- 8 years ago
-Not having a bridal party (only exception is FI’s daughter, I wanted her included)
-No traditional officiant, my bestie got ordained for the occasion
-No mother/son, father/daughter dance, just too awkward
-No cutting the cake moment (cupcakes only, no feeding each other)
-No garter/bouquet toss
-No wedding favors, this will cause chaos in my family. We’re Italian, and those damn almonds have haunted me from childhood, I despise them.
-Probably no ceremony music
-No heels, I’m 5’7″ so I’m decorating my own flats so I don’t have to special order a longer dress (seriously wedding designers? I am not that tall)
-No cocktail hour
I have to admit, this is an encore wedding for both of us. I learned and am not telling most people of the exclusions because I don’t want to listen to it. I have very traditional family, and they won’t like it one bit, but they’ll deal the day of.
We strangely are probably doing a seating plan because most people coming don’t know eachother at all, and I don’t want my old co-workers mixing with my aunts and tormenting them with awkward conversation.
One piece of advice I can offer, I skipped the recieving line at my first wedding. We thought we could quickly go around table to table to say hello. This took my entire reception and was a horrific chore (there was about 100 people last time). I am absolutely having a recieving line to hurry people up so that way they can’t talk my ear off with 20 people in line behind them(we’re only having 40 this time). If you are having a small ceremony, and no one would be offended if they don’t get face time, don’t do the line. If Uncle Bob will get pissy you didn’t specifically say hello to him (and you care), or if you are having a large wedding and feel obligated to speak to everyone, then do the line, spend your reception having fun instead of saying hello.