go down the aisle. Any younger than that, probably not.
I think that the wagon idea is great. I would check yard sales, etc, to see if you can get one for cheaper.
Post # 13
Our 1 year and 9 month old ring bearer did NOT make it down the aisle. When it came time to line up and go outside he entered full blown melt down mode. He was supposed to walk down with his mom. Our 1 year old flower girl was carried down the aisle by her father successfully. 🙂
I’ve been to several weddings and when the kids are that young they don’t make it down the aisle on their own. I would consider allowing a parent to walk with them.
Post # 14
We had my 2yr old walk down the aisle with a stranger (my BM) and he did ok. Advice I would give is let the child be with mum/dad and not fussed over until the last possible minute and then just get parents to drift off *music starts* procession begins with child. Doesnt give them time to freak out and they are back with parents before they realise. They are also walking towards thier parents (aisle seat!!). Also if they freak/run/stop… let them. Go round them, let go of thier hand and just go with it. It’ll be cute rather than awful.
FWIW: At my Bridesmaid or Best Man wedding she had her husbands 2yr old brother. He walked with his 5yr old sister who threw petals. He got so confused at her ‘littering’ that he walked up and down the aisle collecting the petals and putting them in the basket again looking deeply hurt by her behaviour. VERY cute!! And didnt ‘ruin’ anything.
Post # 15
one wedding I attended, one of the groomsmen held a lollipop out for the kid and the procession still took forever. Personally, I’d keep kids that young, Out.
Post # 16
My nephew was about 2 y/o at our wedding, and he walked down the aisle with my sister (his aunt). He was still quite shy about it and I think she ended up holding the ring pillow and he was trying to hide behind her. We were amused by it though.