(Closed) What are you requiring of your bridesmaids cost wise?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Total cost

    Under $100




    $401 +

  • Post # 16
    2569 posts
    Sugar bee

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    gatsbymermaid:  All i asked of my girls was to buy the dress. Hair and make up was an option. I gave them the price for my hair and makeup artist and they all told me what they would like to do. The dresses are from DB so with specials one girl paid 174 and another 204 because she waited. So really i am not asking much. Shoes all i said was nice. earings will be given to them and maybe a necklace since they are strapless dresses. 

    Post # 17
    93 posts
    Worker bee

    My bridesmaids paid $170 for their dresses, $80 for bachelorette party weekend, $90 for hotel the night of. I’m letting them pick their own jewlery and shoes and not making them get hair, makeup, and nails professional done.

    Post # 18
    1201 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I don’t agree with making bridesmaids pay significant amounts.

    I chose only 2 bms and I will buy their dresses. They will pay for any alterations, if necessary. They will wear whatever shoes they want.

    Hair and makeup will be done by my family members who are MUA and hairdresser. 

    I don’t want a bachelorette party, but we go on an annual girls trip anyways. So I will pay my own way for that.

    I doubt we will have a bridal shower.

    My maids will have to pay to get to the city the wedding is, but that could cost as little as $20, depending how they want to travel.


    Post # 19
    1767 posts
    Buzzing bee


    Post # 20
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    On the stuff you listed, I think mine came in at $150-$175. Breakdown below. They also spent the money for gas to our city (they’re all from OOT) and hotel rooms for 2 nights (there was no specific hotel they stayed at…just wherever they were comfortable). 

    Dress: $135

    Shoes: Let them choose…just had to be silver

    jewelry: $10 (they chose a pearl set from Sam Moon…but I didn’t really care)

    hair done: They did it themselves…just asked they had a braid in their hair in some way. Also had the friend-date of one of my BMs help them style. 

    makeup done: They did their own makeup

    nails/toes: Didn’t even cross my radar

    Post # 21
    111 posts
    Blushing bee

    They are paying for travel and part of the cost of accommodations (it’s a destination wedding, but we all live in different countries now so they’d have to travel in any scenario). I’m not having a bachelorette or bridal shower. They’re wearing their own shoes and accessories, so they might spend on those if they want something new, but I haven’t asked for anything specific.

    We are paying for dresses (design and colour of their choice within a particular palette), hair and makeup (I chose the vendor but they can have whatever hairstyle/makeup look they’d like), and nails for anyone who wants to get them done. We are also subsidising a large portion of their hotel costs. Basically, I didn’t want them to spend anything more than they would’ve spent to come as a guest.

    Post # 22
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    My girls just have to pay for their dress. I am doing mismatched styles so they have options ranging from $79 to $250, so cost depends on what they want really. I am paying for my flower girls and ring bearers(one is our son) outfits. The parents are all in the wedding party and we don’t want to add to their expenses. 

    I am leaving hair and make up optional, as it’s a cost I cannt afford to help cover. I know some will opt to get it done because thats how they are, but others will prefer to do their own, which is fine. 

    Post # 23
    1073 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Dress $45

    Petticoat $15

    Shoes in either black or red – only one bought shoes, the rest already had them

    Jewelry I made for them.

    I also had two girls rent a shirt and vest and weat their own pants (they didn’t want to wear dresses) I think that was even cheaper than the dress. I got them a tie that was $9.

    They got their nails done if they wanted to. I paid for my Maid/Matron of Honor mani and she paid for her pedi. They all did their own hair and makeup. The out of town (or over an hour away) girls had a room the night before to stay. 

    Since my sister is on a tight budget and one of my other BM’s is a single mom, it was more important for them to be in the wedding than to get expensive dresses. 

    Post # 24
    7531 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Another $0.00 here

    Post # 25
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    I’m letting them pick the dress (i found one I liked that was 270 but didn’t think they should pay that much but they were happy too – but it ended up not fitting nicely) so I’m not sure yet As they are draggin their feet on picking (sisters hey!)

    Hair – 60

    Makeup-60 (in aus bridesmaids generally pay hair and makeup)

    shoes- dont care – buy or what they have, their choice

    jewlery – whatever they have, dont care

    We don’t do showers and the bachelorette party they pay the same as the other guests (usually add up costs and everyone pays a tiny bit extra to cover the bride) I imagine it’ll be $80ish depending on what they pick! 

    Post # 26
    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    To be honest as a UK bee the tought of even asking (yet alone expecting) my BM’s to pay for their dress etc. is an alien and rude concept to me. However I would ask what their max budgets are and try to stick to that. I personally think its rude to let them pay for their dresses, as its your wedding not theirs, they are spending money on a dress they might not like etc. 

    Post # 27
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My BMs bought a $70 dress, and 2 got a hotel room, the 3rd stayed at my parents’ house. They already had their shoes, and did their own hair and makeup. 

    Post # 28
    495 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I would never dream of imposing any costs on my Bridesmaid or Best Man.  I have never been asked to pay for hair/make up unless it was my choice. If bride wants a specific hair style then she should pay. Never paid for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress either although most of the time they were hired by the bride to reduce cost

    Post # 29
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I’m not exactly sure yet. All I am asking of them right now is an $80 dress. Any shoes. Make up done as they please. Hair…I am just going to ask them to do their hair in a bun of their choice and see what they decide. I don’t care if it is professional or not. I would just everyone to have their hair up. Bachelorette party is up to them, and if they would like a hotel the night before is also up to them.

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    Post # 30
    209 posts
    Helper bee

    I paid for the dresses (but they are going to pay for the alterations of getting it hemmed; most were upset that I bought the dress, so it was a compromise! Dress was $50 and hem will probably be $15) and I paid for jewelry.  They all have closed toe nude pumps to wear.  If I can swing it, I’ll get their hair done, otherwise it will be optional.  One bridesmaid is flying in (probably with her boyfriend), but she is staying with one of our mutual bridesmaid friends.  Another is driving in from another state.  I’d have her share my hotel room but I’d imaging she is bring her husband unless he has to work.  She’d be paying for the hotel for 2 nights- possibly 3 (which she swears is no big deal since I had bought an expensive dress for her wedding that got called off!). No one has complained so far.  Trying to make it as easy as possible.

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