(Closed) What are we going to do?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

As much as you want to go for a honeymoon right after the wedding, can you postpone the date? This might free up some extra cash and a little bit of breathing room. Maybe wait a month or two and go on the honeymoon? If your locked into contracts with all those vendors I think the honeymoon might be the only thing you can work with. Good luck with everything.

Post # 4
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Make a list of “must haves” vs “would-like-to-have.” Do some number crunching on how much you can save within the next few months, and how much you can afford to spend on those items. You can still have a beautiful wedding without spending a fortune!  And I second post-poning the honeymoon for a better time when finances might be less tight! Take a deep breath, and good luck!

Post # 5
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with putting the honeymoon on hold.  This close to the wedding, I think that’s all you’ve got working in your favor πŸ™  Good luck!

Post # 6
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would put off the honeymoon as well and cut back on some of the other things. Maybe use different flowers or a smaller photo package? If you still wanted to go away I have another suggestion:some friends that were in the same situatio  as you went to a provincial(or state for US) park. They camped for several days in beautiful surroundings, went hiking, swimming, etc and it was very economical.

Post # 7
724 posts
Busy bee

How much do you have left to go?  If you’ve already put down hefty deposits and it’s just final payments I second that postponing the honeymoon could really help out…but if you have a lot left…I guess my answer would depend on how much you have left to go and how much you’re bringing in.

Post # 8
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the PP’s, nix the Honeymoon for the time being. There’s nothing wrong with holding off for a few months (or even longer) until you can comfortably afford it.

Other than that, have you considered having an iPod reception instead of hiring a DJ. I’m personally a DJ or band type of person but if my budget didn’t allow for one then we would have made due with what we could afford. If you have a trust worthy friend with a great personality, you could always ask them to MC for you. 

Everything can be scaled back. Check out vista print for your invitations. If you catch them at the right time, they run promos where you basically pay for shipping and that’s it. Even if you end up paying full price, it’s still crazy cheap. 

Post # 9
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

DJ: Some companies have set ups that if you have an ipod, they’ll provide just the set-up (speakers, etc.), and will pick up at the end of the night.

Invites: DIY. Vistaprint has groupons frequently for $17 for $70, plus 30% anything else you order. You can keep your invites simple- we’re not doing inner envelopes, for ex.

Honeymoon- Do a night in a nice hotel, then wait until later for your honeymoon (we’re doing a local mini-moon for 2-3 nights, and are doing our honeymoon 5 months later.)

You can DIY flowers, and maybe have your parents help out elsewhere, if they haven’t done a deposit. If they have, you can always adjust what you’re getting, and save some there.



Post # 10
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012


Do you really NEED invites?  Honestly, we made one of those free wedding websites and emailed the site as our save the date and BAM we’re at a 90% show rate (let’s not even talk about how unhappy I am about that). 

Honeymoon – giiiiirl, road trips are perfect for this type of budget.  Camping at the Grand Canyon?  Seeing the biggest ball of yarn?  Hello. Nothing more romantic than taking honeymoon shots all across the country!

Photographer.  Honestly, I know there are a bunch of Bees that will totally disagree with me but I think a few simple photos are what you’re going to enjoy most 40 years later, not the gigantic $4k package of each individual action shot.  Is there a university or JC near you with a photography department? Maybe inquire if they would recommend one of their students.

DJ…are you making dancing into a big thing?  Don’t let other people’s wedding plan dictate your own.  If you guys aren’t even the dancing type, there is no reason why you MUST have a DJ.  Planning a playlist ahead of time should be sufficient.  You won’t have some obnoxious person screaming ‘welcome to the dance floor for the first time….Mr and Mrs MUSICBEETEACH!!!!’ in that awful way they do. 

You have a lot of choices. This isn’t keeping up with the Jones’, this is keeping up with your paycheck.  Do what you can do and make sure you love it.  πŸ™‚


Post # 11
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@rebwana:  Nice. I cosign all of your suggestions!  πŸ™‚

Post # 12
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ll second Vistaprint for invites… Fiance and I just ordered ours, we’d found a $10 for $50 gift cert livingsocial deal, which also got us 30% off plus free shipping… We designed our own invites and got 200 invites, with response cards and envelopes for both, for $92.  That’s stupid cheap.

Are your contracts all set in stone yet?  Can you call your vendors and explain the situation?  Maybe there’s services that are “extras” that you can cut (will your photographer not do a wedding book, or can you hold off on paying for it til well after the wedding when you’re more stable?  Will your DJ nix lighting or maybe agree to not do cocktail hour and cut you a price break)?

Definitely put off your honeymoon.  If you really want a break of some sort after the wedding, can you just book a couple nights in a local hotel or B&B for just the two of you?  Nothing says you have to leave the hotel room on your honeymoon πŸ˜‰

If worst comes to worst and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to cut prices, can you get a family member to loan you some money?  Only as a last-ditch effort would I put the costs on a credit card (if you even can- some vendors won’t let you).

Post # 14
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You can have honeymoom during a Christmas break πŸ™‚  Going some place nice and warm.  Maybe you can small small amount of guests at your wedding? 

Post # 15
1190 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am a teacher as well (also why we are getting married in the summer) and we are postponing it until either march break or next summer. Not a big deal! JUst go away for the weekend somewhere small and then celebrate big later.

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