(Closed) What are you doing with kids at your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We are having kids at the wedding, but only family kids, which will be about 8 of them aged 3 – 9.

I decided not to go with a babysitter b/c I know most of the kids would escape and want to be at the party with their parents. 

I’m doing a kids table, which will have their parents at an adjacent table.  We have little gift bags for the kids with coloring/activity books, colored pencils (I avoided markers), little puzzles, army men, and some other little toys.  I went to Party City and found the aisle with the birthday party favors and got some great deals!  I figured each new toy would buy us another 5 minutes of the kids being occupied.  Most of these kids were at my bridal shower and they were suprisingly well behaved, they even helped me open gifts! 

I might have a little chat with my one niece about being good.  She sometimes throws tantrums and instigates things with other kids.  I think I’ll talk to her at the rehearsal and tell her how good she is being and how happy I am that she is being a great flower girl, blah blah blah!!

I can’t imagine my wedding without my nieces and nephews.  I can’t wait to see my brothers dancing with their little girls standing on their shoes!

Post # 4
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

There will be no children at our wedding, with the exception of those in our bridal party. Our famliy dynamics are similar to yours. Where I  am from “adults only” receptions are the norm, whereas that is virtually unheard of where my fiance is from.  We have had to be very open and honest with everyone to make sure they understand that children are not invited. Some are okay, some are not. But we are sticking with our decision.

Post # 5
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

No kids here, and that seems to be the norm around here. However, my venue has long docks on the water with no railing plus open bar, so absolutely no kids will be allowed! It’s really a major safety issue.

Post # 6
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we are having 6 kids (ages 7-12) at our ceremony and reception, but only because they are in our wedding. those are the only exceptions i can make. i didn’t feel right asking them to be a part of our wedding and not inviting them to the reception (although i think that’s ok if you can make it up to them another way). that being said, they are very well behaved. i will not have a sitter. i am going to have a table just for them (they are all girls) and include fun activites and stuff. i’m sure they will partake in the dancing when we get to it, so i’m not too worried.

Post # 7
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re going to have about 14 between the ages of 2-17. Most of them neices and nephews. Kids at weddings is the norm around here. I’ve been thinking about setting up a kids table where they can go color, do word puzzles, etc.

We never thought of not including kids but our ceremony is outdoors and our reception venue is kid friendly. It actually has a separate bar area. There is also a little lounge area with a tv so if parents wanted, they could have their kids watch a movie or cartoons.

If we were having a formal wedding at a much fancier venue, we may have considered not including kids.

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