Post # 1
I’m curious to hear what ya’ll are getting your family members for Christmas and the holidays – particularly your SO’s side of the family. It’s my fiance and mine’s first Christmas together since getting engaged, moving in together, and combining finances, so it’s also pretty much the first time that the gifts are from the both of us. It’s been tricky! I understand that this will vary depending on how much money you make, personal preferences as to how much to spend, etc. but I would still love to get some ideas. 🙂
Post # 2
We buy jointly for everyone too since we got engaged. On his family we bought for his mum, his dad, his mum & dad (a cheaper gift), his grandma & her partner. His Mum we bought a nice perfume (with a cool bottle, she loves that stuff – of course it smells good too) and an art deco bowl; his Dad we bought a bottle of whiskey and are giving him a very old book about the Old West history since he loves the Old West, it was in the belongings of my grandmother we were going through over there and no one else wanted it plus I had someone who would love it (FFIL). For his parents each year we give them a calendar (before we got engaged I would buy them the calendar and it would just be from me), each year it has been more art based which is more what my Future Mother-In-Law likes but this year I bought a Western calendar when I was in the US.
For his grandmother and her partner we bought a humorous book about interviews with comedians on life, etc and a Willow Tree Figurine – ‘Anniversary’. For his sister we got a ‘galaxy necklace’ (a cheaper one from etsy) and a spa voucher since she has had a rough time lately.
I prefer to get something people want but his family tend not to give each other ideas as much, especially not as in advance as I like to get Christmas gifts, so we had to think of things they would like. We are usually very successful though luckily! At least as far as we know, they may hide it really well if they don’t like it!
Post # 3
DH and I got his mum a sparkling peridot choker necklace and his dad crystal oval halo cufflinks which are stunning!
Post # 4
We buy joint gifts kinda… I’m buying theatre tickets for a few people though because my husband won’t want to go. I also crochet things and am making a mermaid tail blanket and a shawl for Christmas. His parents are also getting a wedding album from us.
So, we decide together what we are getting them, but usually I buy more for the ladies and he buys more for the guys because he knows them better.
Post # 5
his mom.. A few Alex and ani bracelets and my yearly tradition to her, VS flannel pajamas. His dad.. work clothes as he just lost a lot of weight. His aunt.. 20 pairs of socks (I was going to get her an iPad, but she insisted she wants socks lol). His niece.. Who is 9 months old, 5 pairs of onesie pajamas that are just so cute!. His siblings.. Nothing, the siblings don’t exchange gifts as they have such a big family!
Post # 6
we do joint gifts. his brother is getting a signed football, his sister in law gets a painted portrait of her and my future brother in law of them as Ariel and Eri . His dad a ski trip, his step mom a tea sampler, his mom a gift certificate to a Peruvian restaurant near her, his step dad is getting a tool kit.his grandma a tea kit as well.
Post # 7
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
I made Mother-In-Law a fleece blanket, Father-In-Law a box of fresh baked bagels from NY (they used to live there and he misses those bagels!), and SIL a sign with how many miles from Yankee stadium she is for her NY themed room.
Post # 8
We got his parents and my parents both a 2016 calendar from vistaprint with a different engagement pic for every month, and we put everyone’s birthdays in it and the wedding date and wedding events too 😛
Post # 9
This is our first year buying jointly, too! We are getting (yes getting! My side of the family is basically done… FI is a slacker) his mom a nice table cloth with matching napkins and napkin rings, for his dad we’re getting a nice bottle of liquor, and for his sister we’ve so far gotten an infinity scarf which she asked for and a cute bag. I want to get something else but I don’t know what. They don’t spend holidays with extended family so we don’t have to worry about anyone else.
I got some things just from me for my mom, but we are also getting her and her husband a popcorn maker, popcorn, and various topping. We got my dad and his wife tickets to see Star Wars with us and a Star Wars ornament. My sisters are little so we got them tons of stuff- it’s too easy! And my brothers are middle school aged so I put him in charge of their gifts. I think they’re getting GameStop gift cards. We got my grandparents personalized beach towels because they are spending all of February in Puerto Rico!
