Post # 17
I’m still not a big fan of doing it, but considering the situation you’re in, I say go for it. I’d send out save the dates early so people don’t make plans before they know about your wedding, and I’d expect a few people to grumble a little because they can’t plan a memorial weekend away. That being said, most of the people you invite will be delighted to come to your wedding and think it’s a great getaway weekend for them if they’re traveling. (And poo on those who can’t get over their momentary disappointment to be excited for a wedding.) You can only go so far when it comes to doing everything with your guests in mind. If you plan accordingly though, give them plenty of notice, and maybe look around for extra things to do in your area for OOTers to make it an extra fun weekend, you’ll seem like a great "hostess."
Post # 18
My good friend just booked her wedding for the Sunday of next Memorial Day and saved a ton of money. She immediately sent an email to all of her close friends and family letting them know that it was set for a holiday weekend and I think got a favorable response from most everyone. I have traditional stuff I do on Memorial Day every year but am thrilled to do something new this year and celebrating a good friend’s marriage is always fun for me. 🙂
Post # 19
^^ I did the same thing.. let everyone know as soon as I booked that the wedding would be on Halloween so they had plenty of time to plan.. I didn’t know what to expect but the response so far has been overwhelmingly positive.
Post # 20
I’m doing a May 24 wedding – so I clearly vote on the side of GO FOR IT!
Its your wedding – you should do it. People might appreciate the extra free time to explore your town or have a leisurely travel back home. Just get your save-the-dates out early and know that the people who truly matter will move heaven and earth to be there.
But you should take your dream wedding whenever possible. That’s my 2 cents!
😡 Broke-Ass Bride
Post # 21
I know some people can’t stand holiday weekend weddings but really, do what’s best for you, your future FH and your family. Holiday weekends work best for my family so that’s probably what we’ll end up with. I know my friends might not appreciate it but I have to put my family first.
If people want to come they will. Just remember you might have a higher number of "no’s" than normal.
Post # 22
My brother got married on memorial day weekend and the turnout was great! I think people enjoyed it because it was a long weekend. My best friend got married over the 4th of July weekend and that was fine too.
Post # 23
Perhaps consider a less vacation-ey holiday! Tons of people have lots of plans for Memorial Day weekend, Fourth of July, Labor Day, Thanksgiving weekend, New Year’s Day. How about another long weekend that people will still have off of work but not normally travel for? I’m having mine over Columbus Day weekend. I don’t know of anyone who makes huge blowout plans for Columbus Day! Well, maybe except for the shopping ; )
You could also consider President’s Day, Good Friday (if it won’t conflict with religious beliefs), or Martin Luther King Day.
It is very kind to consider your guest’s plans and feelings while planning your wedding. At the end of the day, though, you can never please all of the people all of the time, and if it is truly important to them to share this meaningful day with you, they will do so without complaint.
Post # 24
We are getting married the weekend after Memorial Day and THREE vendors have quoted us higher prices because they thought we were getting married over the holiday weekend. This includes the florist, DJ and officiant. So just know you may have to pay a bit more over a holiday.
Post # 25
Everything everyone has said is true. It will be more expensive for hotel and airfare (and no, bying early doesn’t help. The airlines know when the holiday is going to be just as well as you do. The only way you get discounts on holidays is to buy last minute.) Hotels may fill up quickly. Vendors may be more in demand, or may want the weekend off themselves, and so may charge more. Guests may have a few extra days off (depending on their jobs) but may have traditional plans.
For us, Memorial Day weekend is one we spend with the kids and the grandparents. So – sorry – not disappointing them by cancelling the annual family camping trip really is more important than your wedding, unless you’re one of my very best friends. Particularly if the kids aren’t invited, or if we simply can’t afford plane tickets for everybody. We’ll just send you an extra nice present, and hope that you don’t take it personally. And that is the key, I think. People’s holiday time, and how they spend it, is pretty important to them. If people have long-standing plans that they can’t or won’t change, you just have to not be offended. Starting out NOT believing that just providing a lot of notice will get everyone to fall in line is a good way to go.
Post # 26
May 24, 2009 bride here. i had the same initial feelings as well. We did it because we are getting a discount with our venue, and they lowered our minimum for food & beverage. Also, our venue is a hotel, so our guests get reduced rates for the weekend.
We were shooting for a guest list of 150-175, but right now it’s at 261 (and quite possibly still growing). I’m hoping the holiday weekend may discourage some people from coming (i know…i feel kinda bad). We have already told all the people we really want to come about our wedding date, and no one had a problem with our hoilday wedding (or at least they didn’t express it to us).
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Post # 27
I’m getting married on 5/24/09 as well. My fiance really liked the idea of having the wedding on a holiday weekend. Plus, our friends and family preferred the set-up because of the extra day. Most of my family is coming from Out of Town however, they are avid travelers and therefore a bit more savvy when it comes to booking flights and hotels, etc. It didn’t bother them at all. Oh, we all live in California and people around here go out of town for the holidays too. So I would argue it really has absolutely nothing to do with where you live but, your guests, which only you know. In the end, it’s the people most important to you and Fiance who will be there. Good luck!
Post # 28
Something else to consider– guests will have more time to travel, but remember that SO many other people will be on the road that weekend too. Some areas will even have sobriety check points and there will be extra cops on the road in practically every state. If people need to come from too far away, traffic could be a nightmare. Of course, as a Californian, I traffic is my main concern. 🙂
Post # 29
I hate to say it but I’m one of those people who complains about weddings over holiday weekends. I work a lot of hours and have had to come into the office on many weekends. So I’m just overworked and need that time off.
HOWEVER (notice the caps!!!), I have been a guest at a wedding that took place over one Memorial Day weekend, and no matter how much I complained prior to the event, I had a blast. And nothing was going to keep me from attending my friend’s wedding, even if it means no mini-getaway for me. So what I’m trying to say is that although I was less than enthusiastic about the date, it was not enough to keep me from going. This was my friend’s special day and NOTHING was going to keep me from going, not even a holiday weekend. Plus, I got over it quickly the minute I got there and I had a great time. I’m sure those less than happy guests will have the same change in attitude.
Your family and friends want what is best for you and will be there no matter what. So I say have it whenever you want!!!
Post # 30
it’s ok, i’ve been to a wedding on that weekend for the last two years… it’s too popular…
Post # 31
two couples i know got married on memorial day weekend and both couples liked it, because it meant their anniversaries were always near a holiday weekend so they could celebrate on the three day weekend. 🙂
for my family/friends, memorial day is a quiet affair – picnics, etc., but nothing far. so a wedding would be no big deal. 🙂