(Closed) What are you paying for when it comes to your bridesmaids?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My girls paid for their dresses and shoes. I paid for everything else.

Post # 4
2634 posts
Sugar bee

I bought their dresses.  I told them to wear any silver shoes they wanted.  I’m paying for them to get their hair done.  I’m also giving them a few small gifts.

Post # 5
2237 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m going to sound horrible, but nothing except for their gift.  But my man of honor is a mary kay consultant and is doing everyone’s makeup and I’m not even getting my hair professionally done, so all they need to really get is a dress and shoes.

Post # 6
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

My girls paid $150 of their dresses and wore silver shoes that they already owned or purchased some.

I paid for their jewelry (this was not their gift), for everyone to have their hair done, and $20 of the dresses (I wanted it to be an even $150).

Post # 7
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I picked out an inexpensive dress that they purchased, let them wear their own shoes (anything that went with silver), bought them each a different but coordinating pair of fancy earrings and was going to pay for 1/2 of their hair but my Mom swooped in at the last minute and paid for it (that Goodness!). Whew!

I have also heard of a lot of bees purchasing the Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns, I never considered doing that it would have been waaay too expensive. Their dresses ended up costing less than the GM’s tux rentals. Go figure.

Post # 8
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My BM’s paid for their dress, shoes, makeup, and hair. So you really shouldnt worry about it!

It was up to my girls where they got their hair done (I had a girl coming to my house to do mine but she wouldnt have time to do theirs) and I was having my makeup done so they had the option of getting theirs done too while the makeup artist was at my house.

Really everything didn’t cost that much for them. My Maid/Matron of Honor did her own hair and my Bridesmaid or Best Man went to her own stylist. Makeup was about $50.

Dresses: $109
Shoes: $45

I paid for their necklaces and earrings. I also bought them sunglasses to wear during pictures. And I bought them tank tops that said Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man (to wear at the shower, bachelorette party, etc… Plus their gift. So in reality, it didnt cost them THAT much.

Post # 9
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

2 out of 4 dresses – for the 2 coming from across the country




Post # 10
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My bridesmaids paid for their own dress (I just told them to choose something darker brown), shoes (most had some already), hair and make up (I didn’t even get mine done professionally, but the friend who did mine helped a couple of the girls with theirs). I did make them some jewelry as a gift, which they had the option of wearing that day (some did, some didn’t). Our wedding was pretty low-key, though.

From what I’ve heard, it’s pretty standard for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses, though I’m sure it’s nice for them if the bride does pay. I wouldn’t worry about being seen as cheap, though.

Post # 11
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I paid for half their dresses (so they only paid for $70 out of pocket), but they paid for shoes (I had no requirements, but they bought new ones), hair and makeup. I didn’t require hair and makeup either, but they chose to do it.

Post # 11
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I paid for…nothing Embarassed. They bought their own dresses (I made sure they were okay with the price), they’re paying for their own hair/makeup if they would like it done, and I told them to wear any silver shoes they have or want to buy. I”m not even giving them jewelry as part of their gift (but they ARE getting a gift!).

Post # 12
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010
Post # 13
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We paid for their dresses and told them to wear whatever shoes and jewelry they wanted. I really don’t understand the custom of asking people to be in your wedding and then making them shell out money for what you want them to wear. Totally backwards, but I guess that’s traditional. They had the option of paying for hair and makeup or doing it on their own. And we also gave them small gifts. We didn’t want our wedding to be a financial drain for our best friends, but wanted them to enjoy the celebration with us, so that’s what influenced what we paid for.

Post # 14
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My BMs paid $89 for their dress and they are wearing any kind of shoes they want since the dress is long. I’m paying fo thier make-up at $50 each and bought them all a matching clutch at $26 each.

You guys think that’s enough or should I get them an addiitonal gift?? Oh and if any of thewm wants to stay in the hotel with me the night before the wedding I’m paying for the suite, too.

Post # 15
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

 I was just a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding… I paid for everything except jewelry, but hair and make up were optional… So we really only had to buy a dress and shoes. (we could wear whatever shoes we wanted though, so I snagged a pair for $15 🙂 ) I chose to get my hair done, but not make up. I wasn’t expecting the bride to pay for anything and I hope my BMs don’t expect me to pay for them!!!

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