Post # 1
I want to start out my saying that I love my bridesmaids! One is my sister, 2 are my cousins and 2 are my best friends from college, however, after reading ideas to get bridesmaids, I feel like people are spending an OUTRAGEOUS amount on bridesmaids gifts..So far, I have gotten a necklace (about $40), sunscreen, chapstick and nail polish all in a beach bucket (It is a beach wedding). I keep reading about people giving designer clutches and jewelry to their bridesmaids and I feel bad that I am not spending enough. Many people are stating that they are spending $100 + per bridesmaid which would be $500 if I did that. My sister (who is the Maid/Matron of Honor in the wedding) was the first to tell me not to overspend because the type of girls that I have in the wedding would not even care. Thoughts? What are you getting your bridesmaids?
Post # 2
hill42: I only had 2 bridesmaids, but I got them each coach wristlets, gift certificates to sephora/VS, emergency kits and I made them custom earrings to match the necklaces they received when I asked them to be in my wedding party. I sewed macaron coin purses as earring holders and my girls loved everything. Since I only had 2, I was fine with spending a bit more on them, but neither of them expected any gifts (they didn’t pay for shoes, dresses, hair, make-up, accommodations, etc). I think in the end the bridal party just wants to know that their friendship with you comes first, anything more is just a bonus.
Post # 3
hill42: I spent just shy of $100 on each girl (4 of them) but I based that on what I know they’re spending just to be IN the wedding plus the additional events they’ve help host – shower and bachelorette. I did give them small thank you/hostess gifts at the shower ($15 each) but their gifts for the wedding are:
- Small initial bracelet off Etsy – $16 each
- Coach clutch on sale AND from outlet – $50 each
- Flask w/ travel size of our favorite liquor – $20 each
- Small nail polishes – $8 each
They’re all getting the same items but in different styles and colors to better suit each individual girl. But I know these girls, they would happy with much less. This is just something I wanted to do for them and felt I could afford it (but I also started shopping for them early which helped out).
I also bought their wedding day earrings but with rewards and a gift card, I spent $5 each basically. I’m also paying for their hair to be done if they want it – but 1 has elected to do it herself.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I am giving mine the below
*Alex and Ani bracelets
*tote bags with their names.
I have far too many to spend any more money. 7 bridesmaids is a lot
Post # 5
I had only my SIL as Maid/Matron of Honor, and no other “official” bridesmaids, so I knew I wanted to splurge on my SIL.
However, at my bachelorette party, I gave my nine girlfriends gift bags with cosmetics and a candle (total probably around $15 each), and wrote them cards when we got engaged. My SIL gave each of us bright lipsticks and sunglasses at the bachelorette, so I’d say between the two of us, probably $25 worth of bridesmaid gifting.
For my sister in law Maid/Matron of Honor, I gave her this necklace from tiffany: arrow pendant, and my mom had pretty silk floral robes for herself, me, Maid/Matron of Honor and MOG, which we wore to have our airbrush makeup done (gift from my mom.) I knew I wanted to spend around $400 on my sister in law’s jewelry, and I’m glad I did.
I knew having only a Maid/Matron of Honor would save me money on attendant gifts. I would not have spent that kind of money if I had multiple, and I think around $50 per gal is appropriate, if possible budget wise. Gifts are not required.
Post # 6
Now I feel like I’m being really cheap. But all budgets are different, and that’s okay!
I have 4 girls, and I got them each a satin robe for getting ready in for about $18. I plan on paying for the tip for the 3 of them that are getting their hair done. My MOHs, who are pretty broke, I bought their dresses (which they picked out and love) and paid for one of their hotel rooms. And I’m not sure if any of them are paying for their own rooms, actually (yay parentals).
Post # 7
my girls really arent spending anything to be in the wedding because I purchased the dresses and as far as I know there are no bridal showers or parties planned, so all I’m doing is paying for them to get their nails done and buying them a necklace amd matching earrings and they will have personalized champagne glasses at the reception to keep
Post # 8
ladyamalthea: Same!! I love my bridesmaids, don’t get me wrong, I just don’t see spending an arm and a leg on designer things. I think they would be upset if I spent a lot being that they know how much we are spending out of our own pockets on the wedding. I don’t know what else to do!?
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Winslow House
I am giving my 4 maids the following:
* A custom robe ordered from Etsy
* Canvas boat bag from Lands End with their monogram on it. (they were more affordable than LL Bean)
* Pearl earrings and gold bangles (from Target) to wear on the wedding day.
Super simple but things that they will use….. hopefully 🙂
Post # 10
My BMs paid for their own dresses, and I had my wedding Out of Town, so they had to pay for a hotel room for 2 nights. They also hosted a bridal shower and bachelorette for me, and were all around wonderful and supportive throughout the whole process.
So, I paid for dress alterations ($80/bm), hair, makeup, $100 spa gift certificate, and pashmina’s to keep them warm in the evening of the wedding.
Post # 11
hill42: I mean, they’re not standing up for you for the presents, they’re doing it because they love you (: I don’t think more than a small gift, sincere thank you note, and not being a bridezilla is necessary to show them they’re appreciated. Of course extra things are nice though. I just had a thought that after the wedding I’d like to give them each a photo in a nice frame.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
hill42: do something personal. My Maid/Matron of Honor is very hippie (not hipster….like actual organic, live off the land kind of hippie) so for her, I will likely get some organic supplies.
my other bridesmaid is a gamer so it will likely be an xbox live card or something like that.
Shop for them like it’s their birthday…it means more than generic things
Post # 13
I spent just over $100/bridesmaid but I was also engaged for 15 months & bought little presents here and there – not just all in one shot. So over time it sort of accumulated!
My “thank you” bags included a Coach wristlet in one of our wedding colors ($29/ea from the outlet with a discount coupon), a pave diamond necklace from Kay’s ($49/ea on sale the day we bought our wedding bands), purse hooks ($5/ea the topper is a heart shape so I thought they were cute & useful) & personalized yoga pants (~$20/ea from a woman on etsy who put their first initial in rhinestone on the hip).
I probably went a little overboard but it didn’t feel like it was a huge expense since I bought several small things over the course of my engagement. It was just so hard to not be excited & buy little presents here and there for my bridesmaids!
Post # 14
Commenting to follow. I am a ways off in solidifying gifts, but right now I’m thinking: mismatched robes for the morning of…and that’s about it for now. There are other things I will be getting them that don’t count as their gifts, but I plan on getting everyone something different.
Post # 15
Commenting to follow as well. I am now feeling cheap given what I was thinking – but I do have a year to figure it out.
For those of you getting your girls robes to get ready in…where are you all getting ready? That might sound likea ridiculous question, but I’m really not sure how that is supposed to work. I am from the Boston area originally, but my wedding is in DC (where I live now). All of my bridesmaids are up in Boston. Do people get ready in the bride’s hotel room?