i agree with you.
i let my bridal party know what we exspected from them,told them to think on if they wanted to be a part of our bridal party.everyone said yes as soon as i asked.
were im from,you do more then just show up the day of.and im with emily post on somethings.i never heard of just showing up the day of and you do nothing else as a bridesmaid or groomsmen until i came to the bee.
what i asked of my bridesmaids and moh’s
buy their matching dresses and shoes in the colors i wanted.they could pick any dress they wanted,but they all had to agree on the same dress,i told them i dont want them to spend more then 50 or 60 bucks on a dress,cheaper if they found one.but they,on their own picked a $139 dollar dress and i love them.
they can wear their hair and make up anyway they want,all i ask for is a flower in their hair that one of my bridesmaid(my cuz) is making for them.
i told them they do not need to do any partys that i dont want them spending money on me,however i would love it if us girls can get together and go to a kareoke(sp?)bar,but only if they wanted and it was ok if they didnt,(only because we are buzy with our children and jobs and we never get a chance to get together,but planning my wedding is the perfect excuse to finally get together all at the same time 🙂
they are planning a jack n jill for us
(because my Fiance doesnt want a batch party and a couple groomsmen would have strippers and Fiance dont want strippers lol,i told him to go have fun,i wouldnt mind at all,but he said “i dont want that kind of thing,they do,they can go see strippers on their own time”,lol.he use to go in his 20’s and early 30’s but dont like going anymore the past 8 years or so,i guess age has calmed him:) no complants here.i love him 🙂
i asked that they be at and show up on time for rehersal,and to show up early on the wedding day to help me and to get photos of us getting ready.
i dont have my mom or my grandma’s anymore and i want my girls to help me get through it emotionally because i never imagined getting married without my mom.with them with me,i hope to have the saddness i know i am going to feel lessend by them being there♥
my daughter(maid of honor)and my best friend(matron of honor)have been the best,and jumped right in to help me from the moment i ask for them to be my MOH’s,i would have emotionally fell apart with out them♥
as for the bridesmaids,when the planning first began,everthing was going to be diy,and i did want them to at least take 2 days out of the 7 months of planning to help me with somethings.and for the bridal party to help set up and clean up the venue on the wedding day,which they agreeded before excepting our request of being in our wedding.
we went with a hotel though so everything is being done for us.but my moh’s have helped with invitations,programs ect,they offered i didnt have to ask 🙂
i have a great bridal party♥