Post # 1
Fiance and I regularly attend a church. We know the pastor of the church (who happens to be one of my mom’s clients, so he sort of knows the family). Because he is a friend and we are members of the church, we didn’t even think to ask about cost for him to officiate.
Well, I have been in communication with the pastor’s assistant and she just told me there is a 600 dollar mandatory honorarium for him to do a wedding. That seems absolutely outrageous to me. She says it doesn’t matter if you attend the church or not, that’s just the cost. I thought that usually it was a voluntary donation for a religious official to officiate the wedding?
What are you paying and what kind of officiant are you getting? is 600 too much? With the wedding so close, I need to make my decision ASAP!!!!! *freaking out*
Post # 3
The voluntary donation for a religious official to officiate the wedding is in reference to whether you should tip them or not. There is usually a charge for their services.
Post # 4
mine is $500. he’s free for members of the congregation, but yearly dues are around $1k.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Maybe it’s your location or the particular officiate? I’ve seen $200+ fees, but $600 does seem high. I would think that it would be a reduced fee for church members, but I guess it’s up to the pastor and how he values his service or how well he knows you. The tip is pretty much expected (I always thought, per etiquette) and is usually $75+ and not included in the base fee.
Post # 6
the church we go to is HUGE and i am guessing the reason the fee is so high is so the whole entire church doesn’t ask him to do their wedding? i bet he doesn’t want to be booked up every single saturday of his life….
Post # 7
Ive never heard of a Pastor asking for a fee! All you are required to do is TIP & feed them.
FYI A way around this is to get a friend or family member to go online and become a Ordained Minister. Then you get a wedding kit and can perform the Ceremony. Its more personal, and tipping them would be a bonus 😉 $200 seems more than fair.
Post # 8
Wow, I’ve never heard of that. THat’s pretty crazy.
My fiance’s best friend is officiating our ceremony. He was ordained with Universal Life Church Online and he only had to pay twenty bucks to get the certificate. We’ll have to pay a small fee to process the paperwork in the county we are getting married in, but it will be under $50 for him to perform our wedding.
It might be something to check out for you! 🙂
Post # 9
WOW! We are paying 150 for our officiant! 600 sounds crazy.
Post # 10
Mine is 150$ with a donation to the church
Post # 11
600 sounds outrageous! But I dont know what to expect since we havent started that process yet! Is it because its New Years Day?
Post # 12
Our rabbi is $500 and our minister is free… but considering he is my dad I would hope so!
Post # 13
Before we decided on our friend, everywhere we looked was between $100 and $200.
This must be one special guy! lol
Post # 14
Wow…$600 seems high. I thought they were typically $150-$200.
Post # 15
@brideatthebeach yes, that’s a great idea! maybe then i could get my dad to do it!
Post # 16
@heatherrobyn: nothing! FI and I qualify for a self uniting marriage lic. in PA because I’m buddhist. We don’t need a third party to marry us. However, we are still getting my best friend to read the ceremony.
PA doesn’t honor those ordained online unless they have a following and meet on a regular basis. Sucks. But yay for self uniting!