Post # 1
Im a pretty frugal/budget conscious person. I don’t want my friends spending an arm and a leg. Here’s the breakdow…
shoes: just need to be silver
jewelry: silver, bracelet will be a gift
hair done: must, $40-60 (I’m thinking?)
makeup done: optional
nails/toes: currently undecided on a color, doesn’t need to be done at a salon though
What’s the breakdown of expenses for your girls?
Post # 2
Well.. it depends. Do you mean above the cost she’d have to pay if she were to just be a guest, or do you mean it all?
Since everyone has to travel to my wedding, especially my Maid/Matron of Honor (she lives in Toronto; the wedding is in Seattle) she’ll have to pay airfair + hotel if she wants to come no matter what… but, as my Maid/Matron of Honor, she also needs to buy a dress and pay an extra night of hotel in order to attend the Rehearsal. I’m letting her pick her own dress, with 2 color options, but since she doesnt have a dress in either color she’ll need to buy one, so probably ~$100? Then the extra hotel night is about $150… so $250 total.
Post # 3
None. We paid for everything. None of it was their gift – that was separate from wedding expenses. We thought – since we asked them to be a part of our day the least we could do was pay for everything.
Dress: $200/$50 for Flower Girl
Jewlery: $100/$50 Flower Girl
Shoes: Let them pick their own – dresses were long so color didn’t matter.
Post # 4
If you are requiring your maids to get their hair professionally done, you should be footing the bill.
I asked my bridesmaids to purchase a ~$140 dress and to wear silver shoes. Hair, nails, makeup, jewelry were their choice.
Post # 5
I’ve been in several weddings and the bride never paid for my hair. This might be regional.
Technically, hair doesn’t have to be done at a salon if the look can be achieved.
Post # 6
When I got married I got their dress off the rack: regular $120.00 on clearance for $ 70.00 plus $40.00 shoes. = $110.00
I paid for their hair and makeup plus jewelry and gave them a gift. I also paid for their hotel accommodations for the 2 nights.
Thet all lived out of state except one, so they didn’t do a bachelorette party for me or attend or give me a shower gift either. ( except my sister). Airfare aside, I kept their expenses pretty cheap! Haha!!!
Post # 7
0.00…I paid for everything.
Post # 8
My BMs paid for their dresses and shoes. When the dresses came in, they were the wrong colour so I bought them new dresses and am paying for the alterations. I’m also paying for their hair and makeup. I bought them each a pair of earrings, a pendant, a bracelet and a clutch.
They don’t need to have their nails or toes done.
I am working on getting their money back for the original dresses. So, in the end they will have just paid for their shoes ($45).
Post # 9
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. I was under the impression that the bride pays for hair if it is required, but you’re right–this could easily be a regional thing. Your expenses sound reasonable to me, but don’t for get about the cost of your bachelorette, shower, and any hotel expenses. I know you aren’t responsible for planning these events, but these costs add up. Whenever bridesmaids are talking about how much they spent being in a wedding, the shower and bachelorette are always considered part of the total. Just keep that in mind when you’re considering how much your bridesmaids can afford. If it all seems reasonable, then you’re good to go! If I were in your wedding, I would have no problem with the projected cost, unless there is some crazy hidden expense I’m not seeing.
Post # 10
I think the answers will change depending on where you are.
For my girls i asked them to pay $140 towards their dress and their travel (driving 3 hrs for one or 5 hrs for other) and their accommodation. For one its a fair bit as her husband and child are coming and they chose an apartment hotel for the other her n her boyf are sharing with us in the house we rented for the week.
I am requiring nails hair and make up but im paying. Ive baught shoes, jewellry, cardigans etc.
Post # 11
I plan to pay for their dress. We are trying to find something under $125. For hair and makeup, I’m leaving it up to them if they want to do it themselves or have it done professionally. If professionally, I will pay for it. For shoes, nails, and jewelry, they can wear or do whatever they like. I’m actually letting them pick their own dress within a certain color palette. I want them to wear something that represents their style and that they will be comfortable in. I know a lot of bridesmaid pay for their own things, but I’ve been fortunate enough to have been Maid/Matron of Honor twice and both times, I just had to get my shoes!
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s in the budget to pay for the hair. However, what if I gave them each $25 towards the hair? I’ve gotten my hair done at Best Cuts for $40 and loved it. (Up do)
Post # 13
Dress: $140 if they buy standard size, $160 if custom size. Left up to them
shoes: whatever they feel comfortable in except for tennis shoes & flip flops.
jewelry: whatever they want
hair:whatever they want
makeup: whatever they want
nails: whatever they want
I only asked them to pay for the cost of the dress & that had no problem. They are a great group & have been willing to do whatever I want. I am only asking them to pay for the dress but I do know that some of them are buying new shoes, jewelry, getting their nails done, getting hair and makeup because they want to but I’m fine with whatever they want to do.
Post # 14
Dress, shoes, and travel – I gave them free reign to choose whatever dresses and shoes they wanted, just gave them a general color preference. My Bridal Party are all from different states so they’ll be flying in, but will be staying at our place so they won’t have to worry about hotel costs on top of that. I made their jewelry and will be giving it to them as part of their gifts. I’m not even entirely sure I’ll be getting my own nails done (alright, I probably will, I’m just not generally a girly-girl type to do this sort of thing!) but definitely will not require them to do nails.
Post # 15
I’m paying for their dress ($140) and hair ($125). I haven’t thought about nails and jewelery. They are both flying out so they will have transportation and hotel. One is also paying for her children’s clothing, they are the flower girl and ring bearer.