Post # 1
Hi ladies, I have a question. What are some things that you did or are doing to focus on improving your life while you wait?
For those of you who have a set timeline, has the approaching date changed the way you think about taking care of yourself? I’ve read some women on here talk about walking or re-evaluting the relationship if the deadline comes and goes. I’m sort of in that boat I think.
I think no matter if you have a deadline or not, taking care of yourself is a great distraction from the waiting and generally makes your relationships better. So hit me with some ideas! lol
Post # 3
I joined a book club!!! And Im focusing more at work to get promoted to make more money for wedding and to buy a house
Post # 4
I’m really just focusing on work/finding a better paying job and paying off my debt.
Post # 5
@hawk1: I’ve been putting more effort into work…taking initiative, etc. I like my job and appreciate the great feedback I get on a regular basis. I’m not sure of your situation, but finding a job you’re happy with is a healthy focus, if you’re not there yet. Whether that be a career change, department change, goal establishment, classes to improve skills.
ive also made it a point to meet up with friends/family on a regular basis (without SO). I like having my own social life, and then it’s another thing we can talk about. Plus it’s nice to spend time with loved ones. 🙂 esp my brothers kids (love my cute nieces)!
Post # 6
I got a LOT out of reading Last One Down the Aisle Wins: 10 Keys to a Fabulous Single Life Now and an Even Better Marriage Later (horrible title, but fantastic book!), which is all about taking care of yourself and becoming your best you, regardless of when/if you get a ring.
While I was waiting, I focused on getting out of debt and starting to save, building up my friendships and family relationships, deepening my faith, and taking care of my health.
Post # 7
I’ve been focusing on work… but just recently I decided i’m going to take a class on crocheting at Joann Fabrics. I also joined a bible study, read in my freetime, and go to the gym five days a week.
I’m also in the same boat as you when in comes to a timeline. It hasn’t changed the way I take care of myself. If anything, I’ve added activities/ clubs so that I spend less time thinking about the approaching date. I don’t plan on “walking out” or breaking up with my SO once the deadline hits, but I’ve decided that I will move out. We currently live together and I don’t feel that’s necessary if he continues to drag out a committment.
Post # 8
I was really focused on work and I did a fitness bootcamp. It really made me feel good because I had more energy and was better focused at work, and then my body looked fabulous. SO (now FI) could barely keep his hands off of me!
Post # 9
@SunshineGirl10: I understand the timeline thing, I dont know that I would break up with my SO. I mean he is the man I want to spend my life with afterall lol, but I will be re-evalutating if the timeline comes and goes. In my situation, we don’t live together, but I have a kid so I want to be engaged before we take that step. He’s moving out of state for work in 6 months. We’re supposed to talk about me going with him, but he knows I won’t do that unless we are engaged. He’ll be doing training for work for about 9 months once he gets there. So we’ve decided our main options are I go with him when he leaves, or wait and join him in 9 months. Whether we decide my child and I will follow him or if we decide to be apart for 9 months and then re-evalute, either way I feel like an engagement should happen before he leaves. He’s military and we’ve already been through a 7 month deployment together, it sucks but I know we can do it. I know we could make it the 9 months, but honestly after 2 years, a formal engagement would sure help me not lose my mind those long lonely months. I could be busy wedding planning lol. Then we could get married and I could move there..perfect scenario lol.
anyways, I love all of these ideas! I’ve already started losing weight and getting back into shape. I’m going to look up that book, it sounds really helpful. I also love the idea of focusing on work, saving money, and improving my relationships. Those are all things I could do better. you ladies rock!
Post # 10
Started learning how to knit last night haha cause i’m an old lady lol, thought it may be able to fill those little bits of extra time with a cool scarf instead of the madness that is ‘Waiting” 🙂
Post # 11
Im just going to school, working, and living my life. =)
We don’t have a set timeline, he sat me down to see how I felt during the holidays last year. We set up an account to save for the wedding but I just look at it as another savings account.
I’m just taking it a day at a time. I travel, I try new things. I think its important not to focus on it. I’m having too much fun too focus on it!
Post # 12
I’m focusing on work and trying to get myself promoted.
Post # 13
I started taking Pilates classes, and I started spending more time with friends. I also stopped asking for my SO’s opinion about my decisions so much… If I like a pair of shoes, I’ll wear them for me, not him.
Post # 14
I’m trying really hard to lose wieght and grow my hair. Also lower my blood pressure! Try to get in top tip shape for a wedding one day and then I’ll be healthy enough for cooking babies 😀
Post # 15
OH!! Had to add on to my original post….I also joined Weight Watchers at work today. Wanna loose 10 pounds so that when its time to dress shop, Ill look good!!!
Post # 16
I’m going to graduate college with a dual major special education and elementary education! 🙂