Post # 1
What are you doing right now?
Are you still drinking?
Are you thinking of me?
Did you stop drinking? Going for that run? You were always a master after you hit the gym, then visited me pretending you were better than me. Those were the times I thought you would make it, though. When you hit the gym. One day later, you would collapse in my arms and cry. A broken man turned child because of gin. You said “You’re beautiful. I’m sorry. I adore you.”
Maybe you think it’s friday and it’s “ok” to have that 4th bottle of wine.
Maybe you met the love of your life that wasn’t me. She made you stop drinking when I couldn’t.
But I will tell you what I’m doing right now. I’m cooking for my husband….Yes, husband, a feast fit for a king.
I look at him and I wonder how I could ever love you. You damaged me and yet, my husband dosen’t think of me as “damaged goods”.
He looks at me and thinks “How is she so strong? I admire her strength”.
Do you know why I married him “P”? Because he never just said he adored me. He said he loved me.
And the only reason I think of you now is that you violated my dreams last night.
I wish you well. I wish you well.
Vent away bees. What would your letter to your ex say?
Post # 3
Thank you for telling me that I was the reason you lied to me for 2 years about smoking pot behind my back, and then cheating with your best friend’s girlfriend. Thank you for not giving in when I so stupidly wanted to stay together, because I was afraid of change, and not having my wonderful winter wedding you had promised me. But, here it is, 7 years later, and you’re still single and lonely. While I, the “problem” in our relationship, am now happily married,living on my own with my husband, and thankful everyday that you broke up with me 🙂
Post # 4
Change is good 🙂
Lovely, yet sad, yet glorious. Amazing, isn’t it? We thought those men would break us when they actually did us a favor.
Post # 5
Yup, I couldn’t agree more.
Post # 6
I thought you were my everything. I thought that you had swept me off my feet. I’ll admit, I loved you more than anything. And yes long distance relationships are hard but not a reason to cheat. I understand I was younger than you and you were in the military but NO excuse. It’s your loss. You let me down when I needed you the most. And guess who came out on top. Me. I heard you’re married and I feel bad for her. Is she going to put up with your shit like I did all those years? Probably not. And you lost the best girlfriend you could ever have had. But I am thankful for you. I am SO thankful for you! You know why? Because if you hadn’t have done what you did, I might be married to your sorry ass. But I’m not. I am married to the most amazing man in the world. And rest assured that when I think of the past, I overlook you.
Post # 8
So, I hear from the child support agency that you are temporarily disabled with a “mental” problem so you can’t work again and in return can’t pay me support….is that code for you sitting on your ass playing the PS3 I bought you in the house your mother is paying for?? That’s what it most certainly means.
Is that money you’re spending on video games that could be coming to your daughter you haven’t laid eyes on in 2 years , daughter that now calls someone else daddy because she has no memory of you??? That’s most certainly what that is.
Am I the same women you told no one would love because she wasn’t smart enough? The same woman you said had family that didn’t love her so you kept her from them for 2 years to “protect” her? Just so you could keep brainwashing her….Yep that woman is ME!
I am so glad I went through those things with you for you to force me to leave with MY daughter when I found out you were shacking up with a homewrecker. Just for her to turn around and leave you for someone else. Now you sit, pathetic and alone just like you wanted me to be.
I, however, have a MAN that tells me he loves me everyday, all day, makes sure I know he finds me sexy even when I’m wearing my pj’s and haven’t done anything with my hair. I have a MAN that takes care of his family instead of sitting on his ass claiming to be ill when he just wants to be lazy. I have a MAN that loves my family and they love him.
I have a MAN that is and always will be better than you. And you….you have no one but yourself….and that’s the worst punishment of all.
Post # 9
Aww you are strong.
I would just tell my ex Im sorry for you. Im sorry you got married to try and spite me. Im sorry that 3 days before you got married you told me that you wanted to be with me, that what you did was the biggest mistake of your life. Im sorry for your wife.. If she only knew. Im sorry that your life isnt what you pictured it. Im not sorry that I tried to push you and make you a better man, I hope that helps you in some way. I wish you well but stay the hell out of my life!!
