(Closed) What are you NOT having for your wedding.

posted 10 years ago in Traditions
Post # 77
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

No flower girl, no bouquet and garter toss, no big obnoxious dance party.. to name a few.

Post # 78
1395 posts
Bumble bee

At my wedding, there will be no:

  • Real flowers, whatsoever.  It was a cost-cutting strategy.
  • DJ or any sort of musician.  Just recorded music and my uncle MC’ing.
  • Separate processionals for bridal party and bride.  We’re all coming in to the same, long song.
  • Garter/bouquet toss.  Fiance is very private, sexually, and pulling my garter off in front of his grandparents would mortify him.  I also don’t want to give my bouquet away and there aren’t any single people coming, really, besides children.
  • Bell ringing or any of this insta-kiss crap you guys speak of.
  • YMCA, chicken dance, and certainly no mother effing Cotton Eye Joe!!!
  • Readings during the ceremony… we’re trying to get this show on the road!
  • Personalized vows.
  • Receiving line.
  • Open bar.  I know, I know.
  • Engagement party.
  • Bachelor/ette parties.
  • Rehearsal dinner.  Just the option for everyone to go out to eat after the rehearsal and pay for themselves (the Future In-Laws are probably paying for the reception, instead). 
  • Fiance and I staying away from each other until the ceremony.  Simply not feasible.  We’ve gotta be together to set up the reception and our pictures are before the wedding.  We will do a first look after we get all dressed up, though.

Post # 79
40 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

No bouquet/garter toss. The garter was never on the table, and I realized those of my friends who are still single would probably thank their lucky stars not to have to catch another bouquet (we’re 28 and up.) 

We are doing a receiving line for the reason jesyka55 said, and because it’s important to my parents. Seems easier to me than going to tables. 

No matching bridesmaids dresses–letting them pick their own

No grand entrance–just not appealing to us

No requests to the DJ–he is my cousin and we gave him a list of acceptable songs and all the MP3’s : ) 

No “not seeing each other before the ceremony”–we’re taking photos before.




Post # 80
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

we’re leaving out:

veil, tux(or suit), traditional bridal music, flowers, receving line, rings, church, send off(bubbles, rice, whatever), silly tradition of groom not seeing bride/her dress until walking down the aisle.

Post # 81
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

we are leaving out…

garter/bouquet toss

receiving line

dollar dance

no church/ synaguge

tradition of couple not seeing each other


send off

identical brideamaids..i gave them lots of freedom for what they liked

and no bachelor/bachelorette party 

Post # 82
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Will do bouquet toss because my single friends would murder me if I left it out, but i REFUSE to have that awful Beyonce song during it.

No garter toss, mainly because the idea of my Fiance fossicking under my dress infront of my entire family horrifies me to no end.

Also no kids in our bridal party and no rice etc.

Post # 83
17 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

some of these things I had never heard of until starting to search the internet; dollar dancing, glass stomping, all kinds of stuff…  so I might not have named it but we’re not doing it.  LOL

Post # 84
6 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are not having:

bouquets or boutonnieres

flower girls ( only a ring bearer)

garter/bouquet toss

cake (cupcakes, but no cutting ceremony)

Dances with the parents

traditional walking down the aisle music

champange flutes to toast ( beer steins instead)


I think not having many of the traditions make your wedding more your own! I can’t wait!

Post # 85
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wish STRONGLY to leave out alcohol, but all these uptight old european men would be clutching at their pearls and enduring fainting fits if they had to go to a function sober…I won’t be having a bridal shower/bachelorette party and Fiance doesn’t plan on having a stag or bachelor party either. I will most likely be cutting the cake before any of the food comes out and will welcome everyone to partake in dessert first if they so desire.

Post # 86
14 posts

Love this thread.  Glad to see I’m not the only one skipping a lot of  the traditons.  I’m curious though, how are Bees are going to ensure the no clinking of glasses.  I really do not want that but how do we prevent someone from starting it?  How do you “suggest” it not happen?? We’re not having toasts either. 

Post # 87
6458 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why are so many people against having alcohol at their weddings?  Is it for religious reasons?  

Post # 88
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not carrying a bouquet nor doing a toss, not wearing a garter.

No wedding party processional – best man and maid of honor will be in place already, and beau and I are walking, my dad will play a song for us to walk to on piano.

No recessional – the party starts immediately after we’re pronounced married. So there’s also no introductions into the reception.

No official dances of any kind. We’re musicians and we’re just going to play music all day. If folks want to dance, that’s cool, but beau and I are playing a song together instead of a first dance, and pops and I will play a song together, then the three of us and whoever else will continue playing music all day.

No cake, so no cake cutting.

So seating – the reception is in a bar/music venue.

No planned speeches or toasts. If they come spontaneously that’s cool.

Post # 89
47 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Things I do not want:

Bridesmaids and groomsmen

Flowergirl and ringbearer

Bouquet toss/garter toss

DJ/musician (Ipod all the way!)

Traditional ceremony music

bride/dad and groom/mom dance

No electric slide, YMCA, chicken dance

No bachelorette party or bridal shower

No religion

No flowers (except maybe my bouquet)

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