Post # 1
Hello again! I’m Lauren Kay, Executive Editor of The Knot. Helping couples plan their dream day is my jam. I’m also wildly invested in all things registry. Every year I test hundreds of products to help people like you when it comes to registering. So, how can I help?
Any myths you want busted? Are you registering for traditional gifts (linens, cookware, small electrics) or experiences (cash, gift cards, cooking classes) or a mix of both? Need ideas? When my now husband and I registered we had totally different ideas for what should be on our list, big time. What are you and your partner having trouble agreeing on when it comes to registering?
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Post # 2
Hello! What would you suggest for me and my FH? After our wedding we will be living in a Trailer home whal he is building our Billion dollar home. But at the Trailer home I don’t want to buy expensive things but want to purchase items that are good quality. I don’t like cheap material and want to spend less money on my things for now. So where should we register our wedding at for the Trailer home? We are waiting to see what type of stores will be out around the time we are getting married to pick items for our Billion dollar home. But up for suggestions if you have any. Thanks.
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Post # 4
My Fi and I are planning to have a private ceremony for just the two of us. It won’t be a secret, and we’ll be publicly announcing the engagement as soon as my ring is finished. However, I’m not sure on the etiquette regarding registries for eloping couples? Is it rude to create a registry knowing that none of our loved ones will be attending our ceremony?
We’re also very interested in adopting a more minimalist lifestyle (not quite there yet). There are certainly some things we would appreciate replacing, like linens, but having the option of adding experiences would fit in more with the goal of reducing what we own.
Post # 5
My best friend is getting married later this year, but she and her fiance have been living together for so long they don’t need the typical items like a Kitchenaid mixer or something. They were thinking about asking for donations for the wedding itself, or even dividing it up piecemeal like some registries do for honeymoon donations. For example, people could put money towards a photo booth (or something like that).
Would this be tacky? I know at the end of the day it’s just money that will go into the same account anyway so what they spend it on doesn’t super matter, but there’s something about saying it’s for the honeymoon that feels a bit weird, like it feels like we’re paying to attend. I’m actually fine with it, she’s my best friend and I’m helping her plan the wedding anyway, but I’m worried how this would go over with guests in general.
Post # 6
Congratulations Castalia! An elopement is still a marriage—a big moment in your lives and the beginning of your next chapter. You should absolutely create a registry. Once you announce your engagement, someone may offer to throw you a party ahead of your ceremony or post nuptials to celebrate your new official status. And even if there’s no party, there will likely be people who want to give you a gift to mark the occasion. One caveat: Skip including registry details on any marriage announcement (should you send one). If people want to find it they will.
I think a hybrid registry is the perfect approach for the modern couple! Seek out meaningful experiences, be it a bucket list trip or a dumpling making class. And then carefully choose products to upgrade your existing things, like linens by Coyuchi, a very environmentally friendly company that uses 100% organic cotton.
Post # 7
Congratulations to your friend! And lucky her to have a friend like you—with great instincts—helping her every step of the way. Outright asking for contributions to pay for the wedding feels a little off—she’s meant to be hosting a party not charging a cover fee. That being said, she can absolutely ask for cash and be a bit ambiguous about how she and her fiance plan to use it. They could include a cash fund on their registry for “newlywed life.”. No mention of a honeymoon they don’t plan to fund, or the photobooth they hope to. I would also recommend asking for a few physical things they may want to upgrade, ideally from a place where they shop often (think Target, Amazon) for guests who may feel more comfortable purchasing a physical gift. They could always return the new towels or cookware and put the gift card toward everyday expenses for their life, like groceries, kitty litter, etc. It won’t offset wedding costs per say, but it would free up some of their budget down the road.
Post # 9
I strongly disagree that it is ever OK to ask for cash or gift cards. In fact, I can’t think of anything less appropriate.
Traditional and liberal etiquette sources are divided on the question of a honeymoon fund. But asking for actual cash or gift cards in any form is a huge and tacky no-no according to any reputable etiquette source. It’s giving cash that is common and even customary in some circles, not asking for it. Traditionalists feel that paying for any vacation, even a honeymoon is the sole responsibility of the couple. Liberal etiquette is OK with a honeymoon fund while warning that some guests won’t want to contribute. Real traditionalists disapprove any registry.
An eloping couple should not register unless they are also planning a delayed reception. It is rude to invite people to a pre-wedding party if they are not also being invited to the wedding.
Post # 10
I love you lol.
Bone up on your Latin. It’s weak. And I don’t think Miss Manners would approve of your suggestions.
Post # 11
My husband and I had a small registry of items, and then we also had a cash registry for people to donate to if they wanted. It went totally fine and two different people commented to me that they loved the cash registry because they really enjoyed giving a gift that my husband and I would definitely use (money, lol!). I think that, out in the “real world,” off of Weddingbee, the majority of people aren’t too concerned about traditional etiquette or what “Miss Manners” would approve of. Most people recognize that the world is changing and that was was considered appropriate fifty or even twenty years ago is going to be different than what is considered appropriate today. I think that couples should do what works for them.
Post # 12
I’m still waiting to hear what the advice is for the billionaire living in a trailer….
Post # 13
You missed the subtle inclusion of what is obviously an advertiser on either the knot/wedding bee!
I think this post needs to include the requisite #ad in it! 😂🤣
Post # 14
I think a rabid guard dog would be an awesome thing to register for. Youd be the odd one out a trailer park if you didn’t have some mangy aggressive pooch sitting out front growling and then it could be seemlessly used as a guard dog to watch them and all their $$$ items in their billion dollar house!! 😂
Post # 15
That’s brilliant!!! Very useful for both homes.