Post # 1
I have been struggling with how much more expensive it is to get married than I thought. Granted, we live in Fort Lauderdale, and are getting married at a resort that has a rooftop gazebo overlooking the ocean, and to the right you can see all the way down A1A that is the main road running along Fort Lauderdale Beach, and of course, the water and hotels go on for miles.
Then we are having a cocktail hour on the back “porch” of the hotel, which has a few hundred feet of private beach that it faces. So you can take about 50 steps or so and be in the water.
Our reception will be on what they call the “veranda.” It is a covered area on the same private beach with an area for a dj and bars.
We are paying $105 per head before 6% sales tax and 22% gratuity. We’re expecting about 40-45 people. We will have 4 hour open bar (i had to negotiate this, it did START at $130 per head with 4 hour top shelf bar and I said that people can get just as drunk off grey goose as they can Absolut, so that shaved quite a bit off) including the cocktail hour with passed hourdeurves (sp?), salad, sorbet (I don’t know if that’s necessary), choice of 3 entrees, and since they are not providing my wedding cake, then there is apparently not a dessert included. My wedding cake will serve as dessert but it’s not included.
I think I thought it would be $70 or $80 per head. Am I paying too much? I keep trying to tell myself that the place is so beautiful and unique that it’s a good price. But it still makes my stomach lurch a bit:)
What is your price per head and what are you getting for that price? And where is it – as in area of the country…I find that very interesting b/c I’m from Louisiana and a VERY nice wedding there is $80 per person, so that’s where I got those numbers from. I couldn’t get married in anywhere here for that, which took some time for me to accept!
Post # 3
Your venue sounds amazing! Based off your description I would say that you are getting a great deal! I would say if your worried about the cost but don’t want to change your venue, I would look at your guest list. Is there anyone on it that your iffy about? We went with this choice and agreed on 25 people. This was a tough descision but ultimaltly we are sharing our marriage with the most important people in our lives.
Anyway, I’m on the opposite coast, in Oregon. I think weddings tend to be cheaper in the NW but I’m not sure. We are getting married at a hotel in Downtown Portland and paying about $100 per head for 4 different appetizers, a new york steak (chicken and fish options will be about $85 per head), for the children and the guests that don’t drink, a full non-alcoholic beverage service or three premium cocktails/beer. Alcohol is the touchy area, to keep the cost down we are choosing to stock the bar with only a few types of alcohol and ‘recommending’ drinks so that we don’t run over on our bar tab.
I think your fine! It will be a great time and worth the money!
Post # 4
Wow. We’re paying about $25-$30 a head for buffet for 150…but we are hiring a culinary college. That’s also before tax and any gratuity, and also without cake and alcohol.
Of course, we are also at a NON-all-inclusive venue, meaning that I’ll need to hire my own bartenders/DJ/coordinator and pay to rent the space. And the fact that we’re at a community center in Tulsa, Oklahoma makes it quite a bit cheaper, too. Guess it’s like comparing apples and oranges….
Post # 5
About $110 per person, includes brunch buffet, semi-open bar and nonalcoholic beverages, wedding cake, tax and gratuity.
Post # 6
I think it’s pretty darn fair!
We are paying $145 a head and getting 1 hour open bar for cocktail hour, two plated and three passed hors d’oeveres, soup or salad, surf and turf dinner with starch and vegetable, champagne toast, wine service during dinner, and our cake. It also includes our linens.
This is in Southern Maine.
Post # 7
My reception is at a hotel and we are picking 2 dishes out of their ‘dual entree’ plates to offer with salad and soup and bread etc, with 4 hour open bar, premium liquor, 5 hot or cold butler passed hors d’Oeuvres, champagne or asti spumante toast for everything, we have the ballroom until 1am even if we don’t extend the bar and we are getting 3 free rooms to use anytime that weekend and a special room for the bridal party to use during cocktails for the guest. They do not provide the cake so we are bringing one in, and they do not charge to cut it. Our total cost per head is about $73. We were offered incentives to book when we did, so depending on which one we choose, we may get some $ off that cost and if I decide to not use the ‘provided’ florist that allots me $35 per table in centerpieces that will also come off that $73. I can see why you think your cost is a little high, but that may be due to location or time. There were a few places I looked at where their prices were close to what you’re paying and didn’t even include half of what I’m getting now.
