Post # 46
We managed to get a really good deal on our photographer who is a friend of a friend and new to the area and so was trying to build up business when we first engaged her. I have recently checked her prices on her website and if we booked now they would be double what we are paying. I am also planning on making my own favours to save money and am thinking of scrapping the band we have hired (we also have a DJ) to save around £800.
The one thing I have spent a lot on is the flowers as I love flowers and think they will make an impact on the day. I have designed them such that the centrepieces can be lifted off of their stands at the end of the day and given as gifts to certain key family members as they leave so they can still be enjoyed after the actual wedding day (and don’t go to waste). I have also made sure that a few of our centrepieces will be used in the ceremony room to try to get as much use (and value) out of them as possible.
Post # 47
I think all of that is so over done. I so agree with you, not doing that either!
Post # 48
Flowers & favors. Opting for silk flowers because they are cheaper and who really notices? Also decided NOT to do favors…waste of money and I don’t think anyone will miss them.
Post # 50
we’re not having:
cars… like what is the point, we already own 2 cars that we have to pay a bomb for (insurance, tax, gas, finance etc…) and no one sees them, they’re in the church when the car pulls up but its a huge expense
veil… ive never understood wanting a tutu on your head but if thats what people like then fully go for it but when I found out they charge like $300+ for a hair accessory
cake… we are having cake but I dont get spending a fortune on some grand design, ours will be a plain white iced, 2 tier chocolate cake… at every wedding ive ever been to we have NEVER been served cake, in fact only 1 couple bothered cutting it and that when I asked them to because they fogot lol
alcohol… I know american’s are strang with this but here pay bars are completely normal and expected and alcohol is alway the first to be dropped from the budget… let people get pissed and make arseholes of themselves on their own dime
photographer… we aren’t having one so expensive for something we would barely ever look at
Post # 51
do you have pics of the snapsuits?
Post # 52
No bridal party (this has been the single best decision in a million years for us and is going to save us thousands)
Using FI’s car as the bridal car – it’s a fancy black sedan so why not!
Flowers – I have a stunning bouquet and there’s going to be a large arrangement at our ceremony. Also FI’s buttonhole – came to $350
Second hand – decor (I got enough for my whole reception for $100)
Wedding gown is a vintage from a thrift store then getting it altered – $500
Honeymoon – though it was a good deal
Got really good deals on stationary & favours etc
Post # 53
We’ve cut out pretty much the same!
The wedding will be in Hawaii and the honeymoon will be right after. Only a very small amount of close family and friends will be attending (roughly 15?) and I’ve made it very clear not to worry about coming unless they really want a vacation for themselves 🙂
-no wedding party
-no rehearsals/receptions/catering etc.
-no invites/save the dates
-debating on not having chairs since it’s on the beach and will be 15 min or less ($500 extra for chairs??? Uhh ouch!)
We’re basically only “splurging” on flights, vacation rental, $300 for a small wedding package, the dress, and that’s just about it.
I’d rather spend my money on a vacation then a big glitzy wedding 🙂
Post # 54
Possibly unpopular opinion, but rings for me.
I feel so uncomfortable at the idea of having a house deposit on my finger at any given time, and I’m not even a huge jewellery wearer – I work in aged care, so no jewellery allowed on the hands anyway, and in my free time I like working on traditional art, hands-on and messy. The amount of time the ring is on my hand without gloves on is pretty low. We’re also fairly young (we’ll be 23 and 25 respectively on our wedding day) so it’s just nonsensical to spend that much on a ring when we can’t afford it.
I was proposed to with a tungsten carbide ring that was a little too big, so we’re going to pick out another ring for (ideally) less than $200, and probably around the same for the wedding band.
We’re also skipping the bridal party (we’re having our wedding in our home state so it seems unfair to make people come back and forth constantly to organise things with us), and Future Sister-In-Law has offered to make the cake.
The venue, and the wedding itself. I never saw myself having a big wedding, but particularly as my mother’s health declines, it means a lot to me to have this wedding as (what will likely be) the last big event my family will all attend in full. My memories mean more to me than possessions like rings or dresses (not trying to knock those who do value that, just a preference). I want to be able to have a wonderful time in comfort with the people I love while they’re still around.
I really want to focus more on Fiance and I and our guests having a great day, rather than any of the keepsake stuff. I’ve been to weddings where all the focus was on the bride and guests were left without seats (especially inappropriate with oldies), without food, and everyone remembers the occasion as a lousy time. That’s the last thing I want.
Post # 55
I don’t think we are splurging on anything but we aren’t really reeling in the pennies either, we are only having about 50 guests
Post # 56
Getting married in Italy (from the UK) so don’t feel obliged to invite loads of people and the ones who aren’t excited won’t bother coming either so this helps the guest list a lot! Inviting 70 and hope for 50-60…
having five in the bridal party but will get them dresses from ASOS etc and not £200+ made to measure ones. Might get a hairdresser for them but they can all do their own makeup. Getting them flower garlands for their hair instead of a bouquet which is cheaper and so cute!
A lot of the Italian wedding venues include wedding cake, table linen, table place names, and centrepiece flowers as part of their package, plus a generous drinks package with the dining options.
Found a plain skinny gold band I love for £250.
splurging on dress (£2000max) and hair and makeup. Hope to get a good wedding band as I don’t like DJs. Lots of food and drink for the guests as they’ll have come a long way and we want to look after them 😊
Post # 57
- Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel
The only thing we compromised on was number of guests we decided on having quite a small wedding 50 day guests and 85 evening guests so we could have everything we wanted