Post # 1
So we are going over our budget and I’m just thinking of all of these things that we aren’t including, and probably are not going to make an “offical” part of the budget so it looks like we spent less. These are the following not included:
Dress,shoes,hair/makeup,tux,gifts for wedding party,valet parking,tipping,bridesmaid brunch,jewlery for me,DIY decorations for the bar,and probably a few other little things…
This is coming to like $4000 worth of stuff I’m not including-a lot of it is paid for but if I added it to our offical budget, well, the number would look insane…and I still feel like I don’t have enough. Does anyone else feel this way? It’s really overwhelming and stupid that I keep thinking we need to spend more and more to have a good wedding. GRRR. stupid style me pretty.
Post # 3
Haha. I know how you feel! I definitely had the dress in my budget though. That’s a big part of it.
I didn’t include buying all those little samples of invites. Or any DIY thing that I ended up NOT using, I didn’t count. I don’t want to know how much I spent on all that.
Post # 4
we have like 8 different budgets going. i have a full budget with EVERYTHING that we’re buying, because i’m curious how much the wedding will cost. then i have one that i’m not including the things that people are gifting me, like my dress, shoes, jewelry, alcohol, etc, because that’s how much it will cost for us. and then my fi is keeping track of only things that my parents have paid for. they offered us a certain amount and if we don’t spend it, we keep the rest. so what they don’t pay for, we get to keep after. but a lot of things we just have been paying for, so my fi isn’t really counting that as our budget for some reason because it’s already gone and paid for… he’s more worried/excited about the money we’ll be getting.
Post # 5
We aren’t including BMs and GMs gifts, shoes, jewelry. Kind of any of the little stuff we just randomly buy!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
The following aren’t included in our budget:
1. BM/GM gifts
4. Probably a million other things that I didn’t anticipate.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Oh, By The Way, @flamingred – If you’ve got any leftover decor stuff that happens to fit our colors, maybe I’ll buy it off of you! 🙂
Post # 8
My parents are paying for the wedding but wanted me to just give them a list of all of the expenses after the fact. I am not including our rings, honeymoon, wedding party gifts/bridesmaids’ hair, candy buffet (because it was an extra that I wanted to add), and tips (I feel like that is my thank you to our vendors).
There’s lots of little stuff that I have just paid for throughout the planning too. I feel bad giving a list of $5 here and $20 there, although I’m pretty sure that’s how budgets get out of control sometimes
Post # 9
My parents are paying for the wedding at a “set budget.” So, my budget is my budget! 🙂
OUT of the budget:
I’m paying for the photog because there is no way catering and him fit together 🙂
I’m personally just taking care of little things as time goes on because frankly, I don’t care 🙂 I’ve paid for the cake toppers, garter, my shoes, and i’m sure more of the “little doodads” that have to be bought.
Our budget is percentage wise from highest to lowest
- Catering / food&drink / service
- Reception Venue
- My look / dress, veil, hair and makeup
- Church / church fee’s
- on the same level: Cake and DJ as they are gifts from friendors
FI’s mom is a florist and she want’s to do all the flowers and buy them too. so that is “out of the budget.”
Post # 10
I planned on being totally honest with myself on my budget (afterall the only one looking at it was me!). But I ended up not saving any of our receipts from the honeymoon and I just generally ignored the whole thing after the wedding. The numbers were too embarassing/mortifying. I thought we were having like a $5k wedding, and after all was spent and done, that wasn’t even close!
Post # 11
I’m being honest with my budget and because of that we didn’t have room for a professional photographer and we asked my Future Sister-In-Law to shoot the wedding (She’s an artist/art teacher/photo teacher) so we’re paying for her hotel room and flash so she’s about $500…. wow did that save the budget. :o)
Post # 12
I included EVERYTHING. Soup to nuts: dress, suit, shoes, shirt, tie, honeymoon, rings, party, license, shipping on returned items, lipstick that didn’t work out … everything. But it was our budget, we chose it as an appropriate amount to spend and were committed to it. I kept an excel spreadsheet throughout the process, which really helped to keep me honest. Knowing that I would have to document the cost and subtract it from my tiny budget really helped to keep me in line when I was drooling over some perfect little must have.
But did we go over? Sigh, yes. We went over by 520$ when we added an afterparty with friends. Even so, I am proud of our budget / money strategies….I posted about them on the money board (“money tactics — money strategies”) because our process really helped us clarify our wedding priorities and keep us on track to achieve our vision.
Post # 13
* Attendant gifts
* Those random things like guest books, programs, Save-The-Date Cards and the like that you buy at random. I’ll probably end up buying those and not bothering to put them on the special wedding credit card from the parents.
Post # 14
My mom is paying for the wedding and she is including EVERYTHING in our budget spreadsheet, including all the clothes for herself, my stepdad, and my brothers. I bought my own veil and she put that in there too. So the budget is more tracking what gets spent on the wedding than a guideline, but it will be nice to see what the final total was and for it to be pretty accurate! Still, I think when we say we went “over budget”, it won’t mean quite the same thing as people who don’t include every little thing!
Post # 15
Like previous posters, I divided up our budget into several categories just to keep tabs on things and get a better perspective on costs as we planned. But I also had the “Big Daddy” budget tracking along the way.
All those little things that I purchase for ME (hair accessories, jewelry, shoes, bra, lingerie, etc.) I pretty much scratched from our Budget. We were engaged for almost 2 years so I had a long time to sort of ‘collect’ a lot of little things.
I also did not include our rings into the wedding budget. The rings were purchased almost 1.5 years before our wedding so, by the time the wedding came around, that purchase was long forgotten 😉
Everything else was included. However, I will say this. In the 2 weeks leading up to the wedding, we ended up spending a lOT of unaccounted for money with unexpected expenses that just sort of add up. SO be careful what you choose to leave off the budget just for good feelings 🙂
Post # 16
I am not including anything that we consider “life-long” investments and not just the wedding day investment, such as:
- wedding rings
- photography albums (the cost of the photographer for the day-of is included in the budget, but the album will be our Xmas gift; and the cost of the parent albums will be their Xmas gifts)
- Marriage Prep/Pre-cana
- some aspects of videography (similar to photography)
- Shoes (as we will wear them again)
- His outfit (as he can wear it for work)
- Anything I expect to sell or donate (for a tax write-off) afterwards (taking into consideration deprecation, such as silverware that we will buy and then resell probably here on Wedding Bee, etc)
- Flowers that will stay in the church (because that is a tax write-off as well)
I have an overall budget, and then items gifted to me I take into consideration and adjust the budget I get to work with 🙂
I’m using weddingwire.com’s budget tool, which I really like, I just wish they allowed for such “multiple budgets”
We are, however, making sure that those other items we are not including we can still afford to our daily living budget (as we stick to a budget all the time).