Post # 8
sounds very fair to me. also, amazing and beautiful. i’m completely jealous. we received a great deal…$90 a head w/cake, centerpieces, tax & gratuity included. most places in the philadelphia area start at $125 a head with out the extras we are receiving. it helps that we shopped around, are having the reception at a restaurant, and are having the wedding on a friday night.
Post # 9
That sounds about right plus it is Florida at the end of the season, but still in season. Do cupcakes instead of cake and that will cut down some of the add on expense because you won’t have to pay for a cutting fee.
I think that’s actually right where people have to pay nowadays because you haven’t factored in the music which raises the actual cost pp. for your wedding. But for what you are getting, it is a good deal. Price pp depends also on what you get for that dollar. You are getting alot so you can’t compare your price pp with someone else’s in Fort Lauderdale. It may cost less, buit they get less. And that your venue was willing to work with you on price, you got yoruself a good price for a fantastic menu and beverage plan.
A plus for shopping!
Post # 10
lol, i grumbled about paying $30 per person! but that’s because i am at an all-inclusive resort where we eat for free all day every day, but for weddings that charge you for the meals! i can almost understand that, but i don’t understand being charged for alcohol during dinner when its available unlimited all over the resort!
to the OP, your wedding sounds pretty fancy though, so based on where i am from (big city), that sounds about right. i would have even guessed a little higher for all that!
Post # 11
$120 per plate, includes venue, 6 course meal, full open bar and sweet table
Post # 12
To OP…I am a little farther north than you (Melbourne) and we are paying about $34 per person just for the caterer…that does not include the facility rental, drinks or cake. After I figured all that in, we are paying about $55 person. We are having our reception in a clubhouse on the beach (Pelican Beach Clubhouse) for about 60 people. I think a couple of things that are saving us a ton is we decided to do heavy hors d’oeurvres instead of a 3-course meal and we are not serving liquor…just beer, wine and soda. I am happy with it though. 🙂
Post # 13
We are paying $32 a head. Granted we are not having an open bar and wedding cake is not included in that. It is a served meal, though they don’t get a choice of the entree. If we did decide to give them a choice of 2 entrees I believe the price would be $42 a head. This is a little outside of St.Louis. Hors d’oeurvres are also be served ‘complimentary’ of the venue, though I’m sure we payed for those somewhere in the cost of reserving it.
Post # 14
Based off what you are getting, the venue and location you are getting a good deal!
Post # 15
Sounds about right… But I am so excited to see another Fort Lauderdale Bee YAY!!!!
I live in Boca and will be having my wedding their too but it’s nice to know there’s more people on here in the area. I have an amazing photgrapher that is sooooo resonable with prices I can send you pics from our engagement and my calendar shot and give you her info if you private message me, that may help with your budget. And my cake is only $250 for 85 people (3 tier) a lady in Palm Beach Gardens is doing it I can send you her info.
I am only paying $33 pp but that’s because it only includes the food (3 types appts, buffet, chicken, steak, veggies, rolls, salad and top shelf open bar. But you have to remember I still have to rent chairs, linens, everything my venue offers nothing it’s not a traditional venue so I am doing everyting a la carte. I got a great deal becuase I am a mega bargain shopper and the company just started the catering biz they used to only do bartending services so I caught them before they got the big head. Now their prices are higher.
Point being when you book A.) on the beach B.) at a hotel you will always pay at least $89pp. And you rprobably don’t have to rent chairs and linens do you? (for me that’s another $500) So don’t feel ripped off you have a luxurious venue!
Post # 16
We got our dream venue with a Winter Discount and Sunday Discount as well! So that took us from $100/person to $75/person with a 75 guest minimum! PERFECT! I love that I am saving so much and still getting my dream wedding!! =) And that is all inclusive, free flowing wine, champagne and soft drinks, coffee station, cake, buffet/sit down meal, ceremony, pianist, tent reception, centerpieces and choice of color linens!