(Closed) What are you delegating the FI to do?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2765 posts
Sugar bee

Haha groom kong – I never heard that!  Is that like the mortal enemy of a groomzilla?

Post # 4
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Honeymoon & DJ for now. Maybe more later. I have to give him responsibilities in small increments or he gets stressed out! But for the most part all of the decision planning is joint. Anything too girly he doesn’t want to touch with a 10 foot pole!

Post # 5
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My hubby didn’t want anything to do with the planning, that is until I started actually getting things done then he would put his two cents in, lol. He did suggest we go with burgundy instead of blue for our color so I added the orange to go with it. I had to practically print out his friends list on facebook and say, "Pick out the people you want to invite" because he was totally slacking on it. I did make sure he had asked the people he wanted to be in the wedding and that they went and got measured. He mostly picked out the tuxes but I had to change a few things with them when I finalized the order. I did tell him that he needed to deal with the catering guy because it was a friend of his but he didn’t do that very well and I had to do it. Although, he was great at making sure he got his nacho cheese fountain that he dreamed about! Really the only thing he had to do was make sure that he and his guys showed up on time.

Post # 6
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

My fiance, while not groom kong (or zilla) is highly involved.  He picked the caterer (although delegated the menu to me).  He’s doing hotel blocks.  He’s helping design the invitations, picked colors with me, is working on the ceremony (no honey, I do not want a handfasting!), picked tuxes, and generally is helping a ton.

I’m really happy he’s so involved, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world… but unilateral decision would be simpler (and less fun).

Post # 7
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

We are deciding on/doing pretty much everything wedding/marriage-related together. There are a few things I’ll do on my own (dress for example), but honestly he’ll probably help me pick that out too.  On his own, he’ll need to pick out his wedding band… and figure out who in his family/friends he wants to send an announcement to (if we get married in the courthouse) or invite (if we have a wedding). He definitely wants to be involved, though I imagine that we’ll both be trying to squeeze in whatever needs to be done between our exams and projects and reading assignments.

Post # 8
119 posts
Blushing bee

My finance has actually done much more work than I have so far.

He’s the one whose spoken with the potential caterers (although I will be there for the tastings), he set up hotel blocks and he reserved the reception site. I picked our readers and readings and registered for our Wedding Web site. We helped each other pick our outfits. (Yes, he’s seen me in my dress). And nothing else has been done.

In my defense for being such a slacker, I wanted to have a small family-only affair. He said he wanted a medium-sized (approx 125 guests) wedding with all his friends in attendence. I told him if he made that call, he had to do the lion’s share of the work.

The only thing I’m being a control freak about choosing is music. I must control the playlist!


Post # 9
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My fiance has been letting me handle things although I’ve communicated all decisions getting his opinions. But, I’ve asked him to handle the transportation. He kind of balked at first but he’s going to do it.

I tend to like things my way although I’m flexible and compromised on a few things, but as long as we all get to the church and to the reception I’m happy!

Post # 10
160 posts
Blushing bee

Umm.. absolutely nothing. I guess you can say he "approves" my final selections…

Post # 11
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Other than gathering all the contact info for his guests my husband took care of the after party, making sure his GMs got their info in to the tux place, dealt with his parents.

Post # 12
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sit there and look pretty.


Post # 13
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My fiance is more than happy to go with me to meet all of the vendors, but he leaves most of the decision making up to me.  In terms of wedding details, he reviews everything (invitations, centerpieces, etc.) and lets me know if he has any suggestions, but he’s a pretty "go with the flow" kind of guy.  If I have a project, I can be kind of a control-freak, so our arrangement works out well.  🙂

Post # 14
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My groomzilla is ultra involved…down the green colored Converse he wants for his men and the red parasol I’ll be using as a photo prop. He’s detail oriented, so this is pretty much up his alley. He’s had an opinion and idea on everything. We have pretty much made every single decision together, and he even took a Friday off of work to run wedding related errands. How’s that for a modern man, huh?

Post # 15
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

While my Fiance initially said I could do everything, he’s become much more into the planning.  At this point we really share in the duties, like I contacted the caterer, we developed a menu together, etc.  He’s in charge of asking a friend to be our videographer and dealing with that sort of equipment, he’s also in charge of what the groomsmen will be wearing, but I’m sure he’ll want to show me things, just like I want to show him my bridesmaids things.  He was also incharge of designing our invites, he wanted to, but I’ve helped a lot since he’s been super busy at work.  It’s really a planning partnership!

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