Post # 1
My FH has a great interest in what my dress looks like. He wanted to look at brides mags with me and had opinions on each dress. It’s pretty much the only aspect of the wedding he has a strong opinion on. (Although he’s been very supportive and decisive on various decisions as needed throughout the planning process.) We are basically on the same page with regards to style, but occasionally, something he says surprises me.
My question: I have bought a dress that I love and think he will too… am I “allowed” via etiquite or tradition to show him pics of the model in the dress prior to the wedding? It seems to be a no-no to show pics of my self, but how much info is too much??? I would just love the “yes, I love it too, honey.” reassurance so that I don’t worry he hates it….
Thanks for your thoughts!
Post # 3
Many brides chose to show the groom their dress. Several of my friends got dresses their FI’s picked. It’s whatever you feel comfortable doing. For me, mine get to be a surprise. = )
Post # 4
I would want his opinion, but my Fiance wants to be surprised. He is a bit of a romantic.
Post # 5
I asked for his opinion’s on specific shapes of dresses and such early on, but besides that, he gets to be surprised on the wedding day.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I think it’s totally up to you and your groom! My mister wants to be completely surprised.
Post # 7
I wanted his opinion so badly, but he was very traditional about the whole thing and refused to see it at all. My dress was in several bridal magazines and I would wave it in front of his face teasing him about it the first couple of weeks and he never gave in. I gave up a little after that…it’s right around the corner and he can’t wait. I’m actually glad now that he hasn’t seen it and will be a little surprise.
Post # 8
Before we got officially engaged, I’d look at dresses online and he’d sometimes look with me. So he saw what I liked. But as for my dress, I’ve told him only basic details: it’s tea length, strapless, ivory, with light beading and lace. He does not want to see it before the wedding and he wants our first look to be as I’m walking down the aisle.
Post # 9
It’s totally up to you! But, if he doesn’t like it, will you have serious dress regret and want to go out and buy a new one?
I didn’t show my guy mine–i actually keep screwin with him and telling him it was all these crazy things that I knew he wouldn’t like. He thought I did a good job though
Post # 10
I showed mine pics of the dress on from the manufacturer’s website, but he hasn’t seen what it looks like on me. I think that’s a good compromise – he’ll still be surprised, but I know that he likes it!
Post # 11
I think it’s totally up to you. I didn’t want my husband to see my dress before the wedding so that it was a surprise. However, a friend of mine actually went shopping with her fiance so she could get his opinion on dresses. Whatever works for you two is totally acceptable!
Post # 12
In my experience, I ordered a dress off of eBay, and the night it came in, I tried it on quickly and Fiance saw it then, but that was sans alterations, pretty shoes, hair, and makeup! So, I feel that he hasn’t even really “seen” it =)
Post # 13
I agree, it’s up to you. I showed my fella pics online and then couldn’t keep the secret once it came in. I even kept the dress in the closet we share.
If he’s interested and you want to surprise him, just explain that. But if you don’t care, show him as much or as little as you want!
Post # 14
Are you prepared for him to not like it? I am sure if you say honey, this is my dress, he would never say he does not like it but I think I would read too much into his actions if he were not in love with the dress and it would not necessarily be a reassurance. That being said, my Fiance wants nothing to do with dress shopping or viewing before I walk down the isle. I already have my dress and he won’t even look at pictures of other dresses with me.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2009 - Hout Bay Manor
I think if you want to show your FH go ahead. Mr Lightning saw mine in my fitting pictures and also saw many of the other dresses I considered. In my opinion it doesn’t take anything away from the moment he sees you for the first time as he’ll be looking at you with all the love in the world. You are also likely to look and feel more lovely in it on the day anyway.
Post # 16
I feel that you can do whatever you want, if you are both in agreement with it. My fi doesn’t care either way, but I’m not ok with him seeing it so it’s hanging at my parents house. Plus I already feel like I’ve revealed too much by telling him the length and the fact that it’s sundressish, so I have fun telling him little lies about it to throw him off when we see other dresses, like oh, my dress is that exact color of hot pink! And my dress is way puffier than that dress! (i’m not a puffy dress bride).