(Closed) What are thoughts on a wedding over memorial day?

posted 10 years ago in May 2009
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I see nothing wrong with it, especially if a lot of people have to travel.  It’s not a big holiday like Thanksgiving or Christmas, and I think people will appreciate not having to go back to work on Monday after traveling all weekend.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

i agree with you, our wedding will be over the easter break. no one needs to worry about fighting a hangover after enjoying your big party! plus if you give plenty of notice your wedding will become people’s plans. I’m from ireland, sorry if this sounds ridiculous but what and when is memorial day?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We went to one this year. it was a bummer because we had to skip out on the yearly parties and events we typically do over the weekend.

 Some people may enjoy it, some won’t.

 One thing to keep in mind is that airfare is more expensive over the holiday weekends (labor, president’s, memorial weekends).

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

It may depend where you’re from.  In MN a lot of people utilize their 3-day weekends to head up north to their cabins…and often times anything that conflicts with a long/relaxing weekend "up north" is not looked upon very favorably.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think I remember a similar post about 4th of July or maybe Labor Day weekend.

The responses were pretty much split- with the ‘it’s great and allows more travel time’ and the ‘costs more to travel on holiday weekend and messes up my other plans for that time’ camps being pretty well represented.

I’m in the- I like to do other stuff with my long weekends than battle holiday traffic on the highway or pay extra to fly someplace.  Mostly because my family has a cabin where we traditionally spend those long weekends. 

That said- I would not miss a once in a lifetime event (like your wedding) for an annual event I could enjoy next year (like fireworks on the 4th).  I think most people would agree with me.

That said, do consider travel if your guests have to travel great distances or in popular vacation spots.  If people have to fly, the prices could be significantly higher than a non-holiday weekend. If people have to drive they may face massive traffic jams trying to get to your wedding- best case scenario being they had to leave early or made it just in time, worst case scenario being they missed part of your wedding due to a traffic jam.

Good luck!  I’m sure what ever weekend you choose people will be there and enjoy themselves.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

good point kenziegirl.. that’s why we skipped Thanksgiving weekend.  Our friends had their wedding the Saturday after Thanksgiving last year and (I know this could be very selfish) but it really irked me.  We usually have loads of plans for Thanksgiving weekend that we do every year, and I don’t necessarily think it’s fair to ask people to travel on big holiday weekends.  You make an extremely valid point about airfare–prices skyrocket for holiday weekends.  That is asking a bit of out of town guests.

I am torn on the issue.  I like having the extra travel day, but the extra cost of airfare kinda stinks.  But I don’t agree that Memorial Day is a big enough holiday to have to worry too much about guests missing normal plans.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

@ Soon2bMrsMcC: Memorial Day is a holiday to commemerate members of the US armed forces who have died in war.  The official holiday is on May 30th, but it is observed as a day off of work for most people on the last Monday of May each year.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

As people have suggested, some will like it, some will be annoyed. The best way to decide is to consider if most of your guests generally have plans that weekend, and then, second, if many people will be traveling far.  (If yes to the second, it’s generally nice to have a long weekend as long as the answer to the first question is no.)

In my opinion, it’s fine.  Frankly, I’ve gone to weddings over the 4th of July weekends, and am invited to one on Dec. 28 and having one over Memorial Day weekend is way better than those.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We decided against doing this although we wanted our wedding in late May. Since we have only 4 people who will have to travel more than 2 hours (and all 4 of those people are students who will be on summer break), it didn’t seem necessary to use the holiday weekend to give people an extra day for traveling, etc. Most people I know like to have that weekend, not for extensive traveling, but for an extra day to get together with friends locally, have a picnic, etc., so it seemed a shame to ask them to take their relaxing weekend and spend half of it at my wedding. We ended up picking the weekend following memorial day weekend, which will give me extra time the week prior to do any last minute wedding details. Personally, I’d be bummed to have to attend a wedding for any holiday – that’s my time off that I’d like to spend doing what I want. 🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Just to add:  I think if you give them plenty of notice (I am sending out save the dates 10 1/2 months in advance for my Halloween weekend wedding because I know people make plans that weekend, and almost all of the guests are out of town) people will be able to plan far enough in advance to hopefully skirt some costs.  Plane tickets could still be cheaper if they buy them within a couple months of the wedding notice.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Is your wedding on Sunday then? If I was planning on coming anyway, I probably wouldn’t mind, unless I had to take an extra day off on Friday to travel (if your wedding is on Saturday). If I was on the fence about coming, this would probably be the nail in the coffin.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I agree depends on where you live.  In NJ most people go to the shore and that is their first weekend.  I probably wouldn’t mind as much if it was a Friday or Sunday wedding just so at least you can still some of the things you are used to.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Yes that would definitely change my vote then!  I mean if it would be your dream wedding you should just go for it then and just have family and friends convey that to people.  You had your heart set on a spring wedding at this venue and this is all they had left.  Wow Memorial Day is early next year.  Good luck!

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