(Closed) What Are You Most Looking Forward to When You Get Engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers:  Oddly enough, I’m not looking forward to the engagement so much as starting our life as a married couple.  The engagement is just a step on that road.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I don’t think I’d be actively looking forward to anything.  If anything, getting engaged will be such a sigh of relief…that I know my SO is 100% committed to forever with me…that others no longer have to express feelings of pity when they ask about our relationship and then say “your time will come”…and yes, as silly as it sounds, I like having confirmation in the eyes of society (or at least my social circle) that I am “worth” it (to those about to jump down my throat, no, I’m not looking to marry just anyone).  It sounds sooo anti-feminist, but it is what it is.  Different strokes for different folks. 

 

I’m not looking forward to wedding planning…I’d rather just skip that stage and BE married!

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@NYMango:  I actually agree with you. I am so tired of all of the questions and comments about “when will it happen?”. It will be such a relief to get people off our backs. I also get a lot of comments from married friends about what is “wrong” with him and I am hopping that getting engaged will make then see that I really am choosing him- faults and all, and he me.

I am also really excited about the ring! I can’t wait to wear it!

It will also be so exciting bacuase I was ready before him, to see that we are finally on the same page on publically commiting ourselves to one another instead of just doing so in private.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Fireflysushi:  THIS!

 

I want people to see how serious we are. Just calling him my boyfriend makes it sound like our relationship isn’t that serious

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I think I’m looking forward to for sure knowing that Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to make that commitment to me 🙂 and then actually making that commitment.

It’s slightly different to knowing he’d like to be with me forever, which I do feel confident about atm ^^

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I am looking forward to not having to call him “boyfriend” which is so high school on a couple in their 40s. Also look forward to planning a small wedding but ultimately excited about getting to wake up with him every morning and go to bed with him every night.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m looking forward to being able to tell everyone and share how happy I am – SO and I are already booking things so we’ve already started that bit of business, but I’m SO READY to be able to share the news! With someone other than him or my mom. Ha.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m looking forward to “genuinely developing the already established love” we have and the engagement (and subsequent marriage) will prove to me that he is seriously committed to building a life together.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Similar to what other people have said, I want to know that he feels about me the way I feel about him. I am much more vocal than he is and have no problem expresisng my loving feelings. He’s quite shy and less affectionate in that way, so to me, the proposal and getting engaged is his special way of showing me just how much he loves me in a language that means something to me (for those of you who have read or listened to the 5 love languages). 

 

Since we will likely have a pretty long engagement (due to finances), it’s also about being able to start slowly wedding planning. Nothing major like booking venues, but even just being able to share pictures with each other about things we like and would want at our wedding. I know many of you do that already without being engaged, but my SO isn’t quite ready for that yet, and might not be until we get officially engaged. 

 

Lastly, my SO and I don’t live together, and while my family is pretty modern and open, his is more traditional (so much so that I’m not allowed in his bedroom at his parents house – despite being together for over 3.5 years and in our mid 20s). So I think, and this might just be an assumption, that when we get engaged his parents would feel more comfortable with that sort of thing. 

Post # 12
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m looking forward to the engagement to start planning the wedding.

Post # 13
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1339 posts
Bumble bee

Being able to plan a wedding and getting a husband and some sense of normalcy. Being able to have kids.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Looking forward to my extended family taking the relationship seriously (my immediate family is totally supportive, but I come from a meet and get married in 1 year kind of family – they don’t understand why we’ve just been living together for so long).

 

Looking forward to not just calling him boyfriend.  It doesn’t sound like we’re serious and doesn’t really describe our relationship.  I wish there was a way to say “serious as in we practically act like a married couple but we’re not quite engaged yet boyfriend” in one word.

 

Planning the wedding and all the other events!  I’m excited to get in planning mode.  I love DIY stuff and am really excited to work toward making our wedding day special.

 

And of course just moving forward with our relationship.  Taking all the love, faith, hope & support that we’ve already established and entering a new chapter in our lives together.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers:  I’d say the ring lol. I don’t really think much will change when we get engaged and marry. We also will likely marry (elope) quickly after we get engaged. I am looking forward to the stability of marriage, I guess. It just feels more permanent even though it’s not like anything will really change, if that makes any sense.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

So I don’t feel so crazy for having an account on this forum and talking about marriage/weddings. haha. 🙂 also someone on the thread mentioned not using the term ‘boyfriend’ anymore. I agree I dislike this, I’m 22 and I feel like the term is so outdated sounds like you’ve been together for 3 weeks or something not 5 years. 

 

also it’s just that sense of ‘forever’ and that commitment and just building on the life we have together <3

 

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