Post # 10
Thank you for using me to try and get over your ex, and I hope the two of you are now happy in your dysfunctional, co-dependent and frankly creepy relationship. If you hadn’t strung me along for months begging me to come back from my time abroad while cheating on me with her the whole time, if I’d found out even a week later, I’d be home and probably still putting up with your, and her, bullshit. Instead I stayed in this wonderful country to heal my broken heart & met the man of my dreams in the process. You had the girl of your dreams the whole time you were with me, it’s just a shame she wasn’t me. I hope you’re able to live with yourself, and I hope you realise that what you think is love is obsession, and what you think is healthy is not. Despite it all I wish you the best.
Post # 11
wow girls. ooof! (hugs) and a *high fives* at the same time.
letter of a different flavor to my ex:
You were a super duper nice guy. I’m sorry I never loved you like you wanted me to. I’m sorry that I wasted 3 years of your life thinking that I’d come around and it would work, because in my heart i knew it never would. Thank you so much for supporting me and helping me through that patch in my life and I know you thank me for doing the same for you. I hope and send you lots of wishes that you will find a perfect girl for you soon and get married and have lots of babies. You’re an awesome person and you deserve it.
Post # 12
I can’t believe I held on so long to someone who was so obviously abusive. Does your new girl know about your temper?? About all of your emotional cheating and all your lying? Does she know you left bruises around the neck of your last girl? Does she know the way she is going to be treated if she hangs around? Does she know you are still living at home…. and almost 30??? Does she know your mommy still cleans your room and does your laundry? Does she know she will have to bust her ass because you can’t keep a job? Does she know you will most likely tear her down with your words almost every day of your relationship? Does she know what she is getting herself into???? She must not… if only I could show her emotional scars.
Post # 13
I have a letter for my ex to post here and finally get it out of my head but I’d rather do it when I’m not laying next to my Fiance lol… I’ll be back tomorrow for this long overdue vent! =D
Post # 14
thank you. Thank you for filling my life with you with empty lies. You try and say “I made you stronger” BS. I made my self stronger. Go away with you’re cheating life. you may have never cheated on me but I’m sure you have on others since me. Have a great life. You douchewaffle
Post # 15
you thought i was stupid when you hid the whisky under your breath. remember the gps for work was linked to the house. i knew where you were. i knew you were with her all night. when your checks came in and after an 80 hour week we could barely make rent i knew you were not really working. you thought i was so nieve and stupid but i wasnt. i knew. and knowing how you treated me and our daughter only makes us better. you may have “won” the last custody case with 50/50 custody but wait. next year we go back. i own a house.. im married and i have TWO jobs. you have one, still live with your mother and that drug charge? ya still on your record.
we both came from broken single parent homes but my daughter wont. she has a daddy that loves her and its not you. not with you “working” at night and sleeping all day. not with you making you old dying grandma take care of a toddler. when i found out i was pregnant i did the right thing. i gave you a chance. i gave you a chance at being a daddy and a man but you turned it away for some slut.
you knew she was dirty, you were friends with only about half the guys she messed with. i tried to be nice to her. where did she leave you now? with nothing. when i left and you had to move she left too. she went for someone with money and that wasnt you.
when my daughter leaves my arms to go with your mother she cries for me and my heart breaks every time. she dosent cry when she comes back to me. she is never sad to be going with her mommy. i know you dont feel the heart break and pain i feel because you are never there for her. you said to me a long time ago you wanted to be her daddy and be there for her but where are you now? i wish for just one visit, just one,, that you could feel the pain and sadness i feel. knowing that my weeks is precious and always coming to a close. even the day she comes home i am sad because i know that 7 days is not enough, i know she will go back to your moms and all of my hard work potty training and raising her will go to waste and then when she comes hom i will be starting all over again. i want her all the time. not just every other week. you have never been a dad, only a sperm donor.
i will never expect a cent of child support. i never did in the beginning. the only reason my daughter had anything was because of my mother. the mother you forced me to abandon when she needed me. i have 2 people to blame for her death. her husband and you. if i had been there with her, she would have been stronger, she would have left him sooner and she would still be alive. its your fault shes gone. i hope your fling and lies was worth all this.
woo damn that felt good…now if only i could give it to him lol. sorry its long i didnt realize it was until i re read it.
Post # 16
Wow, we all really needed this thread! Great therapy!