Post # 17
We’re sending our 26 month old daughter and a BM’s 30 month old daughter down the aisle with a basket that has the rings, and flower balls. If they don’t make it, Bridesmaid or Best Man will go get them.
It really sounds like you don’t want to have the kids in the wedding. Explain to your Fiance that you don’t want the kids in your ceremony and maybe he’ll understand why.
Post # 19
I gave my son ( age 12) candy to put in his pocket the day of. When one of my 3 year old flower girls got stage fright, he showed her the candy and asked her if she wanted some, she adores him and was intrigued and he told her that her sister ( sitting in the pews) had some and that she needed to go get it from her and that he would have more for her when he sat down ( my son and dad walked me down the Aisle). It worked on the rehearsal night but the day of she had to have her dad come and walk her down. 🙂 it was no big deal.
Post # 20
@Earlybride: i can understand not wanting to spend the money on a wagon. I would ask all the parents you know. my mom still has my wagon and i’m 23.
Post # 21
I think the odds of them making it down the aisle alone are very slim….
Post # 22
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Ask around to find a wagon to borrow for free. I think this is the best idea for small children under the age of 4.
If they must walk (and having a 1 and 2 year old is purely to make adult family members/friends happy) then I suggest having the child’s mom, grandma, or another favored family member at the other end of the aisle to distract them and get them down the aisle. That said, the kids may go slowly, they may sit down and cry, or they may run like heck to get to the end of the aisle. Small children are unpredictable and so long as you’re able to deal with that having them in the wedding shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 23
My ring bearer was a year and a half and he did great! But my flower girls, who were 6 and 7, didn’y throw flower petals. Instead I gave them small outquets and had them hold the ring bearers hand.
Post # 24
- Wedding: May 2020 - establishment theatre
one of my flower girls is only a year and were having her pulled down in a wagon by one of the ushers…when my daughter was 18 months old she was flowergirl in my sisters wedding she made it halfway down the aisle and my brother( a groomsman) went back around and walked her the rest of the way 🙂 i ended up holding her through the ceremony( i was a bm)
Post # 25
One of my ring bearers had just turned 2 right before the wedding and he did great! He even walked up the stairs and stood on the stage until he saw his mom (one of the bridesmaids) and someone pulled him off the stage instead of letting him walk across. They should have let him go stand with his mommy I had no problem with that. When they pulled him off the stage he screamed so my aunt had to take him out and miss the ceremony. I was so upset, if they would have left him go people would have said “aww” and been done with it. Our ceremony was kind of short. Anyway he made it down the aisle perfectly but then someone tried to control him and it got bad.
Post # 26
We have my 7 year old niece as a flower girl and her 4 year old brother. I’m already doubting whether those two will make it down the aisle. On the other hand, we also have FI’s 2 year old nephew and we’re pretty sure he’ll make it down.
I’m not so sure it’s an age thing as much as the personality of the kids.
Post # 27
I was almost two when I was the flower girl in my aunt’s wedding. I made it just about halfway down the aisle before I calmly set the basket on the floor, laid flat on my back, and stuck my arms and legs straight up in the air. A random adult stepped out of his seat, scooped me up, and carried me to the front, my arms and legs still sticking straight out. Oops. The video is priceless.
My cousin had 3 year olds as her flower girl and ring bearer at her wedding. The ring bearer did great, and the flower girl walked down the aisle no problem, but during the vows, she sat on the floor and began pulling at her panties. Apparently they were a new pair and they “weren’t comforable”. The bridal party couldn’t see what she was doing, but the audience got a nice chuckle…
I’d either have an adult walk with them or pull them in a wagon, as others have suggested. Another option is to let them walk on their own and just plan to view any mess ups as “funny to look back at” memories. My aunt didn’t feel like I messed up her wedding at the time and loves the story now.