Post # 10
All of the siblings (and spouses) go in on a gift for DH’s parents. And, each of his parents get something – it’s not a combined gift. I think they are getting my Mother-In-Law a candy thermometer, and regular cooking thermometer and a couple seasons of Big Bang Theory. I believe my Father-In-Law is getting something hunting related.
They dont’ buy gifts for each other – the siblings. But, the newphews (we have 4) all get stuff from the siblings and their spouses. At first, it was just godchildren, but there are only 4 so it’s not too bad. We usually get the boys clothes.
My sister and I still buy gifts together for our parents. Sometimes it’s a gift for both, or else we do them separtately. They are so hard to shop for. My DH and her BF will be listed on the gifts. My mom is getting a new crossbody purse, clutch, and a scarf. My dad is getting new car floor mats and a framed panorama pic of a college championship football game that him and I went to back in 2014.
Post # 11
We don’t have joint finances and don’t usually purchase joint gifts. Purchasing for his family is easy, his mom will get a heated blanket and a season of podcasts, and his sister Alex and Ani bracelets and a few Banana Republic goodies (sweaters scarf and belt). I usually go shopping with my guy to purchase gifts for family; my mom thinks he knows her style so well. Yea, no it’s me😀
Post # 12
We still do separate gifts for our parents. I really focus on his mom and his dad’s girlfriend though. His mom is getting a pretty box with a scarf, candle, artisan soaps, and then snall bottles of flavored olive oil/balsamic vinegar and small jars of jam. Melded together her love of smelly things and food haha! His dad’s girlfriend is getting a cutting board that has 2 horses and short phrase burned into it.
SO is getting my parents a really nice bottle of wine that’s made local to us. I get my step dad whiskey every year. Mom I go a bit crazy and spoil her (well within my $100 budget) but I make it stretch! Immersion blender, Ott light, large candle, sweater, Dvd, coloring book & colored pencils
Post # 13
DH is Jewish, and his family doesn’t really celebrate Hannukah (they’re not big on gifts in general…even for birthdays), so we usually get them a small, joint gift. Usually something food-related, like a nice gift basket or something like that. We don’t buy anything for his brothers.
Post # 14
Ugh, I did so well with completing my Holiday shopping on Black Friday and Cyber Monday (100% online!) but the gift for SO’s parents is the only remaining thing I need to figure out. We bought a house together this year and moved-in together so I assumed we’d do joint presents to mine and his parents – wrong. When I asked he kept saying “I think I’d prefer to keep separate gifts still,” saying “it will be more special” – no idea what that means…
LY I got his parents some cool consumable gifts from our city; we have a speciality coffee shop and a historic moravian (religious) settlement in town so they received special coffee, moravian cookies, and a moravian star orniment for the tree all in this cute little gift basket. He got my parents speciality bourbon from his hometown.
This year – no idea! It’s hard because they buy anything they want for themselves and I can’t do a repeat of last year (unfortunately!)
Post # 15
Last year, we bought for his mother and stepfather, father, and sister. We did not buy for his older brother and & wife because…well, yeah, that’s too long of a story to get into, but they aren’t the best people in the world, so no gifts for them. We have been doing joint gifts since our second Christmas.
This year, his entire family decided to do Secret Santa instead of exchanging small gifts amongst all of us, we’ll instead get one person and get them a really nice gift. I got one of my sister-in-laws, so I bought her a purse and two large jar Yankee Candles. If my wedding photos are in on time I’ll frame a nice one and give it to mother-in-law, but other than that, I am not exchanging gifts with the in-laws moving forward. We are all really liking this Secret Santa thing and I don’t think we’ll go back to buying small gifts for everyone. I also gained two nephews and a niece when I married my husband, so we bought his two nephews toys and then for his niece I went on eBay and stocked up on bows for her hair (she has an insane amount of hair).
In the past, I’ve gotten his mom and stepdad metal coffee tumblers, their favorite ground coffee, and some specialty biscotti or cookies. His dad always asks for the same thing: Waffle House Gift Card. DH and I got my parents a kayak as part of a thank-you for all they did for us before our engagement and then during the whole process leading up to the wedding. However, it was kind of an early Christmas gift as well, so they aren’t really getting anything. In the past, we did joint gifts: towels for the two bathrooms, a gift card to their favorite restaurant, etc. DH’s first Christmas with me he got them a George Forman grill, which they use all the time!